The New Intimacy

Is it LOVE or is it SEX?

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Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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So here is my thought provoking question:

In order to find LOVE, you need to have SEX?

or,

In order to have SEX, you need LOVE?


“Sex is the price women have to pay for love, whereas love is the price men have to pay for sex!!” – by Marvin (Crabby old Lady Maxine’s husband)! Thank you for sharing your perspective on interpersonal relationships involving SEX and LOVE.
08/23/2012
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Contributor: Gracie Gracie
I do find for me sexual attraction most often follows emotional connection. So I guess I fit with that stereotype most of the time. Although in my marriage there were times that I felt emotionally distant and a great sexual encounter did revive or recreate the emotional connection. So every now and then it is the other way around. I guess it is some of both.
08/23/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
I think the first option more than the second, though I don't think the first one is always true. Unrequited and unconsummated love are real things...
08/24/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
It's very strange, but I fit my Meyers-Briggs' INFJ profile to the letter: "The female INFJ will experience a deeper emotional connection to her partner after the physical relationship is consummated." Which is quite true - I get attached even more after it.

Which is why: 1. I can't do flings and one-night stands, and 2. I'm terrified of getting to the sex too early in a relationship. I have to trust first before it gets to the point of anything physical - after that is when it gets complicated on my end.

It sucks being a fairy tale princess personality in the real world - it's too painful.
08/24/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I don't think either statement is accurate. Love and sex are two different things. You can easily have sex with someone you don't love, but you don't NEED sex in order to love someone. I feel in love with my husband long before we had sex.
08/24/2012
Contributor: irina09 irina09
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
So here is my thought provoking question:

In order to find LOVE, you need to have SEX?

or,

In order to have SEX, you need LOVE?


“Sex is the price women have to pay for love, whereas love is the price men have to pay ... more
I believe both are valid, because either one without the other is good, it is not
02/15/2013
Contributor: irina09 irina09
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I don't think either statement is accurate. Love and sex are two different things. You can easily have sex with someone you don't love, but you don't NEED sex in order to love someone. I feel in love with my husband long before we had sex.
I don't agree, sex is a form of communication, it is not just a physical action
02/15/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I need to feel a connection at some level to have sex w/ someone. well, I just discovered that despite me feeling a connection w/ someone, they felt no connection w/ me. a first for me. there are people out there that use others & are very good at their game.
05/05/2013
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
In general, I need an emotional connection (love) before sex.
05/06/2013