What do you mean, "count"? If you have sexual feelings toward women, ok. If not, ok. If it passes in time, ok. Do what makes you happy and quit worrying about labels! If you're curious, flirt with a few girls. ;3

I think you shouldn't be so worried about labels. Life is too short. If you feel like having sex with girls, go for it. If it's just men, go for that. Just do what makes you happy!

I've had the same issue. I know I am find women attractive, but I don't have any real experience with them (dating or sexual), so I don't know what you would really call that. My husband reasons that I didn't have to date or have sex with a man to know I like men, so it should be no different for women. He would definitely say I am bisexual. I think I agree with BellaSucette's advice. I wish someone had told me that years ago.

Elona: I guess you're right I'm too worried about labels and everything to really focus on what I WANT, too busy thinking about thoughts being stereotypes than the meaning behind it.

BellaSucete: Basically, as before, labels sorta controlled that way of thinking, I didn't really look at it like that.

Yaoi Pervette: I think I was just confused because I've never been attracted to women before, and so clearly no experience to back it up.

In full, I think I just assumed I was only attracted to men because the only people I've ever been attracted to in the past were men, maybe its not a matter of the gender so much as the person

If you're attracted to the person more-so than the gender and you REALLY want something to call it, other than love and attraction, I would say you're pansexual/omnisexual. That means you're more attracted to the person than their gender. It really sucks that your family is homophobic, but I do hope you don't let that scare you away from pursing a relationship with someone, who is available, and just so happens to be the same gender as you are. A person's sexuality is constantly evolving and growing, people learn new things about themselves all the time, there's nothing wrong with being attracted to a different gender than you've been attracted to in the past.

I would have to agree with Elnoa here. Labels aren't all that, just do what feels the most comfortable for you.

Fantasies are just that- fantasies. They can mean something or nothing based on how pervasive they are and how much you desire to act on them. I knew I was gay based on fantasies I started having when I hit puberty. I had never done any of the things that I fantasized about, but women were always central in them.

It sounds like you have the capability to experience attraction towards women, specifically one woman. There is a small chance that you've met the one woman on earth you would ever be attracted to, but it's far likelier that there are also other women out there that might tickle your fancy. It sounds like you are bisexual with a strong preference towards men.

You don't have to act on a fantasy to know what it means, but it might be a good idea to act on it (now or sometime in the future) in order to see if your fantasy of sex with this woman matches the reality. Keep in mind that sex with one woman doesn't represent sex with women in general, so if you love/hate one experience with one person it doesn't mean you will love/hate the experience in general.

Even if you enjoy sex with women, you don't have to change the way you identify yourself. Lots of women who primarily date/sleep with men but experience occasional attraction to women are calling themselves "heteroflexible" rather than "bisexual" because it more accurately represents their reality.