Soar from Anal weekend?

Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
Okay, so my girl decided to play with my back side 2 times this weekend while she pleasured herself. I didn't complain. However, I'm a bit soar now. What dangers are there from anal? She did use a dildo.
07/06/2010
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07/06/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Well, after the fact there are some questions:
1. Are you bleeding?
2. Does it hurt to pass things?

If you answer either with "yes", time to make the embarrassing trip to the doctor. Sorry!
07/06/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I've had the pain since my guy is a bit large especially for anal. Sometimes if I don't relax enough, I'll be sitting a bit weird for a few days. Too much strain on the anus either pushing things out or having things pushing in can cause small tearing or fissures which are painful blister like soars that go away with time, but can pop and bleed.
07/06/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
If you don't have any of the symptoms JR mentioned, you could have also bruised your prostate. I've never experienced this (as I have no prostate to bruise) but it happens and can be a bit tender for a few days.

Also, any anal play without quite enough lube can cause general soreness or mild tearing or fissures as Lauren explained - NOT FUN.
07/06/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by shepegsME
Okay, so my girl decided to play with my back side 2 times this weekend while she pleasured herself. I didn't complain. However, I'm a bit soar now. What dangers are there from anal? She did use a dildo.
Did you mean that you are sore? Spell check can't catch misuse, only misspelling!

FYI - to soar means to fly or take flight.
07/06/2010
Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
lol, sorry for the misspell guys. Sore is correct and zero bleeding. Just feel uncomfy. Thanks for the feedback. Gotta tell the GF to take it easy back there I guess.
07/06/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
If the soreness is a couple of inches up inside it might be that your prostate took a harder beating than it likes, if it's right at the anus or immediately inside than it's something else.

There are a couple of possibilities:

First, did you use enough lube? Sounds like a stupid question, but you can use a whole bunch of lube and not have it be effective. You need to make sure that the lube stays on the toy and lubricates inside the anus. Sometimes lube gets "squeegeed" off by the anus as you play, and you get too dry even though there seems to be a lot of lube around your bottom. This gets worse if you clench your anus.

Also, clenching your anus can lead to soreness more directly, especially with a textured toy. It's very easy to clench, especially when you or your partner are playing with your penis, but it can lead to discomfort later.

Look at what happened and think of ways to fix it so the next time you have an anal weekend you can "soar".
07/07/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by shepegsME
lol, sorry for the misspell guys. Sore is correct and zero bleeding. Just feel uncomfy. Thanks for the feedback. Gotta tell the GF to take it easy back there I guess.
You are in good shape then, in all honesty you have probably had the same discomfort more than once in your life just from the natural stuff passing through, no? Takes a few days for the muscles to relax. You'll be fine
07/07/2010
Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
You are in good shape then, in all honesty you have probably had the same discomfort more than once in your life just from the natural stuff passing through, no? Takes a few days for the muscles to relax. You'll be fine
yeah, took some days off. No anal play, no masturbation. lol

I think it was the change in position. I was bent over the sink in the bathroom as she was behind me pegging away. She did peg me a bit hard.
07/07/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Just take it easy next time. I would also suggest that you practice alone with butt plugs and dils with bases. My b/f plays with the Jolly Jack during masturbation and no pain just pleasure...says he.
07/07/2010
Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
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Originally posted by Liz2
Just take it easy next time. I would also suggest that you practice alone with butt plugs and dils with bases. My b/f plays with the Jolly Jack during masturbation and no pain just pleasure...says he.
Thank you Liz, yes, I'm taking it easy. No butt playing for a little while. Haven't even masturbated.

There's no pain while going to the restroom and no bleeding so I'm good. Just a little inner feeling of bloatedness. Like if you're gassy.

