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Contributor: Kynsar Kynsar
I'm a young woman in a long distance relationship with a big guy who I love very much.

First things first, his size doesn't bother me at all. It doesn't make him unattractive to me. We're on a very similar level mentally with our level of kinks, and we've shared plenty of our deep, dark fantasies. I've seen him naked and he is sexy! I'm really not trying to be shallow or offensive.

My issue is that I just physically don't know how to go about having sex with him. I feel like the easiest way would probably be with me on top, but for lack of a better word, he's just kind of wide. I'm overweight as well, so my thighs are on the bigger side, and my legs aren't very long. I'm worried that I'll try to get on top and not be able to get my legs around him, and he'll end up feeling embarrassed. :/ Has anyone found a way to make that better?

There's also doggy style, and I do like that from time to time, but it's not very intimate for me.

Does anyone have any suggestions? Again, I'm really not trying to be offensive and I hope it doesn't come across that way.
04/10/2015
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Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
Quote:
Originally posted by Kynsar
I'm a young woman in a long distance relationship with a big guy who I love very much.

First things first, his size doesn't bother me at all. It doesn't make him unattractive to me. We're on a very similar level mentally with ... more
I love that you are considering his feelings. That is very sweet.

You mentioned doggy style--always a good Go To position. One that I think a lot of men LOVE .

What about you lying on your back with your legs up in the air (almost reaching up his torso towards his shoulders) while he thrusts from an almost kneeling position? I personally love when my husband throws my legs towards one side of his body while at this angle. You actually get a really nice, deep penetration . This might be worth trying if you think it will work.
04/10/2015
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
(Review Program Mentor)
You may want to look into positioning aids. Unfortunately, I did not see any currently available on EF. You may want to look into Liberator or The Right Position Pillow. These give you a lot more flexibility and the ability to stay in one position longer. The positions you can obtain with use of these can also result in deeper penetration. These are good if the partners are in good shape or are not. We have several Liberator shapes and I highly recommend them.

You may also want to look at a sling. Here are some examples available on EF - the Scandal love sling or the Toynary MT04 V style leg support velcro. This can keep your legs up and apart for deeper penetration from your partner.
04/22/2015
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
How about the "Butterfly" position: link. And like Pete's Princess mentioned, invest in a positioning aid. It will comfortably prop the body up for better angles.
04/23/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
I 100% agree about the positioning furniture. It will change your life! Take a look at some of the suggestions (Liberator) mentioned above.

I'm not sure how you feel about possibly drilling holes in your ceiling but have you considered a swing?
04/23/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
Oooo, YES, do a swing if you can . I would put one in our room....buuut...well, our daughter would be like WTH??? LOL
04/23/2015
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Oooo, YES, do a swing if you can . I would put one in our room....buuut...well, our daughter would be like WTH??? LOL
Oh gosh, you're cracking me up AGAIN!!!
04/23/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Oooo, YES, do a swing if you can . I would put one in our room....buuut...well, our daughter would be like WTH??? LOL
Yeah, I'm with your daughter on that one. If I walked into anyone's bedroom and saw a swing setup, I'd be like "What in the hell did I just walk into."
04/23/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Yeah, I'm with your daughter on that one. If I walked into anyone's bedroom and saw a swing setup, I'd be like "What in the hell did I just walk into."
LMAO let's not forget my angel status lol. That is just too funny to picture though. I have one friend specifically that I would pay good money just to hear what would come out of her mouth if she ever saw something like that in our room lol
04/23/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by Rossie
Oh gosh, you're cracking me up AGAIN!!!
You should have seen her face when I said I was going to put in a stripper pole for extra cardio and flexibility! She about hit the floor. I said, my luck, I would go into a twirl and the thing would crash down like you see on all the bloopers. She said, OMG, YOU CAN'T BE SERIOUS!!!

I eventually told her I was teasing when she went running downstairs to "tell Dad" lol
04/23/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
Don't get me wrong. I'd be happy for the couple, but on the inside, I'm thinking WTF! Am I on the set of a Kink.com shoot?
04/23/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Don't get me wrong. I'd be happy for the couple, but on the inside, I'm thinking WTF! Am I on the set of a Kink.com shoot?
where is your sense of adventure. Swings are fun (Biting my lip)

Not that I've ever tried one for sexual pleasure....I am so glad the family is gone right now because I seriously can't stop giggling over this.

Is kink.Com real??? Or did you just make that up
04/23/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by Vnessa
where is your sense of adventure. Swings are fun (Biting my lip)

Not that I've ever tried one for sexual pleasure....I am so glad the family is gone right now because I seriously can't stop giggling over this.

Is kink.Com ... more
Yes, Swings are FUN! I must say, the ellipsis you used has me wondering if you left out the words recently or not right now and have me thinking you might be distorting the truth a bit. Either way, that isn't for me to know because a Lady will never tell.

Anyway, yes, Kink.com is very real. They bought the San Francisco Armory some years ago. Let me tell you, that is one really cool building! It is completely self contained. It has a river running through part of it underground.

Anyway, I don't want to hijack this thread. Back on topic!
04/24/2015
Contributor: symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Yes, Swings are FUN! I must say, the ellipsis you used has me wondering if you left out the words recently or not right now and have me thinking you might be distorting the truth a bit. Either way, that isn't for me to know because a Lady will ... more
Hmmm...something I'd want to see.


Finally up for air after a review......
04/24/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
OK OK, back to topic . Liberator.com for lots of positioning aids . I think, and agree with the above comments, this would be a fantastic option. You guys will love the flexibility they provide along with comfort.
04/24/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
There is also the possibility that he may be interested in being on the receiving end of a strap on at some point in the future. Hmm?
10/01/2015