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Contributor: muffles muffles
Ok, I've read a bunch about G-spot stimulation but every time I try it with my girlfriend she says it's uncomfortable and wants to stop. She's urinated before trying, but I think maybe part of it is she's scared of peeing (even though I've told her it's normal but doesn't actually happen - usually?)? I've tried in several positions with fingers and also the pure wand.

Can anyone help me overcome her issues? Has anyone had similar experiences? I want her to be able to at least try to have a g-spot orgasm, but it doesn't get very far
03/04/2011
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Contributor: CSEA CSEA
To tell you the truth, the first time it happened for me it was unexpected. It was Cinco de Mayo may 5th. We had a little party with tacos and all, and drinking games. Fun lol Once everyone left, and had a few drinks in our system, we had sex. He fingered me alot before actually going in and once in slowly went deeper and deeper. I was siting on top of him as he leaned back on the couch (idk if the position makes a difference) and it happened. We both were like wow, what just happened? Lol I even did think I had peed, but I didnt. The feeling was different and even now, it comes natural after that. The point to this I say is not to stress it. The more you think about it and try and try, the harder. She needs to be totally relaxed and open for business. Take time, go deep, try different positions possibly. It will happen! For me its not everytime, but when it does it does He loves it and I do too!
03/04/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Try starting out with a lighter touch to her G-spot. My wife does not like firm pressure but rather a soft stroking. I find that giving her clit some attention first helps a bunch as well, it gets her worked up and that will engorge the G-spot. Then just a light touch with the pad of my finger will do the trick.

Something to remember is that not all women like G-spot stimulationor can come from it. So if you find that she does not like it, don't push it.

Good luck.
03/04/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
I only orgasm this way after one or two really good, hard sex sessions. Clitoral stimulation is a must for me. I use a vibe and he'll either use a toy or his fingers inside of me.

It probably happens one out of every fifty or so sessions. It's not something we actively try to accomplish and it was an accident the first time it happened.

Bringing it up a lot or getting pouty when it doesn't happen can only make the situation worse. If she isn't relaxed or totally into it, it won't happen.

Performing a direct assault on the g-spot doesn't help, either. It can quickly become irritated thus irritating your lady.
03/04/2011
Contributor: Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Try starting out with a lighter touch to her G-spot. My wife does not like firm pressure but rather a soft stroking. I find that giving her clit some attention first helps a bunch as well, it gets her worked up and that will engorge the G-spot. Then ... more
I like the clitoral stimulation before g-spot as well. And, great way of putting it Dwtim, it does engorge the g-spot!

Muffles, my hubby and I have been having sex together for 27 years and we just recently discovered my g-spot. It kind of freaked me out at first because I thought I was going to pee. Go slow and easy with your gf, it can be a frightening experience at first.
03/04/2011
Contributor: muffles muffles
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Try starting out with a lighter touch to her G-spot. My wife does not like firm pressure but rather a soft stroking. I find that giving her clit some attention first helps a bunch as well, it gets her worked up and that will engorge the G-spot. Then ... more
I read that after the G-spot is engorged that it needs firmer pressure usually, so you just use a light touch the whole time?
03/09/2011
Contributor: muffles muffles
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Originally posted by PussyGalore
I only orgasm this way after one or two really good, hard sex sessions. Clitoral stimulation is a must for me. I use a vibe and he'll either use a toy or his fingers inside of me.

It probably happens one out of every fifty or so sessions. ... more
I haven't gone straight for the G-spot, she usually has a clitoral orgasm beforehand - she cums quick (although not much after that usually ). I also wait a bit before going for the G-spot - do you wait long or not so much? And you have clitoral stimulation simultaneously the whole time your G-spot is being stimulated?


Thank you all for your input so far
03/09/2011
Contributor: (Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
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Originally posted by muffles
Ok, I've read a bunch about G-spot stimulation but every time I try it with my girlfriend she says it's uncomfortable and wants to stop. She's urinated before trying, but I think maybe part of it is she's scared of peeing (even though ... more
I definitely still have the "have-to-pee" feeling. But to me, by now, it indicates that I'm close. I usually need more diffuse pressure. One thing that helped me was a Hitachi or even firm palm pressure right above my pubic bone (slightly to my right, because I'm built differently I guess).

