Is it the HIM or HER in your relationship who "starts the action" more often? How do you do it? What is the cue, if any, that you use to let your partner know you are "wanting some"?
Married or living together hetero couples...who tends to initiate relationships more?
11/13/2012
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He initiates sex more. We usually just start making out. Sometimes one of us puts on something sexy as a sign.
11/13/2012
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He usually is the one who starts it, but when I want some action (lol) I wear some sexy lingerie under normal clothes. Then I act like I'm changing into PJ's. It's a nice surprise and a great cue.
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Is it the HIM or HER in your relationship who "starts the action" more often? How do you do it? What is the cue, if any, that you use to let your partner know you are "wanting some"?
11/13/2012
I'm the HIM and I'm the one chasing HER around the house more often than she would perhaps prefer. How do I let HER know that I'm "wanting some"? I ask for it as well as give her "the look" and she just knows.
11/13/2012
He does more.
11/13/2012
I think that I want it more often than he does, but he gets to say when.
11/13/2012
I'm not sure who initiates more. It goes in stages where I will initiate more and then he will. I usually start touching him in a way that lets him know. He will start kissing on my neck, or to be more obvious pull his penis out. Oddly enough the second way he does it is sort of cute because he just gets the cutest smile on his face. He never actually forces me to do it though. If I tell him I'm not up for it he will understandingly back off. That doesn't happen often though.
11/13/2012
We also go in phases of who initiates more. I think lately it's been me... but who really keeps track of that? Honestly, I just ask him if we can have sex. And he does the same. We don't dance around it or play any games anymore.
I remember in the beginning feeling very shy to initiate, I don't know out of fear of rejection, or fear of being too "aggressive", or just out of fear of stating my needs. Both of us were that way. But now, I just say "Hey, I need some sex, how are you feeling about that?" LOL Some might say it's not romantic, but I think it is because he's always ready to fulfill my needs - and that's pretty damn romantic in my book!
I remember in the beginning feeling very shy to initiate, I don't know out of fear of rejection, or fear of being too "aggressive", or just out of fear of stating my needs. Both of us were that way. But now, I just say "Hey, I need some sex, how are you feeling about that?" LOL Some might say it's not romantic, but I think it is because he's always ready to fulfill my needs - and that's pretty damn romantic in my book!
11/13/2012
For 23+ years its been me (the guy) initiating sex 98% of the time.
11/14/2012
Me (the him) most times, but she definitely has her days
11/14/2012
oh it's definitely me. He'd tell you it was him but he doesn't get that I go out of my way to get him in the mood, I just do it very subtly hahaha
12/27/2012
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Oops! I don't live with my guy...I didn't read the title of this post >.< sorry!
Originally posted by
MsDrProfKitty
oh it's definitely me. He'd tell you it was him but he doesn't get that I go out of my way to get him in the mood, I just do it very subtly hahaha
12/27/2012
Unfortunately it is almost always me initiating things. My wife loves the sex but just can't seem to initiate it. I usually just start making out and/or ask for it.
12/27/2012
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