The New Intimacy

How many times a week are you & your partner "intimate"?

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Contributor: VHolley VHolley
Intimacy refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together.

Intimacy varies in every relationship, so we want to know just how lucky you get a week...this includes foreplay and/or sexual intercourse.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
0 --- I'm lucky if he even looks my way!
henglish , Hannah Savage , usmcwife99 , Pleasure Piratess
4
Once
MildOats , Pleasure Piratess , Onanist
3
Twice
VHolley , Wrecked-Czech , Jimbo Jones , Liz , spicywife , Kristy Hostetler , Gunsmoke , Luscious Lily , MuffysPinguLove , Hannah Savage , Pleasure Piratess , Kayla , Alegria , Lady Venus , asdfg , sexysweetieshan , misslady , ToyTimeTim , Kiwi , Trishcuit629
20
3x
throuthehaze , Femme Mystique , Two2Tango , Yoda , Sanjay , Dame Saphir , RadRach , Alegria , The Nakanas , Harpina is gone
10
4x
Fun Lover , tim1724 , hornymommy , Dame Saphir , OhMy! , sbon , Lover of Leather , Harpina is gone
8
5x
Airen Wolf , givemeadayjaime , NaughtyButterfly , Valyn , ArmyWife Kira , hornymommy , Selective Sensualist
7
6x
NaughtyButterfly , Kaijah , Sir , Victoria , Liz2 , Gary , emme37 , ArmyWife Kira , hornymommy
9
7x --- I'm lucky, I get some ALL week!
Airen Wolf , Oggins , NaughtyButterfly , Raven , Kaijah , Alan & Michele , Danzig ate your mother , sarahbear , Destri , Saraid , hornymommy , EffinSara , usmcwife99 , P'Gell , Alicia , TheSexista , PurpleBerry , moonch1ld , Xavier7 , potstickers , Apirka
21
Total votes: 82 (67 voters)
Poll is closed
06/26/2009
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Contributor: VHolley VHolley
Quote:
Originally posted by VHolley
Intimacy refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together.

Intimacy varies in every relationship, so we want to know just how lucky you get a week...this includes foreplay and/or sexual intercourse.
Each week varies depending on how tired I am from dealing w/kids & how tired my husband is from work. I know it is at least twice a week when he is home...Gosh this deployment needs to end already!
06/26/2009
Contributor: Wrecked-Czech Wrecked-Czech
Lately it's been about twice a week for my wife and I. She is near the end of her first trimester with our unborn baby, so hopefully our sex life will pick up soon. Before she got pregnant, we were engaging in sexual activity 3 to 4 times a week on average.
All that said, before she got pregnant she would have an orgasm about once every 5 times during sex, and now it's once every 3 times. I guess I can cope with less often if it means better sex and more orgasms for her when we actually do it!
06/26/2009
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Wrecked-Czech
Lately it's been about twice a week for my wife and I. She is near the end of her first trimester with our unborn baby, so hopefully our sex life will pick up soon. Before she got pregnant, we were engaging in sexual activity 3 to 4 times a week ... more
Awww congratz! I'm in my second trimester..barely and ya the orgasms aren't quite as frequent but man o man are they intense!

My husband and I are very intimate with each other putting a premium on touching,kissing and spending time together watching favorite programs and sitting very close ect. Though we don't have full on sex every day it is still very frequent.
My other life partner currently lives in Canada, while we are in the US so it's a two hour plane ride to visit. We are still very intimate and spend as many hours as his schedule will permit on Skype. We do all the things you do when you are in a long distance relationship and for now it works. Makes it hard sometimes but we are all working toward a day when we will be in the same house, though same country would be wonderful LOL.
06/26/2009
Contributor: DreamyLove DreamyLove
Wasn't there a similar poll like this recently?
06/27/2009
Contributor: VHolley VHolley
Quote:
Originally posted by DreamyLove
Wasn't there a similar poll like this recently?
I don't know. I'm new here.
06/27/2009
Contributor: givemeadayjaime givemeadayjaime
We do it quite often. We are, after all, young'uns of only eighteen. You know how we folks are at that age
06/27/2009
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Quote:
Originally posted by VHolley
I don't know. I'm new here.
There was - it's broken down by age. You can use the search bar on every page to search the forums, too. It's helpful so we don't get too many similar threads. (=
06/27/2009
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
Quote:
Originally posted by DreamyLove
Wasn't there a similar poll like this recently?
I actually like this one better. The one that's done out by age groups is kinda all over the place. Plus there was already an age demographics poll.
06/28/2009
Contributor: VHolley VHolley
Quote:
Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
I actually like this one better. The one that's done out by age groups is kinda all over the place. Plus there was already an age demographics poll.
Aww thank you!
06/28/2009
Contributor: Raven Raven
We have some kind of sexual activity every day, unless one of us is sick or too exhausted for some reason, but that is not very often. I think the fact that we have no kids may contribute to the frequency.
06/29/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
Quote:
Originally posted by Raven
We have some kind of sexual activity every day, unless one of us is sick or too exhausted for some reason, but that is not very often. I think the fact that we have no kids may contribute to the frequency.
I think the fact that you have no kids *definitely* contributes to the frequency, this is especially true for those who have younger kids (babies, toddlers). We sometimes hit "two days in a row" but that's not too often. Two or three times a week is average... but having a kid adds a different set of cards to the mix. It's definitely possible when you have kids!
07/05/2009
Contributor: VHolley VHolley
Yes, Kids do change things. My husband & I usually wait until the kids are asleep but sometimes by then one of us falls asleep as well. LOL. Weekends offer us plenty of time because then my husband is less tired
07/06/2009
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by VHolley
Intimacy refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together.

