When did you come out as bisexual?

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Contributor: ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
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Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... more
i was 12 and riding in a car with my mom...and she was fine with that so afterwards i told all my friends and everyone was pretty much fine with it.
02/09/2011
Contributor: EvaChangeN EvaChangeN
I feel that I have always hung out with guys and been attracted to women, tho I did find one guys that I was with and then married (almost 11 years married, 15 together now) and he is still the only guy I have found to peak any kind of feeling or curiosity.Otherwise we both fawn over the same kind of women, tho I havent had the chance to be with a woman yet...maybe one day
02/15/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I told my mom when I was 15. We were having a fight because she didn't like me hanging out with my cousin who she thought was a lesbian, but isn't. (Don't know if she still holds to that, but yeah.) My mom never really believed me. *shrug* I don't know if I told my dad and stepmother. I don't really feel the need to tell them.

I am going through a kind of crisis of self. I've never really explored my attraction to women, but want to. I'm married to a man and I love him. He knows I'm bisexual but we're monogamous and he has no interest (at this point) to not being be. I'm not even sure I really am comfortable enough in my interest in women to actually pursue it.

In general, I am attracted to both men and women, but I'm mostly only attracted to my husband (other than unattainable celebrities). Women, however... Far more attracted to women than men. Queer women.
02/21/2011
Contributor: UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
I am not really out. I am bi-curious, I do find women to be attractive and do wonder what it would be like to be with them intimately
02/22/2011
Contributor: Mistress M. Mistress M.
I came out as a bisexual in my teens. I was always bisexual, but I didn't let it out in the open by choice. A my girlfriend at the time let it slip, and I went through hell about it for about a month. Ugh. I hate high school girls.
02/22/2011
Contributor: KnK KnK
Quote:
Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... more
Technically, I have, but only to a very few selected people. Such as my bi friends, or people that have come out. I wouldn't necessarily call myself bi or pan though either. I just like men and women.
02/22/2011
Contributor: RammaJamma RammaJamma
To my close friends when I was 15-16, to my mom when I was 18... Dad still doesn't know, I'm afraid to tell him still.
03/13/2011
Contributor: callsignhusker callsignhusker
i came out maybe two years ago as bi/poly. my parents now pretend i don't exist and my sister as well. it's a shame how people try to coerce you to be someone you're not. i'm sorry to say it but i'm happier without those toxic people in my life.
03/20/2011
Contributor: Kat Shanahan Kat Shanahan
Quote:
Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... more
I always knew there was something "different" about me. I liked boys (the way I was "supposed" to) but I did begin to notice, when I was in my teens (especially after I went to college) that I would check out girls about as often as I checked out guys.

Once I went to college, I found myself in a brand-new environment where, I realized, nobody gave a shit who I was involved with. Even still, I didn't apply the label of "bisexual" to myself until I met a girl named Lisa. I was 20 at the time, and she was this totally wild, uninhibited woman who was completely open about her sexuality. I credit her with my own eventual coming out (she was the first one I came out to, as well as the first (and actually only) woman with whom I've had a sexual relationship.)

It's now ten years later and I still have only officially come out to a handful of people. I tend to be very choosy when it comes to who I let in on this, just because I'm never completely sure how people will react. But I am very glad to have finally realized who I am.
03/22/2011
Contributor: ra1nb0wb00tay ra1nb0wb00tay
Quote:
Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... more
i came out around 15-16 yrs old. my parents were really cool about it. i'd always admired the female body..and felt things about it. but it wasnt until i was around 15 or 16 that i finally was like ok...who am i kidding lol
05/22/2011
Contributor: DeeDaw DeeDaw
ever since i knew that i liked girls after all my experimenting on the girl scouts camping trips i have told everyone. i didnt really care what they would think of me. its a part of who i am.
05/24/2011
Contributor: ShinySuicide ShinySuicide
Teens. I think I was 16.
05/31/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
Just recently. People knew it even before I did.
07/24/2011
Contributor: thebest thebest
early teens
07/24/2011
Contributor: BlackxxxRose BlackxxxRose
I techinically still haven't come out yet, but seeing as I've never hidden it I wouldn't say I need to. Some of my friends assume I'm straight and I've got a few others who assume I'm lesbian. I just let them think whatever they want until they meet my partner.
07/25/2011
Contributor: Liz x420x Liz x420x
I came out around 16
08/05/2011
Contributor: Kitsune9 Kitsune9
I didn't come out until after I'd been married for a few years. It wasn't what broke up my marriage, but after the divorce the ex revealed it bothered him. I was... 24?
08/05/2011
Contributor: buttmunch buttmunch
I've only come out to my brother and some friends at school and I'm only bi and my parents have told me they don't care what I am as long as I'm happy and I haven't told them yet mainly 'cause I don't know what my other relatives would say half are Catholic and the others are kind of conservative, so I'm proud that you managed to come out.
09/02/2011
Contributor: PussyPurr PussyPurr
I tried coming out to my mom when I was around 16 or so. I was already open at school and hung out with the small group of queer students that were all friends (it was a small town for the Bay Area). My mom pretty much dismissed it as curiosity so it never came up again until I had my son at 18. I had complications from the birth and ended up in the ER. While I was laying there my mom for some reason thought it was an appropriate time to bust out with "so much for being bisexual, huh?".

