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Contributor: Chirple Chirple
I'm thinking about finally starting T.

If I lose my job, I won't be able to pay to go to school any more - until I find a new one, though I believe unemployment would cover expenses until I did (so I wouldn't be totally screwed).

If you have started, how did you handle work ? Did you tell them outright ? Did you just do it and not tell them, and did they even notice ?

I'm 22, going to school still, and still working a minimum-wage job. I say this because I feel it would be very different if I was in a stable job where I planned to work for the next 10-20 years. The job is a small compartment of my life that is just paying the bills.

I've looked at T-progress pictures and timelines and I'm really considering just not telling them.

I'm expendable, I've largely stopped caring about the job, and there's no legal protection in my state, so I don't see the point in risking my income when they might not even notice. Why get fired sooner, I guess.

I'm still going over it with therapists/medical professionals and am not going to be starting tomorrow or anything, just to say.

Thoughts ? How did it go for you ?
03/28/2012
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Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by Chirple
I'm thinking about finally starting T.

If I lose my job, I won't be able to pay to go to school any more - until I find a new one, though I believe unemployment would cover expenses until I did (so I wouldn't be totally ... more
I really am not sure about the etiquette of such a thing, but if you have a supervisor you trust and get along well with I might pull them aside and talk to them about it. I think that it should be fine, especially since it's such a gradual thing.
03/28/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
I think it depends on how long you planned to work for them. Because of the slow day to day changes, if you are working every day, it should be a while before anyone notices. You should probably mention it at some point, or look for another job where you can be out from the get go. Esp if you say you don't care about this job anymore.
03/28/2012
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
Thanks.

There's a very high turnover rate, so there isn't really anyone I would trust to talk to about it.

There are some people who are going to find out shortly simply because we're "friends" and doing things outside of work (hesitant to say "friends" because we don't do much outside of work yet), but no one who is in charge of hiring/firing or could offer any protection.

If I was in a state job where there was protection, I would just tell them. But since I can't get top surgery right now and can't wear a binder at this job (just because I'd pass out), I feel like not much would change, not enough to really notice.
03/29/2012
Contributor: MasonM MasonM
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Originally posted by Chirple
I'm thinking about finally starting T.

If I lose my job, I won't be able to pay to go to school any more - until I find a new one, though I believe unemployment would cover expenses until I did (so I wouldn't be totally ... more
I would be very careful about telling them, to be honest. You might have to, though, if they give regular drug tests, since T would show up as a steroid.
03/29/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I hope the transition goes smoothly for you. And most places which drug test never test for every drug in existence, unless you are a professional or school athlete, no one is going to test you for "steroids." Also, there are medical uses for steroids, if they fired people for using hormones, every woman on the pill, many peri-menopausal women and a quarter of men over 50 would "test positive" for steroids, and most places are looking for recreational drugs. Not steroids.

My husband works for a huge company, and in the years he has been there (over 20) several people have transitioned. Usually an announcement is made when someone decides they want to be recognized and publicly identified. Usually, they get an email and a supervisor will come and say, "Formerly called---- is a woman and now will answer to Blanche." Or "Formerly called ---- is a man and now will answer to Bill." It seems to flow pretty well where he works.

I don't have any advice for you, as you work at a small place, but many companies are being much more sensitive and accommodating about transitioning.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope it goes smoothly. They can't fire you for looking differently, growing hair, gaining muscle mass or anything that T will do for you. Good luck.
03/29/2012