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Please help - first time
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If you were going to get someone a toy who had never had one before...
...What would you go with? What if you didn't know what they might like. For couples or by themself. Either way. P:
first time
whats the best toy to use for a beginner?
Your ideal first time threesome? A purely "What If" question!
This is purely a What If question, so please answer it that way. I'm not asking if you would or wouldn't or if you have or haven't, I'm just asking..
Tips for first time strap-on sex?
so im in college and my girlfriend is living back home. we discussed strap on play before but never got around to it. then one day she sent me some...
My first time.
I have never used a vibrator before and I just wanted to know what should I go with first. Are there vibrators for first timers or should I just jump.
Try using slim toys to get her muscles used to stretching and always make sure that she is well lubricated before trying to have vaginal intercourse. For the first time, it would probably be best if you were on top. If her hymen is still in tact it might take a good bit of thrusting to break through to the other side.
Make sure you're protected too!

Now I am not saying that this is the problem you are experiencing, but you should consider consulting a physician before. It does becom a long term problem if you can not solve this.
I would hate to see a nice couple go through a similar situation.
For now, take it slow, relax and do not get discouraged, good luck.
My mother reportedly had the same problem when she got married, as she was a virgin, and I suspect the teachings of her religion were involved with causing her involuntary muscle contractions. In a way, vaginismus is the female version of erectile dysfunction. It's not the woman's fault, and it's not under her control.
I wouldn't suggest just pushing through the resistance, as a painful experience is likely to cause the involuntary clenching to become worse through negative associations. I would suggest avoiding any vaginal penetration at all for awhile, and just focusing on all the other kinds of sexual pleasure you can give each other, such as all-over touching and kissing, manual sex (handjobs, and touching/rubbing the clitoris), oral sex, using external toys together (such as vibrators), and whatever else you can dream up. Be creative, and maybe read some erotica together for ideas. After you've gotten pretty good at making each other feel good in those ways, and she feels really ready after a lot of teasing, try using your finger or a very slim toy (like the Small Silk from Tantus, or a smooth plastic vibrator). If that works, meaning it feels good to her and isn't painful, then do that a few times, and then, next time you have sex, start with the finger or small toy, then move up to a slightly larger toy. Two fingers are usually fairly thick, so you might go from your pinky finger to your index or middle finger, rather than from one finger to two fingers.
Keep increasing the size of the penetrating item every few times you have sex, but starting off with the smallest item and working your way up through the different sizes. With patience and time, you'll hopefully graduate to a size close to your penis' size, and be able to have intercourse.
Try to remember, though, that there are many ways to have sex that don't involve a penis inside a vagina, and you'll be cutting down on your chances of pregnancy this way, too. Don't get frustrated if it takes a long time before she can even handle a small toy--just find other ways to get each other off!
Try using slim toys to get her muscles used to stretching and always make sure that she is well lubricated before trying to have vaginal intercourse. For the first time, it would ... more
Try using slim toys to get her muscles used to stretching and always make sure that she is well lubricated before trying to have vaginal intercourse. For the first time, it would probably be best if you were on top. If her hymen is still in tact it might take a good bit of thrusting to break through to the other side. less
Also saying that you need to break through the hymen is rather misleading. It isn't a wall. You just need to gently stretch it back.
Obviously, lots of lube and foreplay will help. If you feel uncomfortable using toys, fingers do the trick. Just go slowlllyyyyy. Work your way up to PIV.