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Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
In a relationship, how important do you feel your sexual compatibility is? Is it enough to end an otherwise very good relationship?
For the purposes of this poll I am defining good sexual compatibility as having similar sex drives, being interested in the same kinks/fetishes, having a strong physical attraction to the other person (esthetics only, excluding emotional bonds),etc.
Include below if you feel that there are specific things that would be deal breakers or if you have and experiences that you would like to share.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Very important. If we don't fit together sexually there is no way to make the relationship work.
17  (33%)
Somewhat important. It would deffinatly make things more difficult but we could work together to find a middle ground and get through it.
32  (62%)
Not very important. It would suck but I guess I would have to get over it.
2  (4%)
Totally unimportant. It's only sex, it shouldn't matter at all.
1  (2%)
Total votes: 52
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Contributor: mistressg mistressg
I think an "Other" option would be good. I want to say very important, however, I think that depending on certain things and the people involved you can try to make things work and find a way to make each other happy.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Very important. I need to connect well with someone sexually for me to be with them.
04/12/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Bex1331
In a relationship, how important do you feel your sexual compatibility is? Is it enough to end an otherwise very good relationship?
For the purposes of this poll I am defining good sexual compatibility as having similar sex drives, being ... more
I think it's kind of important. After all the other things are done, sex is one of the most intimate and if you don't mesh there, it's awkward.
04/12/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I think it's very important, BUT even if the sex is not stellar, it can be improved upon if the couple is willing to work on it. That's what's been happening with us. In the beginning sex was...pretty bad....but I swear it's improving by the week!
04/12/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Extremely important to me!!! Though if it doesn't work out as good it is not the end of the world - but I always do my best to have everything as fine as possible... ^^
04/12/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
Not that important, but there is a minimal level!
04/12/2012
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
It's very important. I've noticed we get crankier the longer we go without it.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Jordan B Jordan B
It's important but I think you can make it work. Love is strong.
04/13/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Bex1331
In a relationship, how important do you feel your sexual compatibility is? Is it enough to end an otherwise very good relationship?
For the purposes of this poll I am defining good sexual compatibility as having similar sex drives, being ... more
My current bf and I have different styles in bed (and out of bed) when it comes to sex. At times, it is disappointing that I want to try things when he has no interest in anything except vanilla sex. Still, he treats me well, he respects me, etc. All in all he is a good person, and I'm happy with him.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Bex1331
In a relationship, how important do you feel your sexual compatibility is? Is it enough to end an otherwise very good relationship?
For the purposes of this poll I am defining good sexual compatibility as having similar sex drives, being ... more
I think it's very important.
04/13/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Its the only reason I bother, with anything
04/13/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I think it is extremely important. If we are not sexually compatible, forget it.
04/13/2012
Contributor: FruityCloud FruityCloud
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I think an "Other" option would be good. I want to say very important, however, I think that depending on certain things and the people involved you can try to make things work and find a way to make each other happy.
I agree! :]
04/13/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I find it important, but not the end all.
04/15/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
If I was in a relationship where I was continually sexually dissatisfied and it seemed to me as if I always would be with that person I would not keep up that relationship. Even so, if you love someone they don't have to be a sexual hell cat before I want to stay with them.
06/17/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Somewhat important to important as long as you could work through your differences.
06/18/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
I wouldn't end a relationship just based on sex, but it's definitely key!
06/18/2012
Contributor: indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by Bex1331
In a relationship, how important do you feel your sexual compatibility is? Is it enough to end an otherwise very good relationship?
For the purposes of this poll I am defining good sexual compatibility as having similar sex drives, being ... more
My best relationship of all time is with someone I am not 100% sexually compatible with. I've had 100% sexually compatible but a lot was missing. I need to be attracted to them I need to enjoy curling up in bed with them, but if they aren't perfect but meet my needs else wear its okay
06/18/2012
Contributor: bella8933 bella8933
As a woman with a high sex drive .. it's number 1 in my book.

I am so sick of being with nice guys that were bad in bed,didn't have a clue or selffish or just too darn .. fast. You can't always train a fella.

Noooo never again.

If we don't have sexual chemistry .. it's off.
06/18/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I think it's pretty important. Depends on how much I like the girl.
06/18/2012
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
its important but not a deal breaker
06/20/2012
Contributor: bh253 bh253
I don't know that I could end a relationship over sex alone, but I do think it is very important. In a relationship you work to fulfill each others needs, emotional and physical. You have to have both. Though things can be worked on and improved on over time.
06/20/2012
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by FruityCloud
I agree! :]
I agree, it is not an end all or a deal breaker of the relationship.
06/22/2012
Contributor: Kinky T Kinky T
To me, the sexual compatibility is something that's very important, but it still comes second to a person's personality for me.
06/22/2012
Contributor: remember.me remember.me
Very important and always has been.
06/22/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think it's somewhat important.
06/22/2012
Contributor: wicked weasel wicked weasel
C'mon it pretty damn important...
06/22/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It's more important than I thought it would be. If things aren't going well in bed the conflict can (and usually does) spill into other areas. We had a time of a large mismatch of desires - it took some real diplomacy and patience to get through it.

Soooooo - glad we're over than now!
06/22/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
It is very important.
06/22/2012