My girl changed from lesbian to bi

Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
so we have been together for 4 years and halfway though the relationship she tells me she likes men!!! Does this seem like a big deal to anyone else
06/03/2012
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Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
I don't know anything about your circumstances, ages, experiences, etc. But I do know that sometimes people realize things about themselves they didn't know before. I thought I was straight until I was in college, my girlfriend didn't say she was a lesbian until a year ago. Maybe she considered herself a lesbian because she wasn't attracted to any of the men she saw... and then she saw one she found attractive...

What matters is whether or not this changes your relationship. Do you still love her? Does she still love you? Can you be happy together? That's what counts.
06/03/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
She didt change herself she just discovered a part of herself she didn't know was there before. Sexuality is fluid, but maybe she needs your support now as she discovers this more than anything else.
06/03/2012
Contributor: Rey Rey
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Originally posted by Bex1331
She didt change herself she just discovered a part of herself she didn't know was there before. Sexuality is fluid, but maybe she needs your support now as she discovers this more than anything else.
i agree that sexuality is fluid. She is discovering herself, rather than lying to you
07/15/2012
Contributor: PDXlady PDXlady
I've been with my partner for almost 5 years now (an opposite sex relationship) and I didn't realize that I was bisexual until about a year and a half ago. Any changes it has caused in our relationship have been for the better, although for your relationship it might not change anything at all. I think could be a big deal for her because she is discovering something new about herself but I don't think it is something detrimental to your relationship. Obviously this is all just my opinion which I have drawn from my own personal experience. I hope it all turns out well
07/15/2012
Contributor: nori nori
I think it depends on what she expects to change with this admittance. Does she want men to date? In the bedroom? Keep your communication open. good luck.
07/15/2012
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
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Originally posted by ginainohio
so we have been together for 4 years and halfway though the relationship she tells me she likes men!!! Does this seem like a big deal to anyone else
I think it's only a big deal if this revelation means that she wants to be with men as well right now if you two are monogamous.
07/16/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
this relationship has now ended due to lies and cheating with men
07/29/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
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Originally posted by ginainohio
so we have been together for 4 years and halfway though the relationship she tells me she likes men!!! Does this seem like a big deal to anyone else
maybe, depends on the rest of the story
07/29/2012
Contributor: buttcleavage buttcleavage
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Originally posted by ginainohio
so we have been together for 4 years and halfway though the relationship she tells me she likes men!!! Does this seem like a big deal to anyone else
Its her ID and you shouldnt make her feel bad about it.
10/18/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I am Bi but been in a relationship with a man for 10 years now after so long he found out slowly that I was Bi and now he worries about both hitting on me she should have told you but probably didn't want to hurt your feelings maybe
10/19/2012
Contributor: Jaxxie Lifeless Jaxxie Lifeless
personally, i wouldnt be okay with it. it would scare me shitless.. but thats me. i have a history with this sort of thing thats why i would be scared
10/20/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
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Originally posted by ginainohio
this relationship has now ended due to lies and cheating with men
I think that's a bit harsh. The girlfriend may have just noticed herself being attracted to men. It doesn't mean she always knew she was bi or that she was cheating.
10/20/2012
Contributor: PrincessYagami PrincessYagami
As long as you're the only one for her it doesn't really matter. That's my opinion.
11/08/2012
Contributor: vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
Sorry to hear that she was (apparently?) cheating, but sexuality is often fluid, especially for women. It's very possible for someone to enter a relationship feeling completely attracted to women and women alone and gradually grow more interested in men... and then maybe less interested in men again. Things ebb and flow, it's not always constant for everyone. It doesn't (necessarily, without other things going wrong) mean the end of a relationship or even that there's a problem.
11/09/2012
Contributor: Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
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Originally posted by ginainohio
so we have been together for 4 years and halfway though the relationship she tells me she likes men!!! Does this seem like a big deal to anyone else
I think that it depends on the type of the relationship that you all have. Not only does her feelings need to be taken into consideration but yours does as well. Just because thats what she wants to do or that is what she wants doesnt mean that you have to be with it or agree to it. That is totally up to you, just like her being bi is totally up to her. Dontlet anyone pressure you into being in a siuation in which you are uncomfortable just to make them happy or please them. It has to be right for you as well.
11/09/2012