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If someone has only ever been with the opposite sex, do you think they can call themselves Bi?

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Contributor: kittenfacery kittenfacery
I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering what you guys think.

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doesn't count as Bi ... (comment)
DeliciousSurprise , 31 Flavors , g- , Trysexual , Gunsmoke , Jaxxie Lifeless
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does count as Bi ... (comment)
kittenfacery , ghalik , DeliciousSurprise , ejrbrndps , Destri , Emerlyn , darthkitt3n , GONE! , pootpootpoot , Peggi , PB13 , panda555 , indiglo , unfulfilled , Ciao. , PassionCpl , Ryuson , Arch600 , Nazaress , M.O.'s Girl , quinceykay , Kissy , Bex1331 , VelvetDragon , Phineas James Keane , hall5885 , joja , hyacinthgirl , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , c90 , SKINS , meezerosity , Gone (LD29) , Chami , pix , CutiePatootie , Youssii , Ms. N , pasdechat , CollegeFun2014 , thisisadeletedaccount , Love Obsessed , caligaliber , RomanticGoth , Jake'n'bake , KrissyNovacaine , Girly Juice , CadmiumKitty , Darklyvan , BiLikesSciFi42 , Bittenflame , friendswithfangs , elli , THINK. It's Sexy , MandaB , vitriolicvertigo , britanny0620 , BlooJay , alittlebit , SubmissiveFeminist , MaeGal , peachmarie , ichwillwaffels , PDXlady , bh253 , JennSenn , dirtythoughts:) , Kitten has left the site , xMila , lecanis , MissCandyland , snowyslut , potentialslayer , Jenyana , Skindiver , misty82 , blondie , Wonderstruck , clevercharlatan , Lildrummrgurl7 , Billie Bones , pleasurehunter , Bignuf , RonLee , jr2012 , Taylor , JessiShey , StasyRavish , Passion plum , emiliaa , glitterbombs , MidnightStorm , glasskitten , Beautiful-Disaster , Lady of the Lab , mr115393 , RedKyuubi , novanilla , Genderfree , Kat and Aaron(aaron) , LoooveMonkey , jamiewalsh , TheirPet , Alyona , kolink , rom323 , KiraCat , Falsepast , pestilence
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Other ... (comment)
Allison.Wilder , Stinkytofu10 , nori , Thumper Logic
4
Total votes: 119 (118 voters)
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Contributor: Destri Destri
I think if you are attracted to both sexes, you are bi, whether or not you have had any actual sexual experiences with the same sex....
05/06/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Of course it counts. If it didn't, then people would have to start disputing the sexualities of virgins of all sexualities, no matter how adamant they are about theirs.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Personally I don't think that there are any requirements to any orientation, because there are so many variables, but if YOU consider yourself bi, then sure, you're bi.

I don't think that any factor makes or breaks your feelings, you don't have to have sex with a person to love them, just as anyone who is asexual will tell you, so it doesn't matter who you've dated it matters that you are willing to open your heart to both genders.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
You are what you are regardless of what anyone elses opinion of what constitutes bisexual. If you think you're bisexual, then you are. If you think you're straight, then you're straight. Just be you and happy.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Wouldn't that be more Bi curious? I'm not positive, but either way that's Bi.
05/06/2012
Contributor: panda555 panda555
I have always personally thought in order to be bisexual you have to have the capability of loving and being with someone of the same sex in a long term relationship other wise it's just having fun or being curious. For example I have had sex with other men years ago in my teens and early twenties. I could never love a man and as it stands I would never have sex with a man again even if I was single. So I identify myself as hetro. In this though I would also say everyone has the right to identify as what ever makes them most comfortable in their sexuality that's the beauty of a free world and the freedom of sexuality we enjoy today XD
05/06/2012
Contributor: panda555 panda555
Quote:
Originally posted by Allison.Wilder
You are what you are regardless of what anyone elses opinion of what constitutes bisexual. If you think you're bisexual, then you are. If you think you're straight, then you're straight. Just be you and happy.
I agree well said XD
05/06/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by GONE!
Of course it counts. If it didn't, then people would have to start disputing the sexualities of virgins of all sexualities, no matter how adamant they are about theirs.
That's exactly what I was going to say.

If someone is straight and a virgin, no one questions that. So being gay or bi and a virgin (or a virgin with a particular gender) is not up for questioning either.
05/06/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'd consider it that way because you're curious about the same sex.
05/06/2012
Contributor: PassionCpl PassionCpl
I'd always considered it 'bi-curious' if you're attracted to the same sex but have never done anything about it. However, the more I think about it, the more I think that just makes you bi. Reason being, if you're only attracted to the opposite sex but are a virgin, no-one considers you 'straight-curious' do they? lol.

So I'd say you're bi but more than that, I'd also say you're just you
05/06/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
If you consider yourself to be bi, and have some attraction to both sexes, than yeah sure why not?
05/06/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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If you are attracted to both men and women you are bisexual. If someone's a virgin can they still be straight/bi/homosexual ? Or does being a virgin mean you're asexual until you have sex?

