Thoughts on identifying as "queer"

Thoughts on identifying as "queer"

lezergirl lezergirl
In my community, the term "queer" is much more used than "gay" or "lesbian" or "bi" - is this common or not?
01/23/2011
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Originally posted by lezergirl
In my community, the term "queer" is much more used than "gay" or "lesbian" or "bi" - is this common or not?
Well... Yea there's a really large part of my community that does identify as queer. And I really do emphasize the word community. I know a person or two who ID as gay, but I know them in more of a one-on-one personal context rather than part of a larger group.

I definitely prefer the term queer... It's a lot more inclusive and less inclined towards boxing people into narrow categories. And it has a good ring and look to it
01/25/2011
Angel deSanguine Angel deSanguine
Well, I live in the South so queer is not often spoken in a positive way. Nonetheless it is what I feel most comfortable with. I am not gay, lesbian or hetero. Bi only acknowledges two genders which I think most of us know to be a fallacy. Pansexual is just too flowery sounding for me, though I understand what it stands for. Nah. Queer, like my favorite jeans, fits just the way I like it.
01/25/2011
M121212 M121212
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Originally posted by Angel deSanguine
Well, I live in the South so queer is not often spoken in a positive way. Nonetheless it is what I feel most comfortable with. I am not gay, lesbian or hetero. Bi only acknowledges two genders which I think most of us know to be a fallacy. Pansexual ...
I like the way you word that
01/28/2011
Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by Angel deSanguine
Well, I live in the South so queer is not often spoken in a positive way. Nonetheless it is what I feel most comfortable with. I am not gay, lesbian or hetero. Bi only acknowledges two genders which I think most of us know to be a fallacy. Pansexual ...
I absolutely LOVED read this. Last line gave me goosebumps, honey
01/28/2011
Destri Destri
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Originally posted by Angel deSanguine
Well, I live in the South so queer is not often spoken in a positive way. Nonetheless it is what I feel most comfortable with. I am not gay, lesbian or hetero. Bi only acknowledges two genders which I think most of us know to be a fallacy. Pansexual ...
fabulous post! I call myself queer but only around other queers...
01/28/2011
Angel deSanguine Angel deSanguine
Thank you


Destri, I used to do the same, sticking with the more familiar and accepted bi for everyone else. I changed for a couple of reasons- 1. I was living a double life. Again. I came out over a decade ago so I wouldn't have do do that and now here I was amongst the shoes and coats again. 2. I live in the South. I don't want to have to move to be accepted for who I am. I don't want the generation of queer identified folk that come after me to have to move to gain acceptance and find family. I call it like it is, firmly and respectfully, because that plants a seed. The next person they meet that's queer identified waters that seed. Down here there is a huge amount of oppression, hatred and ignorance and I feel that the only way it will stop is if we stand up, put our foot down and make it known that we are your friend, your neighbor, your sister, your uncle, your coworker- we are everywhere and we demand acknowledgement and basic human respect. You don't have to like us but we are human and should be treated as such. I know that I'm just one lone queer rattling the cage and sometimes I feel like just sitting down and giving up because it's exhausting but I can't. Each person that I touch, each seed that I plant could change the life of someone else like me for the better and I just can't let that go. I don't look down on those that choose to move or choose not to publicly identify a certain way- each person's journey is unique to them and I would not presume to know their path. This just happens to be mine.
01/28/2011
KnK KnK
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Originally posted by lezergirl
In my community, the term "queer" is much more used than "gay" or "lesbian" or "bi" - is this common or not?
Hmmm, I guess it depends on the friend group. I kinda like the term and used to identify with it. I kinda like calling myself me-sexual because I think of my sexuality as fluid and I do what I like with whom I want and I'm open to new experiences
01/28/2011
Twitch Twitch
i prefer queer because it covers sex [what's between your legs] & gender [what's between your ears].
08/31/2011
CherryDyke CherryDyke
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Originally posted by Twitch
i prefer queer because it covers sex [what's between your legs] & gender [what's between your ears].
well said.
08/31/2011
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