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Is it more acceptable for women to own dildos/vibrators than men?

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Contributor: Rainbow Boy Rainbow Boy
I'm curious to know if people find that it is socially more acceptable and understandable for a woman to own dildos and/or vibrators than a man. I know that since this is a sex-positive community the majority will find it acceptable for both men and women to own sex toys (this excludes masturbators like Fleshlights; I only mean penetrative toys). I believe that generally in our society it is viewed as inappropriate and unacceptable for a man to own a dildo. If a woman is caught in possession of such a sex toy, it really isn't a big deal. I think the case differs for a man. What does everyone else think?

I should clarify that I'm asking how you believe society in general perceives this.
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It is more acceptable for a woman to own dildos/vibrators
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68  (72%)
It is more acceptable for a man to own dildos/vibrators
It is equally acceptable for both women and men to own dildos/vibrators
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27  (28%)
Total votes: 95
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Contributor: sweet seduction sweet seduction
I personally think it is the same for men and woman to own sex toys.
02/12/2011
Contributor: jakjak jakjak
Maybe it is just me but I know that most guys probably don't have a dildo or vibrator. Unless you consider buying for a spouse.

However, I have one myself but still think society is more open for a woman to own one.
02/12/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I do not own a dildo or a vib. My wife has many. I find it more acceptable for a woman to own then a man. They are toys made for a woman after all.
02/12/2011
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I would think society would feel it is more acceptable for a woman to use vibrators and dildos. A lot of society doesn't even seem open to men engaging in anal sex of any kind, so I doubt they would find any man using anything anally to be acceptable and a "straight" activity. I am sure some people don't even consider that vibrators can be used on the outside of the body, too. I personally find both men and women using them acceptable.
02/13/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Rainbow Boy
I'm curious to know if people find that it is socially more acceptable and understandable for a woman to own dildos and/or vibrators than a man. I know that since this is a sex-positive community the majority will find it acceptable for both men ... more
I think it's acceptable for both genders to.
02/13/2011
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
Personal I think it is equally acceptably but voted it more acceptable for women because due towards various biases and prejudices in our society I do think society considers it more acceptable for women.
02/13/2011
Contributor: VenusianThunder VenusianThunder
Personally, I think it is equally acceptable, but having been to many sex toy parties, it is obvious to me that most people/society in general do not find this acceptable for men. Out of the six toy parties that I have been to, only one of them was of mixed genders.
02/13/2011
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
Personally, I think it is equally acceptable.

However since you were asking about society, I voted it is more acceptable for women to have them.
02/13/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Isn't the whole world supposed to be 'equal' - why would one be better of different than the other?
02/13/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I think it should be fair, however, I agree that in society it is definitely less acceptable for men. I think b/c men's toys look a little different- not so cute- fleshlights are kind of creepy.
02/13/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
There is definitely a stigma about men enjoying anal play so yes, it's definitely less accepted by society that men might own any penetrative toys.
02/13/2011
Contributor: Rainbow Boy Rainbow Boy
This is what I generally suspected. I know that most of you rightly think that it should be fair—that it's equally acceptable for both sexes to own and use penetrative toys. However, it seems that our society does not share the same belief as a whole. Typically, it would be shocking to find out a man owns a dildo but not a woman.
02/13/2011
Contributor: null null
I think society views it as a more feminine thing, to the point that many men avoid penetration play because of this stigma.
02/13/2011
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I think that society in general thinks it is more acceptable for a female to own a dildo/vibrator and for a male to own some type of sleeve or fleshlight. I however think it is acceptable for anyone to own dildos and vibrators.
02/13/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
As a man, I can tell you that there's no contest. Men give you shit if they know, and most women freak out.
02/13/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
Quote:
Originally posted by Waterfall
I think that society in general thinks it is more acceptable for a female to own a dildo/vibrator and for a male to own some type of sleeve or fleshlight. I however think it is acceptable for anyone to own dildos and vibrators.
I agree with Waterfall and Sthr, unfortunately it is more acceptable for women to have vibrators and dildos than men and it shouldn't be. For some reason a lot of people think that if a man likes being penetrated he must be gay or bi in some way, which is ridiculous. I say dildos and vibrators for all consenting adults YAY!
02/13/2011
Contributor: kittychilla kittychilla
i voted more acceptable for a woman.

but that's because i'm looking at that at a view from what most people would thing.

i, myself, think it's okay for both genders to own vibrators/toys. guys with toys really shouldn't get shit from whoever happens to find out about their stuff. :/ it doesn't make them gay, it just means they're more exploring than others. =]
02/13/2011
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
Quote:
Originally posted by kittychilla
i voted more acceptable for a woman.

but that's because i'm looking at that at a view from what most people would thing.

i, myself, think it's okay for both genders to own vibrators/toys. guys with toys really shouldn't ... more
ditto.

You took the words right out of my mouth! lol
02/13/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I think it should be equal. I don't think any less of guys who own vibrators. Everyone is entitled to pleasure!

I voted how I personally feel. I don't care what society thinks!
02/13/2011
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
I think it should be equal. But sadly, there is a double standard, definitely.
02/13/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
Personally, I definitely think there's nothing weird about men owning vibrators, but there's definitely a social prejudice against men having sex toys. Which makes it a little weird that so much packaging on "women's toys" has naked ladies, when you think about it...
02/13/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I think socially, people in general would feel it is unacceptable, but personally, I wouldn't bat a lash if I met a guy with toys.
02/13/2011
Contributor: girl next door girl next door
I think boys should have toys. Shuck off societal norms and go for it!
02/14/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
I personally don't think it's more or less acceptable, but I think society as a whole things it's more acceptable for women than men.
02/14/2011
Contributor: Sparfitt08 Sparfitt08
Quote:
Originally posted by Rainbow Boy
I'm curious to know if people find that it is socially more acceptable and understandable for a woman to own dildos and/or vibrators than a man. I know that since this is a sex-positive community the majority will find it acceptable for both men ... more
I do think that most think that it's more acceptable for women to own toys, and possibly even expected for women to own toys. However, couples own toys, we have a bunch and are expanding all of the time. He is actually starting to look at items now specifically for him. It's more acceptable now, in society, for sex toys to be owned and talked about than they used to be. People experiment more now, people let loose more now. Sex lives are so much more enhanced now.
02/14/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
I think women are more expected to by the general public, but hey, if a guys likes it, it should be equally acceptable.
02/14/2011
Contributor: sbon sbon
I would say for society in general it is more acceptable for women to own sex toys. However, I think it's acceptable for both to have toys.
02/15/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
Quote:
Originally posted by Rainbow Boy
I'm curious to know if people find that it is socially more acceptable and understandable for a woman to own dildos and/or vibrators than a man. I know that since this is a sex-positive community the majority will find it acceptable for both men ... more
I answered before i read that last sentence...
Society thinks women should have them way more than men.
However, they do make toys for both sexes. To me - whatever floats your boat and makes you happy, then by all means!
02/15/2011
Contributor: Epicurean Epicurean
I was just talking about this with a partner two nights ago. I think it is definitely considered more socially acceptable for girls to have toys, which is weird considering that it's more socially acceptable for guys to be openly sexual. I think people consider it sexy to think about a girl being so horny that she's doing herself in her bedroom, whereas if a guy's doing it, it means he isn't getting laid. Although strangely, it seems more acceptable for guys to talk about jacking off.

I don't understand it.
02/15/2011