You can be whatever you want to be.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
Quote:
Originally posted by Allison.Wilder
You are what you are regardless of what anyone elses opinion of what constitutes bisexual. If you think you're bisexual, then you are. If you think you're straight, then you're straight. Just be you and happy.
Yes! Just be you and happy.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I absolutely loathe when people have the opinion that you can't be bisexual if you haven't been with both sexes. Oh, so then you weren't sure if you were heterosexual until you slept with the opposite gender? It almost always seems to be the same dumb people who say that you can't call yourself gay unless you've been with the same sex, yet they think you can call yourself straight no matter what. I came out as bisexual at the age of 16, I think it was, and I didn't have my first sexual encounter with a woman until I was 20 or 21 (I can't remember). Guess what that sexual encounter proved? NOTHING! I already knew I was bisexual and the sex was simply a result of that. People are so close-minded, I swear. Who are you (general you, not specifically you) to decide what someone else's sexuality is? Mind your own business and don't try to dictate someone else's life!
05/06/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
Quote:
Originally posted by panda555
I have always personally thought in order to be bisexual you have to have the capability of loving and being with someone of the same sex in a long term relationship other wise it's just having fun or being curious. For example I have had sex ... more
If I may add some input: If you are attracted to men as well as women, you ARE bisexual (if you choose to identify that way). If you are not romantically attracted to men, then that simply means that you are a hetero-romantic bisexual. Sex =/= Love (at least, not always). You are willing and interested in sex with both traditional genders but only a romantic relationship with women. That doesn't make you any less bisexual but rather, not bi-romantic.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
i think if you are attracted to both, yes you can say you are bi. there are a lot of people who knew they were gay or something else long before they initiated anything. just because you haven't done it all, doesn't mean that isn't how you feel
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
I'm bisexual and I've only ever made out with girls but I know I am very attracted to them, I'm just in a monogamous relationship with a man...
05/07/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
People can know who they're attracted to even if they've never had sex. I know many people who knew they were straight before they ever had sex. Same goes for gay and bi.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Phineas James Keane Phineas James Keane
You can be whatever you want to be! However you feel you identify is how you identify.
05/07/2012
Contributor: hall5885 hall5885
I say if you feel like you are bi then you are. My general rule is if you are truly attracted to both then you are bi, if you are just curious what it would be like but not genuinely attracted to the same sex, you're just bi curious (we all been curious about things that we normally never been into so why can't we be curious about things involving sex?). But that's my own general rule. Everyone is different in how they look at things.
05/09/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Your still on the border of being bi curious I think. I was the same way until I had been with my first girl. Then I did it again and enjoyed it even more. Then I started using the term bisexual. But to each their own if you want to say your bisexual then bi all means go for it. I don't see anything wrong with it.
05/09/2012
Contributor: Bullfroggy and Rose Bullfroggy and Rose
I think you are if you are attracted to both sexes.
05/10/2012
Contributor: Emerlyn Emerlyn
If you're attracted to both men and women then yes, you can call yourself Bi. Just because you've only been with the opposite sex it doesn't mean you're magically straight; and just being with the same sex doesn't mean you're magically gay/lesbian.
05/11/2012
Contributor: meezerosity meezerosity
Yes. If you are sexually attracted to both male and female regardless if you've been with only one or even none and are a virgin you can still identify as bisexual.
05/13/2012
Contributor: Chami Chami
i would count that more as bi-curios i believe
05/13/2012
Contributor: pix pix
I am bisexual and in the same situation as you. I just got lucky with the first guy I found and so far he seems to be the love of my life, we've been dating almost 5 years. If I had found a girl first, the story would probably be a lot different, especially since I am a bit more attracted to girls than guys. So even though I have sex with a guy, I still masturbate thinking about girls, watch lesbian porn, feel attracted to girls that I know, etc. And it definitely counts as bisexual.
05/17/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by kittenfacery
I myself consider myself Bi, and while i've never gotten further than kissing a girl, i've had sex with a guy and have gone out with guys. I still think i'm Bi as i look at pretty womens and make slurpy noises. but i'm just wondering ... more
Maybe, it depends on whether they feel sexual attraction toward female. If they feel sexual attraction toward both female and male, even if they are virgins, they are bi.
05/18/2012
Contributor: pasdechat pasdechat
I'm not bi, but I would say yes, definitely. It's a description of which gender(s) you're attracted to, not a description of which you've had sex with. If people can be straight or gay before they're sexually active at all, why can't a bi person be bi without having been sexually active with members of both sexes?
05/18/2012
Contributor: CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
There are many reasons why someone who is bi hasn't been with someone of their own sex. Say social stigmas or maybe they fell in love with someone before they had the chance to be with someone of the same sex. So yes, if you are bi but haven't been with someone of the opposite sex, you are still bi.
05/18/2012