Yesterday I told my girlfriend of almost 2 years that I might be thinking about transitioning (FTM)... Although she was nice about it and said she would support me with whatever I choose to do... Today she pretty much let me know that she's not really down with it all since she's attracted to girls... It really hurts my ego when she tells me she can't even picture me transgender when I've always been tomboy around her and what not.. She hasn't decided to leave me but is in denial of it all and just tries to reinforce that I'm her "girl"... Anyway, are there any stories of encouragement out there? Did this ever happen to you when you came out?
Coming out to your girlfriend....
01/10/2013
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When I first started questioning my gender I was very open about it with my girlfriend. At first she said she was going to break up with me, but she didn't right away in case I "decided to change back" or whatever. Then as I evolved she did, too. We've been dating for 3 years now (that was just before our 1 year) and she has treated me like the man I am for a long time. Unfortunately if your girlfriend cannot evolve, your relationship can't evolve and that isn't a good thing with any matter. Good luck, though!
01/11/2013
Dude, I think it's better for her to tell you. If she's 100% attracted to girls then it's not going to work, especially if she's still reinforcing you being her 'girl'. Im really sorry to hear this- Bisexual girls are the easiest option, however dont rule out gay/straight girls completely!
01/13/2013
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I agree fully, it's better off you do tell her, then hearing it from someone else, I also agree that if she is only attracted to women then you transitioning would be too hard for her to be romantically involved with you, no matter how hard it hurts her to admit she cant be with you.
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JB2012
Dude, I think it's better for her to tell you. If she's 100% attracted to girls then it's not going to work, especially if she's still reinforcing you being her 'girl'. Im really sorry to hear this- Bisexual girls are the
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Dude, I think it's better for her to tell you. If she's 100% attracted to girls then it's not going to work, especially if she's still reinforcing you being her 'girl'. Im really sorry to hear this- Bisexual girls are the easiest option, however dont rule out gay/straight girls completely!
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Some women, will understand the feeling you get, when you feel trapped in another body. I feel that way and yet I would never make that full transition for reason's, hard to explain,
Yet I like to play the guy part, when I can,,
01/14/2013
This sounds like a Dilemma. I think the fact that you are a tomboy though is irrelevant, she still loves you for who you are. She might be struggling with the idea as much as you seem to be. So I would sit down and have a long heart to heart with her personally, and try to get to the root cause of her objection to it.
01/16/2013
This is something that you've probably thought about A LOT before you mentioned it to her. But she's just hearing it for the first time. She may adjust over time, and her reaction may change/evolve over time as well. Just as it took you a while to come to terms with it, and figure it out, it may take her some time to figure it out too. A little time to digest this may make a big difference, and she may realize that her true feelings are somewhat different from her initial knee-jerk reaction.
Hopefully you can support each other along the way!
Hopefully you can support each other along the way!
01/16/2013
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