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Do you wish you'd have had more sexual partners or fewer in your life so far?

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Contributor: Solar Ray Solar Ray
Does anyone have regrets of not having more sexual partners... or wishes they had fewer or are you content with your "number" and experiences so far?

I'll keep it private to try and get the most honest opinions.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I wish I'd have had more sexual partners in my life so far.
24  (35%)
I wish I'd have had fewer sexual partners in my life so far.
13  (19%)
I'm happy with the number of sexual partners I've had so far.
31  (46%)
Total votes: 68
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03/02/2011
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Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
If I could go back I think I would have been a little bit more choosy.
03/02/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Solar Ray
Does anyone have regrets of not having more sexual partners... or wishes they had fewer or are you content with your "number" and experiences so far?

I'll keep it private to try and get the most honest opinions.
Sometimes I wish I hadn't been so uptight when I was younger and had more sex but I am clean and have avoided the real damage relationship trauma can bring to life so I guess when all is said and sifted I'm happy with my "score".
03/02/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I find this an odd question. There are a lot of artificial constructs that find their way into EF posts - I find the responses less than enlightening.

You're experience level is what it is. If you want or feel you need more experience go find some new partners and get it. If you've had too much, what good is it going to do to fret over it?
03/02/2011
Contributor: gone77 gone77
I vacillate between being fine with not having had any sexual partners thus far and wishing I had had the social skills to go out and find someone to be intimate with. It is what it is, you know?
03/02/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I've only been with my boyfriend and at this point in our lives, I think he'll be the only one I'll be with. Sometimes I wish that I had had more of those life experiences before I found him, but I'm also very happy with how things worked out.
03/02/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Sometimes I wish I had more experience, or that he did, so we could be better, but morally I'm happy to have been with just him.
03/03/2011
Contributor: Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
If I could go back I think I would have been a little bit more choosy.
Same here.
03/03/2011
Contributor: 831Nikki 831Nikki
To be perfectly honest, I constantly beat myself up for the stupid choices I've made. I got into double digits by the time I was 21. I didn't even get into the game until I was almost 18 & I waited so long because I wanted to "save" myself. At that time, it was all fun and games and I never stopped to think about the consequences. Luckily for me I didn't get any diseases and I didn't have an accidental pregnancy. The worst thing is that i was in a really low place and people had no problem taking advantage. I'm sure that there are other people that are reading my post and have similar experiences, but they don't feel comfortable talking about it. I'm only 24 and live in a small town so as long as I'm here I'll be labeled, so I've gotten used to dealing with harsh criticism. I'm not at all saying that I wish I were still a virgin and I do NOT regret my first time at all!!! I just wish I had been a lot more conservative.
03/03/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Quote:
Originally posted by Solar Ray
Does anyone have regrets of not having more sexual partners... or wishes they had fewer or are you content with your "number" and experiences so far?

I'll keep it private to try and get the most honest opinions.
I think about all those I passed up to be stuck in a sexless marriage. I even turned down a 3-way.
03/03/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
If I could go back I think I would have been a little bit more choosy.
Same here. No, I know I would have been a lot more choosy. lol
03/03/2011
Contributor: Fun Lover Fun Lover
If you find the correct one all you need is one, sometimes it takes a while. I was lucky and struck gold the first time.
03/03/2011
Contributor: joja joja
I've still got plenty of time, but I do wish I had slept around more before falling in love. We're poly, but being both shy and picky, chances don't come around often.
03/04/2011
Contributor: CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
I had strong feelings for every girl that I have had sex with. But their were a few girlfriends along the way that would have been nice to have sex with. Back in my late teens I had no problem with attracting really beautiful girls, but some of them I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole, and others I didn't want to pressure. So my number isn't nearly what it could have been if I would have been more aggressive with some of the really "good" girls I dated. My mom always told me to treat women right and respect them, so I let them make the first sexual move.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Same here. No, I know I would have been a lot more choosy. lol
Me too. There are more than one that I would like to "undo" if I could lol.
03/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I'm happy with what I've done and had. No regrets. Well, there was this one guy....told him no, the only time I said no and regretted it afterward.... Nothing I can do about it now.

In retrospect, I think it would have complicated things, as I was nearly engaged. So, probably better I didn't. Still, sometimes I wonder.

