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Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Mutual masturbation has two different definitions according to Em and Lo.

The first definition is masturbating in front of one another. The self-imposed rule of no touching can add to sexual tension while it also allows you to indulge in many different roleplay scenarios. Not only can it be arousing, but it can also be educational as you can learn how your partner enjoys touching themselves. Along with that, there is zero chance is giving each other an STD or ending up pregnant, and since most people know how to touch themselves to orgasm, it can also lead to an orgasm as well.

The other definition of mutual masturbation includes touching each other's genitals at the same time. Doing it this way can cause sexual tension and bring the two of you back to the days of hurried, desperate sex in the back of a car. Manual sex is one of the best ways to bring a woman to orgasm, and it's one of the lower-risk activities in terms of STDs or pregnancy.

Learn more sex facts like this in the Sex: How to do Everything book by Em and Lo.

Have you participated in mutual masturbation? Which definition are you usually using when you refer to mutual masturbation? Have you had good success with mutual masturbation?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I've tried mutual masturbation.
84
No, I've tried mutual masturbation.
12
My idea of mutual masturbation is touching ourselves in front of one another.
64
My idea of mutual masturbation is touching each other at the same time.
58
Yes, we've had good success with mutual masturbation.
62
No, we haven't had success with mutual masturbation.
4
Total votes: 284 (106 voters)
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Unfortunately this is a fairly poorly worded poll.

"No, I've tried mutual masturbation." what does that mean? You have or have not?

For us it's the infamous "Other". We often masturbate the other to orgasm - but not at the same time - and we do not masturbate separately within view.
05/16/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Unfortunately this is a fairly poorly worded poll.

"No, I've tried mutual masturbation." what does that mean? You have or have not?

For us it's the infamous "Other". We often masturbate the other to orgasm - ... more
I apologize. I meant "No, I haven't tried mutual masturbation".
05/16/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
M and I do both. Masturbate in front of each other and touch each other at the same time. And we love both. And both usually lead to some other form of sex. It's one of our favorite things... aside from the actual sex, of course.
05/16/2011
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
As my significant other and I are long term, we've gone the mutual masturbation (that is, in front of each other, on skype) route with quite a bit of success. My significant other doesn't masturbate except in these situations (he was brought up to think it's a sin and very wrong), so it keeps things from getting tense from no orgasm.
05/16/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
I think mutual masterbation could be considered either too. Touching eachother or self. Its fun.
05/16/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
I've referred to it as either and done both. I think it's a fun part of our sexual repetiore.
05/16/2011
Contributor: k3 k3
I think it could refer to both. Just depends on what you guys feel like touching at the time. ;]
05/16/2011
Contributor: Rockin' Rockin'
We'll often get off in front of each other at the same time, and usually there is some form of touching or closeness. We don't specifically put space between us to roleplay like that, but maybe we will in the future.
05/16/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I clicked submit before I got all my boxes checked! We have tried both but prefer the second definition you gave. Watching doesn't last long!
05/16/2011
Contributor: CAKES CAKES
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
Mutual masturbation has two different definitions according to Em and Lo.

The first definition is masturbating in front of one another. The self-imposed rule of no touching can add to sexual tension while it also allows you to indulge in many ... more
i think mutual masturbation is when both of you are touching yourselves. very fun!
05/16/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
We do it fairly frequently, and it's definitely arousing. I've always considered it as not touching each other but only ourselves - touching each other is more what I'd consider foreplay and not masturbation.
05/16/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
We tend to sue both definitions depending on the situation. We don't do it all that often, but we enjoy it when we do
05/16/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I think my definition of mutual masturbation would have to be masturbating one another but taking turns, not at the same time. That way we can focus on what we are experiencing fully.

I haven't orgasmed this way yet, but when we do this orgasm very quickly once we begin penetration.
05/17/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
Mutual masturbation is fun!
05/17/2011
Contributor: sbon sbon
We do both "types" of mutual masturbation. I've always considered them both to fit under the definition.
05/17/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
Mutual masturbation has two different definitions according to Em and Lo.

The first definition is masturbating in front of one another. The self-imposed rule of no touching can add to sexual tension while it also allows you to indulge in many ... more
Both ways are fun and a turn on.
05/17/2011
Contributor: DeadIzzy DeadIzzy
I would think all forms of masturbation would give zero possibility for pregnancy. Unless it's a guy and a girl and the girl get the sperm on her hands and then starts fingering herself. But even then it's going to be pretty low. Personally I think that masturbation would be a great alternative to teach for sex ed. Even mutual masturbation to decrease the number of teen pregnancies. But chances are anyone who tried as a teen would still go all the way to sex.

Maybe school should teach mutual masturbation with sex toys. Having the boys use FleshLights and the girls using dildos. It would be a win win for everyone. hahaha
05/17/2011
Contributor: Smitty Smitty
Thank god for Skype.
05/17/2011
Contributor: Bonesdance Bonesdance
I enjoy watching my wife masturbate, but I feel kind of weird doing it in front of her, and we've never done it to the point of me coming - after all, she can masturbate to orgasm and then have sex, while I would be down for the count for a while.
05/17/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I've done this with a lover & with a few different good friends as well. I'm referring to touching ourselves in front of each other, but I have engaged in both forms.
05/18/2011
Contributor: bunny love bunny love
Yes. We either watch each other masturbate or masturbate together. We tend to fondle each throughout mutual masturbation.

I LOVE it when my boyfriend holds me in his arms while I use my Eroscillator or another favorite toy. It's so intimate. It's also really nice before or after penetrative sex.
05/18/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
Mutual masturbation has two different definitions according to Em and Lo.

The first definition is masturbating in front of one another. The self-imposed rule of no touching can add to sexual tension while it also allows you to indulge in many ... more
we both have and love it
08/02/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
I love it when we each play with each other at the same time
08/04/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i think mutual masturbation is a great way to get to know each other; you have some idea of what your partner likes. i've done it before (both touching and non touching), and i've thoroughly enjoyed it
08/04/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
Mutual masturbation has two different definitions according to Em and Lo.

The first definition is masturbating in front of one another. The self-imposed rule of no touching can add to sexual tension while it also allows you to indulge in many ... more
no i have not
08/04/2011
Contributor: Screen Door Screen Door
Quote:
Originally posted by Smitty
Thank god for Skype.
exactly!!
08/04/2011
Contributor: lilly555 lilly555
We done both, usually one or the other occurs everytime we have sex.
10/10/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
Tried it (watching each other touch ourselves). It didn't last long, haha.
03/08/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
My husband and I love masturbating in front of each other or masturbating each other at the same time, it's a lot of fun and gets us going.
03/08/2012