Yes, the more common stereotype is the straight guy who's cool with the fantasy of lesbians (two conventionally attractive college girls going at it for attention) but not gay men. But then, these guys are rarely cool with lesbians who aren't designed for their entertainment.

But I find it just as believable that someone would be cool with gay men and not with lesbians. Although they are a minority and certainly have their share of struggles, gay men are also generally viewed as paragons of culture, taste, and innovation. The stereotypical "gay male friend" is generally very highly sought after in hetero circles. So someone might be cool with gay men because they are seen as colorful, cheerful, and edgy... lesbians, not so much.

But both mindsets generalize large groups of people and disregard their individual qualities. If someone who thinks this way were to look deeper into these groups, they would find a variety of people, many of whom they would like to associate with, and many they would not. less

Yes, the more common stereotype is the straight guy who's cool with the fantasy of lesbians (two conventionally attractive college girls going at it for attention) but not gay men. But then, these guys are rarely cool with lesbians who aren't designed for their entertainment.

But I find it just as believable that someone would be cool with gay men and not with lesbians. Although they are a minority and certainly have their share of struggles, gay men are also generally viewed as paragons of culture, taste, and innovation. The stereotypical "gay male friend" is generally very highly sought after in hetero circles. So someone might be cool with gay men because they are seen as colorful, cheerful, and edgy... lesbians, not so much.

But both mindsets generalize large groups of people and disregard their individual qualities. If someone who thinks this way were to look deeper into these groups, they would find a variety of people, many of whom they would like to associate with, and many they would not. less

I was having a conversation with my husband, and we were talking about someone we used to know a long, long time ago in a land far, far away. This person is legit homophobic when it comes to two women being in a relationship together, but is perfectly accepting of two men being together. Their best friend in life was a gay male---flamboyent at that. However, this person's daughter is a lesbian and they still cannot accept her preferences.

I'm wondering how many other people know someone who is accepting of one type of homosexual relationship, but not another. The logic simply confuses me to no end. less