But, I do not regret any experience I did have. It all added to the tapestry of what made me what I am now. Bad or good.
03/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by 831Nikki
To be perfectly honest, I constantly beat myself up for the stupid choices I've made. I got into double digits by the time I was 21. I didn't even get into the game until I was almost 18 & I waited so long because I wanted to ... more
You can't change the past. But, you can change where you are now. If your town sucks....think about what you can do to make change in your life.

I've taken some risks and regretted few of them. Sometimes, it's the biggest steps that cause the biggest changes.

Bievan, the same for your situation. I'm certainly not suggesting cheating, but changing what the situation is. You can't move forward when you are standing still. I know it's hard. But, true change usually hurts while you are doing it.

Love and hugs, OK?
03/11/2011
Contributor: Britny Britny
I wish I had fewer. Not that I regret my past but now I look back and wish that I had only had my hubby.
03/11/2011
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I wish I wasn't an uptight Roman catholic for many years and had more sex, but I'm still young so I have plenty of time to make up for my prude phase
03/11/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm more than happy with my small number!
03/11/2011
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I'm pretty happy with my number. Small enough for no regrets, but enough (for me) that I won't end up wishing I had experienced more when I get around to settling down.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
I wish I'd have had more confidence earlier in my life so I could date more women (and consequently have more chances of having sex), but I don't actually wish I had sex with more women...if that makes any sense.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Passionate Pastor Passionate Pastor
Only one and very glad.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I want quality over quantity - so far, the quality's been crap with the all the guys I can count on one hand.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I grew up in a small town and always worried that any indiscretions would come back to haunt me, combined with marrying young.... I wish I would have let go "just a little bit" more.
03/11/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
The only person I've ever made love to was Hubby and that is extremely special to me but every once in a while I do wish I had more experience because there's times when I find my mind wondering off in a direction that surprises me and I think that could have been avoided if I had more experience. Not that I would ever change anything though because I enjoy what I have and would never jeopardize it. It's just one of those things that creeps into my mind from time to time.
03/11/2011
Contributor: ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
Quote:
Originally posted by Solar Ray
Does anyone have regrets of not having more sexual partners... or wishes they had fewer or are you content with your "number" and experiences so far?

I'll keep it private to try and get the most honest opinions.
Two is not enough. And, I am not wanting two hundred either. I just don't don't have the luck or attraction. I have been on ten cruises and never got laid. I am now, I forgot 48 tomorrow and I have twenty - thirty years left to make up for the lost time. Although I would rather have a quality and happy relationship over hash marks. The X2B gave me up years ago. That was her loss/choice. I want to be loved, and make love again, soon and always.
09/25/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Solar Ray
Does anyone have regrets of not having more sexual partners... or wishes they had fewer or are you content with your "number" and experiences so far?

I'll keep it private to try and get the most honest opinions.
I know a lot of people are super hung up on numbers... For guys high numbers are thought of as good by other guys and by girls to a point. For us girls when the numbers hit double digits we are suddenly looked at as sluts by other girls and as easy or loose by guys. Not a lot of fairness in it sadly but hey the fair only comes once a year in most towns so...

I am totally happy with the number of folks I have had sex with - and don't really care what others might think because in the end the only opinion that matters is my own of myself. I have had sex with 26 guys so far and 4 girls. Right now some are going WOW! Some are going OmG what a slut! Some are going how could you do that to yourself...bla bla bla. Again because we as people are all pre-programed to reject, judge and ridicule that which is not normal to us or not what we in our group feel fits in.

I am proud of who I am - what I have done and who I have done it with. I have no desire to change and I sleep quite well every night. I have no guilt and can look in the mirror and I like the person I see looking back. Be true to yourself before you worry about being true to the expectations of others and live life how you see fit.

It doesn't matter if you have fake boobs like me - or real ones like I had, if you have a c-section mark like I do now or a 6-pack set of abs, a shaved pussy or natural.... we color our hair, paint our nails and even add fake ones - we wear push up bras and add ear rings the size of bass lures to attract attention to ourselves complete in many cases with hundred dollar jeans with the "Does this make my ass look fat" question. Everyone wants something they don't have and hates something that they do.

So in answer to the content part - yes I am. If I had only slept with 1, or 100, or as I am in between I am content with me.
11/04/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Solar Ray
Does anyone have regrets of not having more sexual partners... or wishes they had fewer or are you content with your "number" and experiences so far?

I'll keep it private to try and get the most honest opinions.
Fewer. Wish I waited for love.
11/04/2011
Contributor: mudpie mudpie
More. I don't care about the number of partners, but I like sex and I'd like to be having more of it.
11/12/2011