I need help. I started having sex with the man that I am completely in love with in February. It started off great and I realized that I am a freak in bed and it was so much fun! The thing is, over the summer, I had a lot of stress with resulted in depression and many emotional problems and my boyfriend didn't seem to be able to help me relieve myself sexually because he became paranoid about me getting pregnant. Emotionally, he was great! But I wanted to have sex as an outlet to relieve my stress and tension and let go. Unfortunately, there were a could incidences when the condom slipped off, but I take birth control!!! What ended up happening was that the day before I left to go back home for break, we had sex and the condom slipped off, he freaked out, I started crying because he freaked out and I just wanted him to love me and then he waited anxiously for my period. My period was being funky and a lot more erratic than usual so he convinced himself that I was pregnant. Even though, I was not AT ALL.
We've talked about this over the past few months since I went back to New York and he told me that the summer really kind of scarred him. I have been really supportive and trying to help him not be afraid of having sex anymore and we even stopped for a while, although we didn't stop the hand jobs and blo jobs. Eventually we started up again, but it was too much for him and now we are not doing anything again.
I want to be there for him and support him, but I don't know what to do to help him or why exactly he's still caught up in the summer time! In the meantime, I'm getting anxious and I feel like my sexuality has changed. I used to be spontaneous about sex and want to surprise him and do nasty things, but now I don't know if I could do that even if he was ready because I am afraid to be disappointed and embarrassed. What if he isn't ready and I'm there going crazy? I'll feel super awful! Also, I realized that he can't make me come anymore, not during sex or oral or hand jobs. I think it's because of the state of our sexual lives but he doesn't seem to understand that and he takes it personally when I tell him that I didn't come.
What can I do?
We've talked about this over the past few months since I went back to New York and he told me that the summer really kind of scarred him. I have been really supportive and trying to help him not be afraid of having sex anymore and we even stopped for a while, although we didn't stop the hand jobs and blo jobs. Eventually we started up again, but it was too much for him and now we are not doing anything again.
I want to be there for him and support him, but I don't know what to do to help him or why exactly he's still caught up in the summer time! In the meantime, I'm getting anxious and I feel like my sexuality has changed. I used to be spontaneous about sex and want to surprise him and do nasty things, but now I don't know if I could do that even if he was ready because I am afraid to be disappointed and embarrassed. What if he isn't ready and I'm there going crazy? I'll feel super awful! Also, I realized that he can't make me come anymore, not during sex or oral or hand jobs. I think it's because of the state of our sexual lives but he doesn't seem to understand that and he takes it personally when I tell him that I didn't come.
What can I do?
