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Another post I commented on a sec ago really got me thinking about my past partners. I have been with about 12 guys give or take one or two. Only my current partner has ever made me have an orgasm, and as far as I can remember I don't think any
Another post I commented on a sec ago really got me thinking about my past partners. I have been with about 12 guys give or take one or two. Only my current partner has ever made me have an orgasm, and as far as I can remember I don't think any of the others ever even tried it. How can men have sex with a woman and not care to fully satisfy her?
There are several factors to consider... But first Nina Hartly talks about us all being responsible for our own orgasms and that our partner is only helping us to get there. She had this posted on Eden so check it out. Awesome and very-very smart lady! Ok... so now to my humble opinion.
I think in part its poor communication from our side. Really, how often do you tell your man (or woman) what you like and when it feels good? Or when it doesn't and what might work better.
The next is arrogance and maybe a touch of overconfidence. I have had guys tell me they would rock my world! I will do you so good you will beg me to stop! You wont be able to walk! Bla bla bla. It all sounds good but its most often ego. And to posture so you pick them to give it up to over the less alpha guys. Really they dont think they are that good- but if the talk gets you to drop your panties it still worked for them.
When I was younger I used to fuck a lot... ok I still do
but then I didn' t know either. Its been years of failure sex, ok sex and OMG!! Mind blowing sex that has taught me how and what I want. Now its my job to tell them- or teach them so they get better. If you think your great and never get told your not and this is why - how do you get better?
As an example... I am in a sexually open marriage. My husband is decent at fucking but incredible at giving me oral!!! My current boytoy is my sudo- gym trainer. Hes 23, like 6'5" or taller and in fantastic shape! An ass you could slap or bite to die for, and rock hard abbs, big guns and a huge 8+ inch dick that is very thick. Sounds perfect? Well... great at fucking if you like it hard, deep and six eays past Sunday. You get done and feel like you were on a roller coaster cause of being backwards upside down and sideways. But... if you want it any other way he doesnt know how cause his little 19 year old fuck bunny before me didnt know how to tell him what else he needs to know. His other flaw is hes not good at eating pussy so ge shys away from it. He has huge potential for being one of the guys you dream about to have in bed... and I will do my best through frequent practice to get him thete.
Anyway... some guys are just not going to improve. Some want to but just need some good non critical communication and help. Practice makes perfect as does patience. You just may have to take the lead no matter how big of a talker he is. XOX CreamySweet