Dysphoria-question about triggers

Contributor: anonymous1298304 anonymous1298304
quote from an article "Ask which clothing articles are okay to remove ahead of time--- ask this about your own clothes and your partner's clothes. Some trans* people may feel dysphoric when seeing others' bodies."...specificall y that last part. question for anyone who finds that to be a dysphoria trigger, that doesn't mind discussing it...I imagine that would pretty much rule out porn for some people, what about erotica? Is that an issue for anybody?
01/11/2013
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Contributor: anonymous1298304 anonymous1298304
arrgh, it won't let me edit to fix my typo *specifically
01/11/2013
Contributor: kdlt kdlt
I know it's different for everyone so really, it's all about asking your partner. In my personal opinion, I enjoy watching porn because I can get in the mindset of being one of the dudes (or THE dude, if it's hetero) and I don't feel dysphoric. Getting pantsless around a male partner without a packer/dildo, though, makes me feel VERY dysphoric. Reading erotica is cool with me, as long as there's a guy in the story that I can connect with. Hope that helps?
01/11/2013
Contributor: anonymous1298304 anonymous1298304
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Originally posted by kdlt
I know it's different for everyone so really, it's all about asking your partner. In my personal opinion, I enjoy watching porn because I can get in the mindset of being one of the dudes (or THE dude, if it's hetero) and I don't feel ... more
yes, ty very much for sharing your perspective. i did talk to bf about after i read the article. wanting to get as much input as i can on the subject though because i'm a blogger and i'm trying to determine if i should put any kind of trigger warning on the naughty posts. and i'm honestly totally clueless as to how to word a trigger warning regarding that, so I'm thinking the more perspectives i hear the better idea i'll have of how to present it. does that make any sense? (sorry working on no sleep)
01/11/2013
Contributor: Soup Soup
Nope
01/13/2013
Contributor: anonymous1298304 anonymous1298304
i went ahead and posted the erotica type blog post after having my bf read it first and at least knowing that he liked it. we pretty up front about the type of blog it is and emphasize 18+, nsfw, and that there gonna be sex related subject matter. i really couldn't find anything of erotica type on any trans related blogs to see what else is out there to see any comments anybody makes. but an earlier post i had made got good reactions. so i'm gonna just go with it, and be open to any feedback. i also did a "read more" link in post before getting to far into it so that a person would have to click on the "read more" to pull up the rest of post to read.
01/13/2013
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
It's literally sooooo different for every person. I personally love erotica. It sounds like you handled your blog post really well though.
01/13/2013
Contributor: kdlt kdlt
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Originally posted by anonymous1298304
yes, ty very much for sharing your perspective. i did talk to bf about after i read the article. wanting to get as much input as i can on the subject though because i'm a blogger and i'm trying to determine if i should put any kind of ... more
Yeah, that makes sense! I would put a "nudity" warning on any photo posts. On just written stuff, well... is it a naughty blog? The readers should kind of expect it to be graphic if it's advertised as adult! A "Read More", like you mentioned, would be good with a brief explanation before so people know what they're about to read.
01/13/2013