I have never been a Maid or Matron (what an attractive word, sounds like a woman who works in a prison ) of Honor or even stood up for a wedding. With the exception of my mother's second wedding, but I don't think that counts. Plus the dress was hideous. My step sister was a cutter, so my mother decided the dress would cover from our necks, all the way down to our wrists and were too long. to cover my sister's scars. They were not in the least attractive.

Living in a working class neighborhood, most of my friends had fairly small weddings. Most of them only had a one or two people standing up, or simply eloped. My cousins on my dad's side had ostentatious affairs with up to 12 bridesmaids, too much attention getting stuff and I had no interest in being involved in that. (Several of these hundred thousand dollar weddings ended in divorce after only a very short time.) My cousins on my mom's side either never got married or came from large families where their sisters and brothers were enough people to fill a wedding party.

Most of my friends in same sex relationships have either never had ceremonies or had very small ceremonies with no one standing up.

My own wedding had only a Maid of Honor and a Best Man. I tend to like to keep wedding parties small when it comes to "standing up." I don't really understand the whole concept of having half a dozen or more people standing at the altar in matching dresses and what it has to do with one's eventual happiness with your partner. As I've said, I'm not a romantic person by any sense of the word.

My Man, however has been in a lot of weddings. Guys seem to choose their ushers and even their best men at the last minute. He's gotten calls the night before weddings to stand up. He stood up in my brother's wedding, one in which even I wasn't asked.

I guess it's saved me a lot of money and a lot of ugly dresses hanging in my closet that I will never wear.

I was the Maid of Honor in my sisters wedding. I didn't have to plan anything, except the shower. We went to LaBares in Houston (male strip club) got obnoxiously drunk and basically had a blast.

And OMG what is it with ugly dresses. I realise that it is the brides day but why do they have to make every other female there look like a poofed out fruit??!! I think there is a secret ugly dress catalog that all brides must choose dresses for their wedding party from. Ugh! Mine was teal green and had poofs and folds everywhere...

I'm beginning to believe I'll always be a bride but never a bridesmaid.

My own wedding was small (all I could afford) - my best friend was my matron of honor (she'd been married 20-something years by that point) and my ex's brother was the best man (he ran out of the room when the garter was being tossed).

I was flower girl at my mother's second marriage. (Thank God that ended.)

Otherwise, I'm usually just a guest at a wedding.

I have been a bridesmaid but not MOH. I wouldn't want to be in all honesty. Too much stuff to do and plan. No thanks.

I have been a bridesmaid and absolutely hated it! I would NEVER want to be part of a wedding again, but I'm not big on weddings anyway.

When my husband and I got married we ended up with 5 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen for a total of 1 maid of honor and 2 best men. The suit rentals were relatively cheap and I picked out dresses that could easily be worn again, and I brought bridesmaids with to get their opinion on it because the last time I had been told a dress could be worn again, well, it was shiny and taffeta and makes noise when you move, so it's really limited as to where it could be worn again.

My maid of honor was 1,000 miles away during the last few months of planning, so my best friend as a bridesmaid and my officiant planned the bachelorette party. I'm nervous about planning my best friend's bachelorette party when that day comes, and my sister's, but I'll cross those bridges when I get there.

I would have been a bridesmaid in one wedding a few years ago, but the bride made it as far as forcing us to get our dresses before planning stopped and they broke up a few months later. I don't mind not being in a ton of wedding parties. I could get over having to figure out how to help plan things, but I'd hate to spend all that money on dresses that I can't really wear anywhere else.

Best man at my brother's wedding, it was a small, mostly family deal. Best part about it was going to Alaska for two weeks.

Best man for my brother (2x).

I was the witness and Maid of Honor for my sister's wedding. Ridiculous farce that whole thing was. I wouldn't do it again.

I was the maid of honor in my cousins wedding and it was a freaking nightmare. I planned the shower and then she went and cancelled the venue without telling me and booked somewhere a lot more expensive. The other bridesmaids and I chose a venue in our budget because every single one of us was still in school at the time so when she made the change and expected us just to pay for it there was a war. After that debacle I wasn't allowed to plan the bachelorette party because it wouldn't be extravagant enough.

The dress was definitely the worst part. I got a different dress because I was the maid of honor. I begged her not to pick a strapless dress because they make me really uncomfortable. She picked strapless dresses for all the other bridesmaid, but promised that I could have a dress with straps. Well she picked out a $250 strapless dress. I was more pissed off about the price than the fact that it was strapless. The bride only paid $400 for her own dress and she wanted me to $250 for a freaking bridesmaids dress.

I will be the maid of honor in my sister's wedding, but I won't do it for anyone else. Some perfectly reasonable people just seem to morph in monsters when they are planning a wedding.

I've been in the wedding party a couple times. And, not that I think about it, I was the best man once (but couldn't plan the bachelor party).

I always hated renting the tux: shoes too slippery, jacket too hot, fitting...blech. No thanks! The best wedding was the Ren-style wedding I was in. I still have the rapier and most of the outfit.

I have been the best man a couple of times. I like doing it all but giving the speech. I hate speeches.

I've only been a bridesmaid for my brother's wedding. Our dresses were actually quite gorgeous, just a pain because I was 13 and had to have it taken down to a size 0 -_-;; I wish I still had that problem.

I've been a groom twice, an usher 3 times and a groomsman 3 times but never the best man.