Need tips for having sex with a plus size man?

Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years, and we have been each other's only partner. He is like 6'0 feet, and close to 300lbs. He is working really hard to lose weight and become more healthier. I am 5'4 and 165, so almost half his size.

When we have sex, I don't really feel anything when he's inside of me. I don't know whether he has a small penis or just what. His stomach is pretty big and presses down on me when he is on top of me. For the most part, we can't have sex that way. We have to try to find another comfortable position or me be on top so I don't feel like I'm being squished.

Because his tummy is so big, he can't get his hand under to stimulate my clit. So I don't really get any enjoyment out of sex. I kinda just lay there and wait for him to be done, then he finishes me. I am sexually attracted to him, and I get off just fine when he stimulates my clit. But when we are having sex, I can't have an orgasm without my clit being stimulated which he or I can't get under his tummy to reach.

When I am on top, it's still hard and his stomach is STILL in the way but it is a little easier for me to touch myself. I just feel so frustrated because sex feels dissapointing because I can't get off and it doesn't feel like anything to me. I love him and this is putting a damper on our relationship,

And sometimes, when I'm on top, I can't get his penis inside me, it's like he is too soft or too small, or something.

I am SO frustrated!!
I need tips or positions about how to have better sex with him being a plus size man!! probably with a small penis.
01/04/2013
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Contributor: jman1968 jman1968
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Originally posted by Leather & Lace
My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years, and we have been each other's only partner. He is like 6'0 feet, and close to 300lbs. He is working really hard to lose weight and become more healthier. I am 5'4 and 165, so almost half his ... more
My Wife and I were in your situation 11 years ago when we got together.
I have a big belly AND a small cock.
We have sex in lots of different ways however at some point in every session we end up in doggie style with her using a vibrator on her clit.
Works every time.
We have a good sex life but without "buzz" as we call her vibrator we would be lost.
I am a good lover and very oral however the equipment I have is what I have,I can't improve on that.
So we have to be open and comminicate with one another about what feels good and what does not.
Best advise to start with is be honest with him and talk about it.
He will probably have his pride hurt but will get over it.
Next get a vibrator so YOU can enjoy sex as well.
Hopefully he will be open about it and want you too to be satisfied.
01/04/2013
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
I feel like there are two things you should try playing around with;
A long, thin vibrator and
A silicone cock ring

Long, thin vibrators don't get in the way during sex, and you can keep your hands out from under his belly while they are vibrating your clitoris.

Cock rings make him firmer and larger by preventing some blood from leaving his penis. Silicone is great for beginners because it's easier to get on, will last forever, and if he freaks out you can cut it off with a scissors.

Most of all, you need to TALK to him about it! Tell him that you want to try some new things to make sex more enjoyable for you! He'll like it a lot more if you like sex, especially because you'll want to do it more often.
01/04/2013