He initiates sex more. We usually just start making out. Sometimes one of us puts on something sexy as a sign.

I'm the HIM and I'm the one chasing HER around the house more often than she would perhaps prefer. How do I let HER know that I'm "wanting some"? I ask for it as well as give her "the look" and she just knows.

He does more.

I think that I want it more often than he does, but he gets to say when.

I'm not sure who initiates more. It goes in stages where I will initiate more and then he will. I usually start touching him in a way that lets him know. He will start kissing on my neck, or to be more obvious pull his penis out. Oddly enough the second way he does it is sort of cute because he just gets the cutest smile on his face. He never actually forces me to do it though. If I tell him I'm not up for it he will understandingly back off. That doesn't happen often though.

We also go in phases of who initiates more. I think lately it's been me... but who really keeps track of that? Honestly, I just ask him if we can have sex. And he does the same. We don't dance around it or play any games anymore.

I remember in the beginning feeling very shy to initiate, I don't know out of fear of rejection, or fear of being too "aggressive", or just out of fear of stating my needs. Both of us were that way. But now, I just say "Hey, I need some sex, how are you feeling about that?" LOL Some might say it's not romantic, but I think it is because he's always ready to fulfill my needs - and that's pretty damn romantic in my book!

For 23+ years its been me (the guy) initiating sex 98% of the time.

Me (the him) most times, but she definitely has her days

oh it's definitely me. He'd tell you it was him but he doesn't get that I go out of my way to get him in the mood, I just do it very subtly hahaha

Unfortunately it is almost always me initiating things. My wife loves the sex but just can't seem to initiate it. I usually just start making out and/or ask for it.