Intimacy varies in every relationship, so we want to know just how lucky you get a week...this includes foreplay and/or sexual intercourse.
I do a lot of traveling and that interferes with the 'average' - but i will say that absence does make the heart grow fonder. What we lack in quantity we make up for in our typically explosive re-acquaintance love festivals.
07/27/2009
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
We average about 2x a week right now. That said, we only see each other on weekends, so that works out to about once a day...
07/27/2009
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
depends when my gf is over, only a couple times a month.
11/19/2009
Contributor: ArmyWife Kira ArmyWife Kira
Quote:
Originally posted by VHolley
Yes, Kids do change things. My husband & I usually wait until the kids are asleep but sometimes by then one of us falls asleep as well. LOL. Weekends offer us plenty of time because then my husband is less tired
Yea, kid's make things more difficult. We are lucky to have kids that go to sleep without trouble at 9 every night. That gives us AT LEAST an hour to be alone. It is tough though because we don't usually get into it and do alot of foreplay because we really want to have time to do other things with our no-kid time. Luckily, my husband is off on Mondays...our oldest son goes to school and our youngest still takes naps so we get some time for some afternoon delight! lol! We are planning on having another baby next year so that will change soon though.
11/19/2009
Contributor: Saraid Saraid
If we're counting oral, which is seemed to me you are, 7x per week. If not, about 5x per week.
11/19/2009
Contributor: hornymommy hornymommy
I selected anywhere from 4-7. We don't live together anymore and it's hard to find time with a baby, so I feel very lucky.
11/21/2009
Contributor: Dame Saphir Dame Saphir
It all depends on how our week is going. Usually at least twice a week, sometimes just two, sometimes 3, 4, 5 times. It just varies.
09/03/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
With My Man and I, it's about 6 to 14 times a week. Once in a while we skip a day, but usually once or twice a day.

Just had a "Train wreck south of the border" (as My Man is referring to it) a UTI, followed by a yeast infection from the antibiotics. YUCK. I went SIX DAYS. (He got BJs along the way, so it wasn't as bad for him. No reason for him to suffer, because I was out of commission.) I was about to go on a rampage, but I was in so much pain from one and then the other, I couldn't. I decided, despite some residual burning to go at it last night. Oh, my.......wonderful.... Sometimes you don't really appreciate something until you have to go without. Not that I don't appreciate it, but, DAMN. I really appreciated it last night and this morning. He fell asleep early tonight. Probably best to give it a rest.

In a week or less, we'll be back where we usually were.

Not to mention, I have new toys to test.
09/04/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Well I didn't really know how to answer. The first part made it seem like intimacy was about closeness and I would consider cuddling and kisses and hugs and stuff intimacy of that kind. I don't consider those things foreplay though, which is what the second part asked for. So, I answered every day because we "make out" every day with some hugging and kissing and we cuddle with each other daily but it doesn't always progress to more than that because well..we have kids and we each have full time jobs and sometimes at the end of the day we have no energy/time left for sex. So, if we're talking sex wise then I'd say about 3x a week.
09/05/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
Well I didn't really know how to answer. The first part made it seem like intimacy was about closeness and I would consider cuddling and kisses and hugs and stuff intimacy of that kind. I don't consider those things foreplay though, which ... more
I figured she was just talking about getting it on, Alicia! Intimacy is a 10 or 20 time a day thing, for us. Not all intimacy leads to sex. About 20 minutes ago, he came in from painting and I just stood on a chair (he's a lot taller than I am) and rubbed his head and his neck. No sex, just plain intimacy. I guess I didn't read the first post that closely.

You're right, though, intimacy, especially if you and your partner live together, is not always going to immediately lead to sex.

Alicia, I remember when our kids were small, it's hard to get more than a good 2 to 4 sessions a week in. It will get more frequent when the kids get older and are not around as much and don't need you for every little thing. (One of my favorites, you think you and your man are in bed for the night, the kids are tucked in, you start and hear from the bathroom, "Mama, can you wipe me?!?!?!?!?" OMG, what a mood breaker!)
09/06/2010
Contributor: PurpleBerry PurpleBerry
It's a daily thing and I love it that way.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
It varies. Sometimes every day. None when I am on my period (five days). Usually between 4 to 7 times per week.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Kiwi Kiwi
It depends entirely on what else is going on in our lives. If we're both really stressed out from school and work, then it's probably only once or twice, but if it happens to be an easy-going week, it can be multiple times a day.
12/15/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
We're at about 4x a week right now, but we're still pretty new so it might change over time.
12/16/2010
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
I'm not currently in a relationship, but in past ones, it was everyday. And that was usually my doing rather than his.
01/14/2012
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
We usually have sex 3 or 4 times a week. Sometimes less, sometimes more.
02/29/2012