Anal sex is painful

Contributor: Katsmeow Katsmeow
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How many people find anal sex enjoyable? Can or do you have anal orgasms?
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Constructive discussions on Anal Sex:

What is YOUR "wildest" anal sex experience?
I posted my true wildest story as the answer to another question elsewhere on the Forum, but it occurred to me it may make for an interesting...

Advice for the not so experienced?
So me and my husband started some anal sex lately but it still hurts when he is in me but not my smaller toys any suggestions that may help? We...

Anal Toy Suggestions
I have been having anal sex with my husband for like 8 years now but have never used any anal toys. Should I still start with beginner ones or not?

Anal Sex: Men and Women please
My wife and I talked about anal sex and tried it once. But that did not work out to well, so my question is....... Is anal sex as good as they make it

Best and safest way to be clean before trying anal sex?
What would be the best and safest way to get clean before experiencing anal sex?
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Guy here, not sure if you are looking for a female or male's perspective. Although I have not been pegged, I find it very pleasurable to have anal fun with toys. Not sure if that helps or not!
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
I'm female, and I do find anal sex painful sometimes. If so, I stop. But when it works out, it feels amazing, and I've definitely had anal only orgasms.
Contributor: Cori Cori
Anal can be painful but you can always stop. What really helped me was reading some informative books on anal sex (they have some good reads on here!) and took I it slow at first. Once you get past that initial pain, it can be very pleasurable.
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Without proper preparation YES it will be painful. With stretching and always using lots of lube NO it isn't or at least shouldn't be.
Contributor: FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Agreeing with what's been said. Anal sex is painful without lube and preparation. How much preparation you need depends on your own preferences, and how you're feeling that day. For me, personally, I like to have a lot of foreplay and tp orgasm at least once before any anal penetration. It helps me relax and it makes the experience more enjoyable. Fingers first, before penises or toys, even if it's just one finger to work some lube inside.

As for orgasms... Never had an orgasm from anal stimulation only, but anal penetration makes other kinds of orgasms more powerful for me.
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
I've had really painful anal experiences, but then I've also had really good anal experiences.

The really good ones involve lots of lube.
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
What others said. Go slow, use lots of lube, and you should be fine.
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I find anal penetration extremely pleasurable when enough lube is used and I am really aroused. Anal orgasms happen for me nearly everytime.
Contributor: Gyrator Gyrator
Anal is quite painless if you take enough time to relax, use enough lube and avoid sudden penetration and over-large toys. For us men the prostate makes it possible to have the most amazing orgasms - something every man should experience IMO.
Contributor: Katsmeow Katsmeow
I agree that plenty of lube should be used and go slowly.
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
If your doing it right anal should never hurt. Go slow, use lots and lots of lube and pay attention to your body. I find anal very pleasure and I can have a orgasm from it very easily and it only hurt twice once when my hand slip and the toy went in before I was ready and when I accidentally used a warming lube with the toy (the warming was too intense) .
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
really, like everyone has said, it is only painful for me (a girl) when it happens to quickly. lots of wetness, and going very slow is the way. i have found it to be very much enjoyable in the shower. the water helps i think.

i have not finished from just that and i'm not sure i will ever be able to. but we are trying anal play when he is going down on me. so when i do finish, i can associate the orgasm with anal play. and i think it has been working very well so far
Contributor: kz916 kz916
i dont like it.
Contributor: js250 js250
It was seriously painful and caused a bit of damage when we tried it. Not an option for us anymore.
Contributor: Funtastic Funtastic
I enjoy it, and no pain.
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
Originally posted by Katsmeow
How many people find anal sex enjoyable? Can or do you have anal orgasms?
I LOVE ANAL SEX. I can't orgasm from anal stimulation alone but if I stimulate my clitoris while I have something in my ass it leads to an incredibly powerful orgasm. As long as you use lots of lube and warm up appropriately with fingers and butt plugs so that you are thoroughly relaxed anal sex does not hurt at all. If it is hurting you then you are doing it wrong and you need more warm up. You can't just shove a penis in and expect it not to hurt (this is dangerous as well). You have to warm up first.
Contributor: Pinkie Pie Pinkie Pie
I find it enjoyable, and I can come if it's dp
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
I think its really hot
Contributor: Jensen Jensen
Definitely possible for a buttgasm.
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
I love anal stimulation. I haven't had an orgasm from anal stimulation alone but I do find that when I orgasm from clitoral stimulation while simultaneously stimulating my ass it makes my orgasms significantly more intense.