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What would your immediate reaction be if you just found out your son or daughter had sex?
this reminds me of the time when my parents found out I had sex....it went HORRIBLE... they expected me to wait until marriage since I was raised in a
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What would your immediate reaction be if you just found out your son or daughter had sex?
this reminds me of the time when my parents found out I had sex....it went HORRIBLE... they expected me to wait until marriage since I was raised in a religous family. But i've only been with one person so i dont know what the big deal was....
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Well my girls are getting to that age where they are thinking about boys more and more so if I found out they had sex my reaction would depend on HOW I found out. If they are telling me "oops I'm pregnant" I might be quiet and reflective because I want to support them not hurt them. Right now they trust me to be level headed and fair I don't want to damage that. They know how babies are made and all about protection...but accidents happen and it doesn't have to ruin their lives. It's a baby not a life ruining mistake!
If they come to me saying they might be sick from having unprotected sex then we will get them tested and then treated before we have a VERY serious discussion because they ALREADY know better than to have unprotected sex! Accidents happen but really not making sure your partner is clean is not an accident.
If I caught them I would have a sit down discussion about appropriate behavior and finding an appropriate place to have sex. I would also want to be sure they are making a good decision to have sex, and are taking precautions to ensure the life that they want. I can't imagine doing it any other way.
Threats and recriminations caused me to face a miscarriage and the subsequent exam by myself afraid the whole time the doctors would tell my parents and then I would be beaten, either physically or emotionally...more than likely a bit of both. For crims sake they felt it was ok to tease me viciously about Sigel until I was begging them to leave me alone...and then felt it was appropriate to slap my face and head for DARING to say "Please leave me alone." I want my girls and boy to understand that it is THEIR responsibility to make their own life choices but that I am right there to help and yank their asses out of danger...if I can. They know that the only way I can do that is if they are honest with me.
I wouldn't want my babies having sex at 17 but I did...and I was fine. So I take a deep breath and work on building the kind of relationship with them that I wish I had with my Mom. After than all I can do is hope they know I am here and that they trust me enough to come to me.