Well, I live in the South so queer is not often spoken in a positive way. Nonetheless it is what I feel most comfortable with. I am not gay, lesbian or hetero. Bi only acknowledges two genders which I think most of us know to be a fallacy. Pansexual is just too flowery sounding for me, though I understand what it stands for. Nah. Queer, like my favorite jeans, fits just the way I like it.

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Destri, I used to do the same, sticking with the more familiar and accepted bi for everyone else. I changed for a couple of reasons- 1. I was living a double life. Again. I came out over a decade ago so I wouldn't have do do that and now here I was amongst the shoes and coats again. 2. I live in the South. I don't want to have to move to be accepted for who I am. I don't want the generation of queer identified folk that come after me to have to move to gain acceptance and find family. I call it like it is, firmly and respectfully, because that plants a seed. The next person they meet that's queer identified waters that seed. Down here there is a huge amount of oppression, hatred and ignorance and I feel that the only way it will stop is if we stand up, put our foot down and make it known that we are your friend, your neighbor, your sister, your uncle, your coworker- we are everywhere and we demand acknowledgement and basic human respect. You don't have to like us but we are human and should be treated as such. I know that I'm just one lone queer rattling the cage and sometimes I feel like just sitting down and giving up because it's exhausting but I can't. Each person that I touch, each seed that I plant could change the life of someone else like me for the better and I just can't let that go. I don't look down on those that choose to move or choose not to publicly identify a certain way- each person's journey is unique to them and I would not presume to know their path. This just happens to be mine.