That sort of pressure makes it more diffuse, if that makes any sense? So it helps me build slowly to orgasm, rather than the intensity of direct, internal finger/dildo pressure.

Has she tried an item like Lelo Pleasure System Beads? Those or Gyneflex (the Lelo ones are sexier and ... ahem ... $25 on Amazon). Helped me feel more in control of whether I'd pee or come. I have both, and the Lelo work quickly, as in...a week or two. Without trying very hard!

I've peed once before and was mortified. Towels suck. Giving the Liberator blankie a shot. I dunno. I'll see if it works for me and report back.

Good luck, I think most women have to go through this song and dance before they become comfortable with female ejaculation. Society? Maybe. Either way, I hope things work out.

The mental pressure can be rough on me, so I used to have a glass of wine prior (plus, red wine seems to flush my body and make me frisky) as well as a niacin tablet. Relaxed me and got the blood flowing.
03/10/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by muffles
I read that after the G-spot is engorged that it needs firmer pressure usually, so you just use a light touch the whole time?
With fingers, most of the time yes, even with toys. She does not like hard/firm toys. So applying firm pressure with those is somewhat hard. Now during PIV sex, she likes to have more pressure. That is accomplished through position.
03/10/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
Is she able to have one on her own? If she hasn't maybe you could encourage her to explore a little bit on her own. Once she gets used to how things feel, she may feel a little bit more comfortable trying things with you.
03/10/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
I've had them and I still don't like having my g spot stimulated sometimes. Just make her comfortable, listen to her, and try new things.
03/11/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
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Originally posted by muffles
I haven't gone straight for the G-spot, she usually has a clitoral orgasm beforehand - she cums quick (although not much after that usually ). I also wait a bit before going for the G-spot - do you wait long or not so much? And you have clitoral ... more
Usually, we start playing again within ten minutes and I have constant clitoral stimulation during.

But, hey man if she doesn't like it she doesn't like it. I doubt you would like her pressing an issue like this with you if it was something you didn't enjoy.
03/11/2011
Contributor: tigerkate tigerkate
I agree, if she doesn't like it, it's going to make it much more of an issue if you keep pushing.

I think just being very aroused is helpful.
03/11/2011
Contributor: TumorCrunch TumorCrunch
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Originally posted by muffles
Ok, I've read a bunch about G-spot stimulation but every time I try it with my girlfriend she says it's uncomfortable and wants to stop. She's urinated before trying, but I think maybe part of it is she's scared of peeing (even though ... more
she might just be extra sensitive. it hurts me too :/
03/12/2011
Contributor: Love Bites Love Bites
Ok so actually this is just a question that I asked over another conversation but this seems more like the place to ask

Is that sensation from gspot stimulation,like needing to pee (or feeling that way)?
And is that from needing to pee or coming?
03/12/2011
Contributor: muffles muffles
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
Is she able to have one on her own? If she hasn't maybe you could encourage her to explore a little bit on her own. Once she gets used to how things feel, she may feel a little bit more comfortable trying things with you.
Well... she doesn't masturbate much on her own as she says she'd rather do it with me, which is sweet of her ... but I'm mostly trying to get her to explore her sexuality a bit more, I can ask again although she's been busy...
03/14/2011
Contributor: muffles muffles
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
Usually, we start playing again within ten minutes and I have constant clitoral stimulation during.

But, hey man if she doesn't like it she doesn't like it. I doubt you would like her pressing an issue like this with you if it was ... more
Thanks, I'll keep that in mind when we try next. I don't pressure her, although it can't hurt to talk about it a bit more. I know it might take time but I want her to have the option of having a G-spot orgasm - supposedly some women like anal sex better than vaginal(?), and that is another topic which we are not going to try anytime soon.
03/14/2011