I'm not open with my sexuality with my family, only very close friends as well as people who didn't know me growing up. Even my ex-husband didn't know. It's just a hassle I didn't want to deal with.
09/15/2011
Contributor: nori nori
I am 19 now; but fell in love with another girl at 16. So it's been a few years for me.
09/15/2011
Contributor: pleasurehunter pleasurehunter
I only came out to friends, family i like to keep it private
09/24/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
I've only come out to a couple very close friends, nobody else so far.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Phoenix77 Phoenix77
I've been out to my friends (and some coworkers/others I felt comfortable with) for 7 or 8 years, but only came out to my mom a year ago. Still not out to the rest of my family. They don't need to know ;-)
10/20/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
Since high school all my friends knew I was bisexual (for quite a while I thought I was gay!), but almost no one in my family knows, only my two sisters, who have been awesome about it. My boyfriend knows and he wants to get into a threesome. Still not sure on that one XD
10/20/2011
Contributor: ichwillwaffels ichwillwaffels
Quote:
Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... more
I came out in my teens, but honestly have not discussed it with certain people. I admitted it in class one day in high school and got in an argument with a girl who wouldn't sit by me. I told her just because she is straight does not mean she is going to be all over every boy in class so why would I be weird towards her just because I'm attracted to girls.
11/29/2011
Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
I have always expressed interest in both sezes. I didn't get into my first relationship until I was ~7. It was a girl and my following 3 were guys. Back at it with my first gf now tho.
12/05/2011
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
Knew at a very young age that I lokied both. Didnt come out until I was 18 with my 1st Girlfriend. EVERYONE was shocked except my dad.
12/05/2011
Contributor: Jammin14580 Jammin14580
Quote:
Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... more
My vote was more of when I realized I was bisexual. I'm not out to more than a couple of people.
12/10/2011
Contributor: MissAthena MissAthena
Quote:
Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... more
I'm only partially out. Friends and a few select coworkers know. Typically if asked I'll be upfront but it's not something I include in my introductions to new people. Sometimes it seems like gay and lesbian people can grasp but bisexuality is a whole new realm of misunderstanding.

As for my story, I first tried to kiss a girl friend of mine in 4th grade. I didn't know what it meant to want to do that and I kind of shoved that form my mind until much later when I was about 13 and had an intense crush on a girl I knew. I spent a lot of time losing sleep because I thought I was a lesbian but could understand why I also felt an attraction to guys. Again, I tried to shove it from my mind. It was after my first serious and sexual relationship ended when I was in high school I began to realize I was bisexual and it wasn't something to be terrified of or confused by. I came into my sexuality a lot after that relationship. Fortunately there wasn't really any backlash once people started finding out. My friends just took it and shrugged their shoulders. It didn't matter to them. I did have one religious coworker who tried to convince me that finding other women pretty didn't mean I was bisexual. I just ignored her.

My family still doesn't know but i try to test the waters when I bring up topics regarding bisexuality and homosexuality. Maybe one day I'll at least feel ok enough to come out to my mother.
01/08/2012
Contributor: aroarofthunder aroarofthunder
I've always been attracted to the same gender, and have never been abashed about sharing that with others. The first time I remember really advertising the fact was in seventh grade (so roughly 13?), but the longing was always there.
01/19/2012