If you're attracted to the person, you're attracted to the person and you should go for it now. Are you physically attracted to him the way he looks RIGHT NOW?

But if his not being a completely physical male is what's stopping you then you and that person are probably not a match for several reasons - he may never actually have the reassignment surgery (not all people go through with bottom surgery and many can't afford it), the reassignment process could take years, or he may pick up on the fact that you were only interested in him once he had some form of a flesh penis and that won't make him feel good about who he truly is. And there's nothing wrong with that, if your interests lie strongly in the male bodied only, that's perfectly fine and it's better you are aware of what you want - but getting involved now or later wouldn't be fair to either of you. less

if you cant get past it now you wont in the future I was with someone who went through a change and nothing is ever exactly male/female in the end. Its close but not the same.
If you are already having cold feet you are probably looking at the wrong guy. Being with a trans is not easy it takes a special kind of person to handle all the emotional, financial, and social set backs. less

Ok so I am gay, and a crossdresser. I like someone who is a VERY butch (born) female who ACTUALLY wants to be a man. She actually prefers to be called "HE" (so out of respect for this person I will call "her" a "he" for the duration of this post). Anyway he dresses like a man, acts like a man, and he wants to actually go through surgical procedures to become a man.

I mean I am attracted to him, there is no doubt about that... what should I do in this situation. I do like him, (personality and looks), I REALLY want to express my feelings to him. But I kinda wanna do it when he has gone fully through the change, OR does that seem a bit shallow. I dont want it to seem that I am saying "I will only like you when you are an actual man" less