Gotta tell GF to take it easy on me. lol
07/08/2010
Contributor: pollux pollux
I'm glad I found this post. A week ago I got a new anal toy (Hand Maiden) that is absolutely freaking amazing. I was thrusting it a bit too hard and had some bleeding that subsided quickly and hasn't returned since. I got so close to an anal orgasm the first time I used the toy that I have tried again a few nights this week with no luck. My butt actually has a nice pulsating feeling all day (bruised prostate?), but tonight when I tried again it felt as though I had just pooped out some spicy food when I used my toy - even with a generous amount of lube. I'm going to take it easy for a few days, which I'm not happy about given how close I've come to having my first anal orgasm. I hope the soreness goes away so I can get back to exploring my back door.
02/19/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by shepegsME
Okay, so my girl decided to play with my back side 2 times this weekend while she pleasured herself. I didn't complain. However, I'm a bit soar now. What dangers are there from anal? She did use a dildo.
There is a peri-anal cleansing lotion called Balneol. They sell it in drug stores next to the hemorrhoid creams and wipes. White plastic bottle. We always keep it in our bathrooms for clean up and soothing of sore bottoms, from any reason. Very soothing, if that is the only issue.
06/01/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by shepegsME
Okay, so my girl decided to play with my back side 2 times this weekend while she pleasured herself. I didn't complain. However, I'm a bit soar now. What dangers are there from anal? She did use a dildo.
For us we use LOTS and LOTS of thick lube and honestly keep our anal toys VERY slender, despite being extremely experienced with anal play. That prevents the Monday Morning Sore Butt (MMSB)..a term WE coined years ago, before we learned the ropes.

As for damage...yes, it can range from creating an anal tear, and fissure infection, to tearing the intestinal mucosa and creating peritonitis. That is why one needs to pay CAREFUL attention to any PAIN caused during anal. Use TONS of lube...then use more, and once it is too much...THEN add lots more!!!!

Numbing anal lubes are also not a good idea for the very reason they prevent you from knowing when things are STARTING to go wrong.

Keep safe, have fun.
08/07/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Bignuf
There is a peri-anal cleansing lotion called Balneol. They sell it in drug stores next to the hemorrhoid creams and wipes. White plastic bottle. We always keep it in our bathrooms for clean up and soothing of sore bottoms, from any reason. Very ... more
Oh my...we thought we were the only folks on earth who knew about BALNEOL!!! Amazing stuff, just about $15 a bottle now, however. We keep it in ALL our bathrooms...always. Combine that with CVS brand wet wipes (NOT, amazingly, the Preparation H one's, which seem to BURN WORSE), but the CVS brand ones and "sore bums" feel SO, SO much better.
08/07/2011
Contributor: Spilock Spilock
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Originally posted by pollux
I'm glad I found this post. A week ago I got a new anal toy (Hand Maiden) that is absolutely freaking amazing. I was thrusting it a bit too hard and had some bleeding that subsided quickly and hasn't returned since. I got so close to an ... more
Bleeding is never a good sign. Depending on the amount, you'll either want to take it easy for a decent length of time (several days to perhaps a week) or go see a doctor. You know the saying, lots of lube, and stop immediately if there's any actual pain.
09/05/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Spilock
Bleeding is never a good sign. Depending on the amount, you'll either want to take it easy for a decent length of time (several days to perhaps a week) or go see a doctor. You know the saying, lots of lube, and stop immediately if there's any ... more
There are different types of bleeding. The least troublesome is from a slight abrasion of the mucosa. I've had that happen a couple of times when I wasn't careful - it shows up as just a bit of pink when you wipe, and usually goes away just as fast.

A anal fissure or tear is another type, where the object actually tears the anus because of insufficient lubrication or preparation. This takes a long time to heal and hurts, and the only cure is to lay of the buttfun for 1-2 weeks and keep it clean.

The most dangerous is a perforation or tear of the intestine. This can kill you, so be careful. If you see lots of blood go to the hospital, and during play be very careful, especially with anything that's pointed, and also don't do deep play with stiff toys.


Just saw the "Soar from anal" bit - most of us love to soar from anal (but few like to be sore from anal)!
09/10/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Yes ScottA I agree "Soar from anal" bit - most of us love to soar from anal (but few like to be sore from anal)!
09/10/2011
Contributor: Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
Dont rip it, if your bleeding it's bad. If not no worries, time should take care of it.
12/10/2011