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Have you ever gotten or wanted to get unreasonably violent during sex?

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Contributor: PuddlePuppy PuddlePuppy
Have you ever been so lost in passion that it turned violent without reason?
Like it's so intense that suddenly there was slapping, biting, punching, hair pulling, or choking? (All too hard to be considered sexual.)
Am I the only one?
I mean to the point where you are pretty much injuring your partner, not sadism or playful pain.
Or have you ever had urges like that mid coitus?
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    I am personally offended by this
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Slapping
Rayne Millaray , angel142stx , Sir
3
Choking
Rayne Millaray , angel142stx , Sir
3
Punching
Rayne Millaray , Sir
2
Biting
Rayne Millaray , angel142stx , Lady Venus , Sir , Sunshineamine
5
Hair pulling
Rayne Millaray , angel142stx , Lady Venus , Sir , Sunshineamine
5
Other
Rayne Millaray , Forever17 , Lady Venus , Sir , Jon S
5
Total votes: 23 (7 voters)
Poll is closed
08/22/2011
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Contributor: married with children married with children
have never had an urge to hurt my wife. I dont think that passion and violence go together.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Okay, so you're talking about actually injuring someone? No, I have never had that urge. I think any person who has the urge to inflict serious bodily harm on their partner needs help.
08/23/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
This worries me actually. If you don't feel it's healthy, you should consider seeking professional help.
08/23/2011
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
This worries me actually. If you don't feel it's healthy, you should consider seeking professional help.
I kinda sorta echo this... but I don't have enough information. Are you actually DOING these things during sex? If so, do you have the go ahead from your partner(s)? Do you feel like it's unhealthy for you? Are you wanting to do these things with an intent to actually hurt the person?
08/23/2011
Contributor: Southern Lady Southern Lady
Quote:
Originally posted by PuddlePuppy
Have you ever been so lost in passion that it turned violent without reason?
Like it's so intense that suddenly there was slapping, biting, punching, hair pulling, or choking? (All too hard to be considered sexual.)
Am I the only one?
I ... more
I don't believe that it is a normal bodily response during sex, and you might want to consider help if you feel it occurs frequently.
08/23/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
That kind of kink does NOTHING for me. But if it's YOUR thing, well the internet is made for you to find like minded folks.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by PuddlePuppy
Have you ever been so lost in passion that it turned violent without reason?
Like it's so intense that suddenly there was slapping, biting, punching, hair pulling, or choking? (All too hard to be considered sexual.)
Am I the only one?
I ... more
You're in desperate need of a psychologist, before somebody gets hurt.
08/23/2011
Contributor: PuddlePuppy PuddlePuppy
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
You're in desperate need of a psychologist, before somebody gets hurt.
I see a therapist regularly everyone, and no worries, I have never hurt anyone I've been with more than they have wanted.
It's just an urge I get, and one that has been acted on me a few times, but in the moment, I didn't care.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Starkiller87 Starkiller87
I am also worried by this post. Maybe you need a different partner who wont evoke these feelings.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
That sounds like a pretty spectacular night to me. Heh.
08/24/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
I think we might be a bit overreacting. Sex is *intense*. Intense emotions come with it. I've heard about people bursting into tears during sex. It tends to mess with our brain chemistry.

Now having those urges as long as you can control them, isn't so bad. It's just another emotion. Now actually doing them would be an issue, but as for the feeling of it, while I wouldn't say it's something everyone experiences, I don't think it's horribly bad in-and-of itself.
08/24/2011
Contributor: gone77 gone77
Hey, guys:

I want to take a moment and publicly address the original post and the flag on it. While EdenFantasys certainly does not condone non-consensual violence, but we feel that PuddlePuppy (and anyone else for that matter) should be able to address their urges without worry. Now had PuddlePuppy wanted to know if they were alone in participating in non-consensual violence, then yeah, we'd have a problem.

PuddlePuppy - I do appreciate you clearing the air here. And I hope people will remain civil.

Thanks!
08/24/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i think if it's consensual, then there shouldn't be a problem. and since you are taking that into consideration, go nuts! we all got our kinks and we shouldn't be judged
08/24/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
We've never felt the urge to hurt each other during sex.
09/11/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
That sounds like a pretty spectacular night to me. Heh.
I agree.

And to answer the question, I've done all of the above, and more. My fist and cock are sometimes my most powerful weapons. I usually get so into it that it's hard for me to stop until I finish. I prefer giving deep bruises, so yes, right on with the extreme sadism and injury. Mm, so good.
09/11/2011
Contributor: Jon S Jon S
no we dont
09/11/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
Not really no. Some hair pulling during doggy-style or oral and some mild biting sometimes but I couldn't imagine hurting him or him hurting me.
09/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Never without full consent of both parties. We play hard, but it usually stop short of marks. I bruise or two may happen, but we don't get "out of control" with heavy play. I wouldn't actually term it "violence" either. We would never use impact play to the point of a closed fist, but everyone has their limits. Mileage....

To each their own, though. I think if you look back at the Scene and smile and know you and your partner both enjoyed yourselves, more power to you. However, we (my husband and I) do adhere to the "Safe, Sane, Consensual" course of hard play. "Safe and Sane" are of course, variable by couple. Consent is usually pretty obvious.
09/11/2011