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Which sexual act, was done to you first?

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Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Oral sex was the first type of sex I ever had. But when I get to the second type, people use think that's weird or different. I then had anal sex, before I ever had sexual intercourse. So I just wanted to know, out of the three choices, which was done to you first? I want to know if anyone else has had anal sex before regular sexual intercourse.

For example: If you PERFORMED oral sex on someone else, but had regular sexual intercourse before oral was performed on you, then I would be asking for the answer of sexual intercourse.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Oral Sex
sexysweetieshan , buzzvibe , Alicia , Lustful Dreams , SexyySarah , Red Vinyl Kitty , Coralbell , Jenn (aka kissmykitty) , Illusional , happeegrl03 , OhMy! , Liz , BethanyLynn , Lady Venus , JPito , Sera , Envy , mrs.mckrakn , Kim! , Naughty Student , Madeira , lil ladybug , Dusk , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Alegria , Andromeda , slynch , sixfootsex , Eden C. , LennaKieran , Rossie , MaryExy , DeliciousSurprise , hornypoet69 , toxie m , Willis2011 , froggiemoma , Judas Iscars , cobiffle , CD37 , Cream in the Cupcake , UnknownGirl , Wondermom , EJ , LavenderSkies , Jaimes , Ansley , klyte , leatherlover , The Curious Couple , Jobo , Masokisti , bayosgirl , Tripod95 , Jammin14580 , reknit , bmweida , skinhunger , allinonekid , shinypinkstars , guard083
61  (43%)
Sexual Intercourse
Miss B Haven , Kayla , NymphetamineKiss , Tori Rebel , ToyTimeTim , Jenna.J.Ross , ZenaidaMacroura , fatesrelease , Sammi , Midway through , MuffysPinguLove , deltalima , Liz2 , Yoda , Kinky Skier , Blinker , Felinity , Tuesday , LittleBoPeep , Love Buzz , The Nakanas , RadRach , AoE , Hot'n'Bothered , Jenniae09 , meganthomas , Shellz31 , Lummox , Taylor , Selective Sensualist , padmeamidala , kelaaa33wish , Joie de Cherresse , jenn g , LAndJ , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary , BuckeyeGal04 , Moein , PassionateLover2 , TameTemptress
40  (28%)
Anal Sex
Antipova
1  (1%)
I have never done any of the above three.
Other - because you always have to have other as a choice.
Miss Naughty Kitty , Adriana Ravenlust , P'Gell , Latsyrc728 , Darling Jen , PassionQT , Gunsmoke , PonyPlay , Waterfall , Alan & Michele , usmcwife99 , Airen Wolf , Mr. E , nolongerhere , evanovca , sumie , null , mllebeauty , kawigrl , mb , chidoll , liilii080 , newfoundlust , M121212 , Emma (Girl With Fire) , Miss Zombie , ToyGurl , mandiegk , Beck , beachluv51800 , DreamWolf , link82 , jedent , HannahPanda , aliceinthehole , Daemonin , Cherry21 , RonLee , NarcissisticLust
39  (28%)
Total votes: 141
Poll is closed
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Useful topic breakdown on Anal Sex:

Question for Peggers...do you also enjoy anal sex
So for the ladies that peg their men, do you also enjoy being penetrated anally? Men, feel free to answer for your lady.

Oral after anal?
girls, do you/would you perform oral sex on your partner after you've had anal sex?

Best toys for beginner for anal?
Hello, My partner and I are interested in having anal sex, but his penis is just far too big to start with. Every time we try it is too painful, then.

Bi and gay anal sex
I'm a 45 year old bi guy. I'm not as experienced as many others, but have been with a man one on one, and participated in a couple of MMF threesomes..

IBS and anal sex...
I have recently developed irritable bowel syndrome, making my bowel movements overactive and extremely painful. Because of this I can't enjoy anal sex
08/03/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
I was fingered before i had any kinda other sexual contact.
08/03/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Naughty Kitty
I was fingered before i had any kinda other sexual contact.
So was I, but that's what I was asking, was of the three choices (not including fingering or kissing or anything else), which was done first. SO I was just asking about oral sex, sexual intercourse, and anal, which was first. Only one of the three I was wanting.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Miss B Haven Miss B Haven
The first thing ever done to me was vaginal sex. The guy I was with said he wasn't a fan of oral, giving or receiving.
08/03/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
The first sex I ever had was Manual Sexual stimulation. I was young (16) and a virgin, and I wasn't ready for PIV sex yet, we didn't have anal sex until years later (after we were married a long time, in fact) and we didn't even have oral sex until after we had PIV sex.

I was young and inexperienced, and My Man thought that manual stim was the best way to introduce me to sexual relations. He was absolutely right, for my needs at the time. We had PIV sex a month or so later, and then he persuaded me to try oral only a week or so later after I had given him oral, for some reason I was afraid to let him go down on me. Was I nuts? No, just young and didn't realize a lot of men really like it!

