Are you a "gold star"?

Contributor: CherryDyke CherryDyke
I'm a proud gold star!
08/28/2011
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
I agree about the elitist bit. Though, I think this is mostly a tongue in cheek question.

Mostly because I think sexuality if fluid and ever changing and its not like I am a 'gold star' lesbian because I didn't date men. I just never found any I wanted to have sex with. I dated men. I loved men. I still love men. I fell in love with a woman.

But, like I said, I think this question and whole 'gold star' thing is mostly for a laugh. I have heard, also, of lesbians who won't date anyone but 'gold star' lesbians. And I've also heard of lesbian's that won't date bisexuals. I think that's sad. You never know who you're missing out on loving.
08/29/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I love women and I love men. I'm allowed to!!! So hell no.

Although it seems to be almost a requirement these days, in terms of my dating pool whatever that is.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Paradoxica Paradoxica
I think they used this term in an episode of the L Word (if I'm remembering correctly). That's the only time I've heard it used.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
I am a bi-sexual female, only interested in my husband....for now.
12/04/2011
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
I'm queer, but I feel a bit like I'm a bad queer, haha. I've had the same boyfriend for years, and he's the only person I've ever been with. Is there an opposite to the gold star?
07/12/2012
Contributor: Billie Bones Billie Bones
I think some people take the "gold star" concept too far. You're not better than anyone else because of who you have or have not fucked.
07/12/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
I'm bisexual, so that would be a big no.
07/12/2012
Contributor: quantumspork quantumspork
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
Does anybody else find this whole "gold star" thing rather elitist? If I was homosexual, I'd would find the term rather offensive. I feel like it's people saying "Haha, I'm gayer than you are," or "I'm a ... more
Yeah, exactly! There's kind of some implicit shaming of bi/pan people in the whole concept, too.
07/12/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
im not a gold star
07/13/2012
Contributor: EdenUser EdenUser
Straight.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Charry Charry
I thought it said a gold star was someone who wouldn't have sex with the sex they're attracted to. I was so confused.
07/13/2012
Contributor: nori nori
Quote:
Originally posted by Fishie Princess
I'm queer, and have always been regardless of the sex/gender make up of the relationship. Therefore, all my my relationships have been queer, and I don't intend of ever having relationships that aren't queer. I'm a queer gold star!
HERE HERE!

This is a good term for me. Though, not every relationship has been queer.. All the sex I've had, was, though.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Princess Zelda Princess Zelda
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
I totally agree with that! I don't understand why everyone needs some sort of label nowadays.
Yup I agree as well Not every one knows how they feel, or who they truely are and Doesnt understand their place in the world when all they have ever known is that "woman are ment to be with men." But to find out latter in life thats not how they feel and are suck. That doesnt make them any less of a person or any less gay than any one else.
07/17/2012
Contributor: Equae Equae
I'm not, but my fiancée is!
07/17/2012
Contributor: Lori Gonzales Lori Gonzales
nope i am not a gold star
10/10/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
I am not
10/10/2012
Contributor: zz1aag zz1aag
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
A gold star, for those of you who don't know, is a person who identifies as homosexual (gay or lesbian) who has never had sex with someone of the opposite sex and does not intend to. Just curious how many are out there!
gold star lesvian
10/12/2012
Contributor: marshmallow marshmallow
ehhhh
10/13/2012
Contributor: AnotherBrother AnotherBrother
I tried a girl once in a three way. It was "meh", but it confirmed things for me. She was my friend beforehand, knew it was just a fling, I made it clear it wasn't a change in our relationship (she agreed with this), and we were still friends and unchanged by the experience.

So Almost gold star, just decided to "try it once" to clear my head and make sure.
10/13/2012
Contributor: skippywashere skippywashere
I don't mind a penis-like object as long as it isn't a real one. I'd never sleep with a man.
02/04/2013
Contributor: LoganAshlee. LoganAshlee.
This is strange. Cool, but strange
02/05/2013
Contributor: FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Oops. I don't have that gold star.
02/05/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
Does anybody else find this whole "gold star" thing rather elitist? If I was homosexual, I'd would find the term rather offensive. I feel like it's people saying "Haha, I'm gayer than you are," or "I'm a ... more
Yes, I hate this term so much. I'm queer but no one sees me as such if I'm holding hands with a man.
02/06/2013
Contributor: FlightyBroad FlightyBroad
I'm a gold star, haha. First time ever hearing this term.
02/11/2013
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
Never heard this term before, but apparently it applies to me.
02/11/2013
Contributor: FrustratedFemme FrustratedFemme
I'm a gold star lesbian!
06/26/2013
Contributor: KitKat16 KitKat16
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
Does anybody else find this whole "gold star" thing rather elitist? If I was homosexual, I'd would find the term rather offensive. I feel like it's people saying "Haha, I'm gayer than you are," or "I'm a ... more
Agreed there...everyone has a different coming out story. The only gold stars I've ever known came out in their mid-teens. Not all of us could be so lucky to have figured it out then and there at that point in time.
07/07/2013