acceptance - Created by The Mother of a SiNner on Jun 22, 2011: EdenFantasys Forum

The Mother of a SiNner

My daughter is very openly Bisexual And I love her for who she is not her personal sex choices. I was raised as a very strict anti gay family but my husband and I raised our children very differently she accepts everyone for who they are on the inside.

My sons not so much they are very cliche its hot for two women as long as those two women are porn stars and not their sister

My other daughter is just as accepting as I am even if it isnt her personal choice

We raise our grand children the same way

Recently I heardthe great debate that really upset my daughter when she was told she disgusted someone else for what she found to be beautiful and sexy it made me very angry but didnt know how to express it mainly because getting enraged only makes a situation worse not better

I seen a button recently that said would you fight for his or her rights if they were born gay and after that discussion it came flooding back for me so myquetsion disccuion is

how do i handle that because im a mom first so i dont want my child to feel like she isnt who she is because someone said mean things that hurt her I love her openness and her need not to hide but at times i want to protect her even tho shes grown

06/22/2011

Tasty Latina

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Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner

First, I must say that no matter if she is Bi, gay or pansexual. She is still your daughter and no matter what NOTHING will change that. I have a nephew who wasn't sure of his preference. I always notice and in a way tried to get my sister ready for the day he decided one way or the other. It wasn't until he finished High School that he decided to tell his mom that he was gay. My sister called me crying and my answer to her was; Does it change how much you love him the fact that his gay? all it matters is that he is a good man and that he's happy. Or would you rather have a straight son who's a bandit?; only then she understood what I meant. We talked for hours on the phone that day as I prepared her for what was to come. His dad never again spoke with him. To this day he says he doesn't have a son.

I have many friends who are gay. I have talked to them about their experiences, how they came out and even how they dealt with family issues. My very best friend was married for a while just to please his family and to cover up the fact that he was gay. The result;? 2 people were very hurt.

So, to finalize my reply. I think the moral of all this is, that no matter what or who, she is your daughter and if someone doesn't agree with her choices they just don't have to be part of them. Life is way too short to be thinking about if others approve or not.

People will always talk, so let them talk. You both need to feel proud. She needs to look at herself and her accomplishments and be proud of herself. and you need to be proud that you have raised a child that has decided not to follow the path but to make her own. For that, takes a very strong and brave person.

I myself was not able to brake free of the Bi stigma for a long time. Wasn't until after 5 yrs of marriage that I finally accepted it. Some people didn't approved but they ended up accepting my choices and today they see it as a normal thing.

I wish you the best. You are the mom and you can always defend your daughter against the world if necessary.

Good Luck!!

07/28/2011