I DO consider manual stimulation "sex!" It is very intimate, he took it slow, it probably did away with any "cherry" I might have had, although there was no evidence of a hymen, as far as I know. And it probably prevented me from having any pain or bleeding when we first did have PIV intercourse.

But, I guess PIV first, it you don't want to count manual stim. Thing is, we STILL do a lot of manual stim. It's a hell of a lot of fun, and you can do it anywhere, and we engage in it frequently, alone or with other forms of sex.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Sexual Intercourse. In that relationship I never received oral sex. Which I now realize was bullshit considering how many times I performed it. Current relationship is going much better.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Latsyrc728 Latsyrc728
I was also fingered first. : )
08/03/2010
Contributor: NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
PIV sex was my answer - hell, the episode in which I lost my virginity (damn, wish I could find that thing ) really sucked, and only involved very bad PIV sex.
08/03/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Latsyrc728
I was also fingered first. : )
I understand most people were fingered first, because I was too. But I was asking OF THE THREE CHOICES which was first for everyone. I know I put that in the original post, so I don't know why people are missing that. Oh well. Thanks for your input anyways.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I received and gave oral first, which was followed by sex a few months later and then anal sex did not come along until about six YEARS after that! I've only ever had anal sex with my husband because I never felt comfortable with it before.
08/03/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
I received and gave oral first, which was followed by sex a few months later and then anal sex did not come along until about six YEARS after that! I've only ever had anal sex with my husband because I never felt comfortable with it before.
I kind of figured I would get that response to this question. Most people did not have anal sex until way after oral and regular sex. I guess I'm just weird. Lol. We wanted to wait for sexual intercourse until we were married, and we had tried all kinds of stuff, so we decided to try anal sex and enjoyed it. It satisfied us for the few months before our marriage. I was just hoping to find someone who had a situation more similar to myself! Haha.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
Manual sex was my first (aka finger stimulation). Penetration didn't happen for almost a year after. And we've engaged in anal play only years after that.
08/03/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
Oral was first. I starting doing some like petting when I was in eighth grade and then jumped into oral at 16, then lost virginity at 17.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I recieved oral first. I was about 16 at the time. We definitely started slower with things like fingering/kissing/pett ing though.
08/03/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Red Vinyl Kitty
I recieved oral first. I was about 16 at the time. We definitely started slower with things like fingering/kissing/pett ing though.
Thank you for understanding the question! Haha. Some people keep answering other because they did smaller things like fingering first. I also did myself. But I was asking for a choice of the three, so thank you!
08/03/2010
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
(EdenFantasys)
Making out and fingering came first, of course, followed by oral. I was 15.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
Quote:
Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
Thank you for understanding the question! Haha. Some people keep answering other because they did smaller things like fingering first. I also did myself. But I was asking for a choice of the three, so thank you!
Not everyone defines sex the same. Plus not all of us are in traditional bio-female/bio-male relationships. For example: my partner doesn't have a penis, so if someone thinks sex has to be penis-vagina penetration would they still think I'm a virgin? Cause I'm definitely not. And what about male/male relationships with no vagina between the two?

So fingering IS sex to me. It's sexual play, direct contact to the genitals, with the purpose of orgasm.
08/03/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I'm not going to count kissing, so I'll have to go with getting fingered.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I voted other because - I think it's pretty common to explore manual stimulation before oral or intercourse - that was true for me.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Jenna.J.Ross Jenna.J.Ross
I was young and naive and with someone who knew much more about sex then I did. I trusted them to make decisions for me so we ended up having vaginal sex before any other sort of play was explored. Up until my current partner I would get told "im not a fan of oral" in every relationship. Now that I've experienced it I don't know how I went so long without it being part of my relationships
08/03/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
I was voted for oral because that's the first of the three options you mentioned that was performed on me, but fingering came before that for me as well (I was 14).
08/03/2010
Contributor: PonyPlay PonyPlay
I did pretty much everything before I actually had sex. It was very progressive, kissing to making out to touching to mutual masturbation to oral to sex. It was nice though because we learned what we liked before we had sex.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
Fingering came first for me.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
In order.. technically mutual masturbation was first. But yeh, sexual intercourse happened with the same person a few minutes later SOOOO..
08/04/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Darling Jen
Not everyone defines sex the same. Plus not all of us are in traditional bio-female/bio-male relationships. For example: my partner doesn't have a penis, so if someone thinks sex has to be penis-vagina penetration would they still think I'm a ... more
I know, I would consider it sexual too. I was just pointing out that the whole point of the question was to pick one of the three choices, because I know most people's first experiences are probably fingering.
08/04/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
I know, I would consider it sexual too. I was just pointing out that the whole point of the question was to pick one of the three choices, because I know most people's first experiences are probably fingering.
For me it was vaginal intercourse but this followed a few intense fingering sessions.
08/04/2010
Contributor: Kinky Skier Kinky Skier
i got laid two days before my first bj
08/04/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
For me, my bf did oral, for him, I did handjobs. I was soooo embarrassed, too. ><; I don't exactly have the best looking cootch out there.
08/05/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
oral..it was weird. didnt enjoy it. now i do!
10/11/2010