Is Porn Healthy Or Harmful to a Relationship?

My husband watches porn when he jerks off. No big deal. And we sometimes watch porn together before sex, or have it on in the background during sex. I've actually become quite fond of his taste in porn.

My wife and I dont watch hard core porn. We used to watch stuff like playboy TV when we had it free. Even then it always seemed to be a background to our play and not rly a part of it.


I however like porn I always have likely always will. I have a high active sex drive I can easily have sex 3-5 times aday. I am not in an open relationship I am married and we are faithfull to each other and want to stay that way. I use porn as a filler to the times I cant have sex with my wife. She is aware I watch porn and that i jerk off. She looks at it as well I could be cheating on her to fill the void when she isnt home but again we are faithful and see no issues in porn or masterbaiting.

We both watch porn and the other one knows. However, we think its awkward to do it together.

Things that are shared are fine. Hiding it and lying...not cool.

I think it has a tendency to alter expectations, and it certainly increases your libido if you're watching it regularly. I find myself getting into stuff, possibly out of sheer boredom, just because I've seen so much porn and want to see something new. If your partner isn't watching as much pornography, their libido may not keep up with yours, and stuff that seems like "standard fare" in porn may not actually be so reasonable in real life.

That said, watching it together seems perfectly healthy and even beneficial to the relationship. I don't really think there's anything morally wrong with watching it yourself and masturbating, I do it all the time, but I do think it can distance you from your partner emotionally.

It most definitely depends on the individuals and situation. It has the potential to be a healthy and enjoyable habit. One of my problems with porn is that people who watch a lot of it tend to develop unrealistic expectations and perceptions of sex and in particular of the person they are having sex with. Porn is an entertainment style and my sex life is not a porno. Just because women in porn are willing to do something or because they act a certain way when they are turned on/orgasm/etc. does not mean that all women act that way in real life. This is a problem I have run into.

I guess some people have problems with their partners viewing porn because they perceive it as cheating. That could also cause friction in a relationship, but I personally am not of the opinion that watching porn is cheating.

totally depends on the situation i know people who watch it together and love it I also know a couple who almost got divorced after she found out that her husband watched porn

I think watching porn together is generally healthy but depends on the situation. For me and my partner, porn is a way to turn each other on, open a dialogue about fantasys/desires/areas to explore/etc. It's great for foreplay and creating a mood. One thing I really love is watching vids my partner suggests, sometimes orders, me to watch. I love that we share our innermost fantasies with each other in such an erotic, comfortable, discussion or sexual encounter-inducing manner. He can watch whatever he wants whenever,and not tell me,as long as he doesn't outright lie to me if I ask about it. And vice verse, the only caveat in my case being i'm sometimes required to watch certain videos.He sometimes demands that I cum & sometimes demands that I refrain from cumming. If you're into D/s, videos can easily be incorporated into that. However, all that being said, not everyone has the same expectations of their partners that we do, nor does everyone communicate similarly, etc etc. Since there are so many variations to human behavior, psychology, relationships, etc, I'd say in the case of porn, the judgement or healthy, neutral, or harmful can only truly be assessed on a case-by-case basis. However,I'm betting that in most relationships, providing there is open communication, porn is more often than not healthy.

It depends on the individuals in a relationship. We watch porn together, but if he felt the need to sneak around and watch it, it would probably become a problem.

Depending,I think its healthy

I really think it depends. My ex was obsessed with porn. Sometimes he would even put off sex with me to watch his porn which was very damaging to our relationship. Needless to say, we are no longer together.

Well I only have a problem with it if he compares me to the girls in porn. Now that irritates me!

I think it depends on the relationship, but personally I have no interest in it. It doesn't bother me if others like it though.

depends on the people in the relationship

I don't think its healthy but I don't think its harmful either...I have no issues with it..At the end of the day your partner is having sex with you and not the person in the porn video.

I agree i think it all depends on the people

We've watched porn together a few times and it was ok. I watch it sometimes on my own and I think he does too but I'm not sure. I don't ask. As long as it doesn't affect the relationship or sex life then it's fine.

I will try to keep this short... Lol.
I think (in most cases) porn is highly damaging to relationships. Viewing porn is damaging to the brain there are statistics. I will try not to state all of them here. Somewhere around 80% of rapists admit they committed the crime to 'reinact' a porn scene. I'm not at all saying porn causes rapists. It does not. A person has to have the rapist potential to commit rape. I do think porn is not healthy. My partner and I are highly against it and have even joined a group to help fight against it. FAP - Fight Against Porn. We deal with things like porn being easily obtained by children. I am proud to say we've made a pretty hefty difference in many areas with this. FAP is also about dealing with what it does to women and relationships. I'm only saying this based on OUR relatiosnhip and the other FAPPERS. To us, monogamy includes not viewing things like that. That is ONLY our opinion for how we choose to be in our own relationship. To me and some women, porn is hurtful. Some women feel "less than" or not good enough because their partner watches it. To us, love is not what most people consider it. Our love is the kind of love that includes only each other in every way. We don't lust after others, etc. Again, this is only the standards for ourselves, I am not speaking about or for other people. It is just something we view as destroying to OUR relationship. It's just a risky thing. Some enjoy it, but we are only into each other. We haven't ever needed other people to have good sex or feel happy. We don't use it at all, not to get new ideas when the sex gets old. I think that is one reason our sex hasn't ever gotten old. We haven't ever resorted to artificial things to get off and due to that we won't ever need artificial things to get off. It's really a much more intimate thing to us, sex is. We take it VERY seriously. Lol.

It really depends on the situation, though it was the big factor in damaging my last relationship. Lying about it, or doing it behind someone's back, I have a big problem with. If you like to do it together, cool if it works for you. I was never really into porn, but since that relationship, I really am leery of my partners feelings towards pornography. Like currently, my first relationship since the one where I really got hurt and porn was a big reason why, my partner told me when entering this relationship that is something he is not into. He doesn't like it, he doesn't watch it. However, last week, he's telling me about this crazy porn site he was looking at. "I thought you didn't like porn at all?" His response, "Well, technically it wasn't really porn because..." His reason was flawed. Nudity, people cumming, fucking machines, bdsm, nobody physically having sex with anyone (so he said "well, in any of the ones I watched...") they were "just fucking each other with stuff"...THAT IS WHAT PORNOGRAPHY IS! Really don't want to be in another relationship where my partner lies about porn to me, and lets it get in the way of our relationship in any way.

my wife doesnt really get off on it, but she tells me that she doesnt care if i watch it or not, as long as it doesnt interfere with our sex life

I think it depends on the people.
I used to hate that my fiance would watch porn. I'd cry and think too much into it. But we've had a few talks about it, and I don't really care as much. Plus we both love lesbian porn, and that's the only kind I really like. I wanna watch it with him sometime.

it depends on what kind and how much it's watched

Like anything else, it depends on relationship dynamics. For my wife and I, it's totally fine...we watch it together, we watch it separately when we masturbate alone (and it's no secret to either of us...my wife tells me all the time how hot it makes her to think about me jerking off in the office, watching it). Before I was married, I had girlfriends who were totally against porn in any way...one was mortified when I had to help video one for my job (long story, short version is I managed all the tech stuff for one of the southern NV brothels many years ago). That event precipitated our breakup, even though my only role was setting up cameras and standing around during filming to make sure everything kept working...I was honest about it (and she knew where I worked), I wasn't turned on by it, and my disdain for the....uh...working girls was pretty well known. Nevertheless, I went from best boyfriend ever to devil in eight short hours because of the unknown porn dynamic of our relationship.

It would be harmful in mine, but it always depends on the couple and the situation.