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Spoken Pandora
I think I get what you are saying. Lesbians tend to outcast bisexual women and you don't but you don't fall in love with a bi-sexual women either...correct?
In my circle of friends many choose not to date bi-sexual women because the
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I think I get what you are saying. Lesbians tend to outcast bisexual women and you don't but you don't fall in love with a bi-sexual women either...correct?
In my circle of friends many choose not to date bi-sexual women because the fear of them dating both them and a man at the same time,the risk of catching an STD (which in my opinion can happen just as frequent with a lesbian as well), or the fear of the bisexual woman not telling the true.
Personally I'm on the fence with this because to my knowledge I haven't dated a bisexual woman. However I do notice that they are the "black sheep" of our little community.
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I recently was somewhere where I was asked if I was gay. I said, "Not exactly." And then I got this downtrodden, disgusted face and was presented with the question, "Oh, bi?" And again, I said, "Not exactly." Then she was just confused! I explained that I identify as "queer" (to which she gave me a high-five???) and that I'm married to a man. To which she was more confused.
I felt a little put off and uncomfortable because I feel like I'm even more outcasted by two different communities. The straight community accepts me just fine as long as I don't mention that I'm queer. The LGBTQ community accepts me just fine as long as I don't mention my husband. It's terribly frustrating to not know exactly where I'm accepted/fit in.
I suppose part of the "problems" with bisexual girls is that everyone's been burned by the more "bi-curious" (aka, cute, funny, wants to make out, but doesn't want to be WITH a woman) girl who is experimenting. But I think that to umbrella bisexual women with being untrustworthy of being in a committed relationship just sucks. I've never been with a woman, but I
know that I:
1) am capable of being with a woman and loving a woman.
2) would like having sex with a woman.
Same way that straight people and gay people know that they were gay/straight before they ever had sex, I have always known that I would enjoy being with a man and a woman. I don't need to be with both to know it. It's just something that's a part of me.
