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Contributor: Lady of the Lab Lady of the Lab
Off the bat I want to say I am not romantically interested in this friend. A few months ago a close female friend in her 20s (not a member of Eden Fantasys) of mine mentioned wanting a vibrator. With Christmas only a little over a month away I've been trying to decide whether to get her a vibrator, specifically the PicoBong Moka in her favorite color (turquoise) with the Satin natural moisturizer.

The reason why I thought it might be a good idea to get her such specific gifts is because I am familiar with the site and I could buy the vibrator while it is on sale (20% off).

However, I do understand that the gift card would allow her to choose... am I being too prideful and/or weird in wanting to buy a vibrator and lube that I think she'll like?
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It's too weird to give your friend a vibrator even if you are female/close/etc.
Go for it, just don't be awkward about it
2
Give her a gift card
19
You should get her this vibrator instead (link please)
Total votes: 21 (20 voters)
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Contributor: Sera26 Sera26
I think that like you said, since you are familiar with the site that it would be better to get something that you think she would like.

My sister has asked about the site in the past and I emailed her all of the sales, codes, etc and she found it overwhelming. So for Christmas I just bought her some gifts on here instead of giving her a gift card.
11/06/2012
Contributor: Lady of the Lab Lady of the Lab
Quote:
Originally posted by Sera26
I think that like you said, since you are familiar with the site that it would be better to get something that you think she would like.

My sister has asked about the site in the past and I emailed her all of the sales, codes, etc and she ... more
Thanks for your response, I am feeling less weird about the possibility of buying my friend of vibrator. I know I was overwhelmed when I first joined the site.
11/06/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
I'd say gift card and recommendations on how to look, that can be a pretty personal choice
11/06/2012
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
A gift card is a wonderful idea!
11/06/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I would say a gift card as well since you aren't sure what she may or may not like. I would also tell her about Eden and let her join an use the GC you get her as well as earn points. You never know she may find other things on here. When my friends mention needing sexual items I don't offer Gift Cards or to buy them toys I send them here I tell them if they have any questions I am glad to help! I also get the "free" gifts with orders for those who are local to me if they haven't ever used a toy or want something new to try I offer up an unopened toy that I have "in stock" so to speak. I don't get a ton of the "free" gifts usually around 2 one for me and one to give. It may not be awkward for you to buy and give her a vibe but it could be awkward for her to accept it.
11/07/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
Go with the gift card option. I'm sure she'll appreciate it just as much (or more)!
11/07/2012
Contributor: RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
The gift card would let her explore and find something to her tastes. Offer advice as needed.
11/07/2012
Contributor: llellsee llellsee
Can't go wrong with a Gift Card.
11/07/2012
Contributor: Kat and Aaron(aaron) Kat and Aaron(aaron)
Gift card sounds like a wonderful idea.
11/10/2012
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
Gift card will be good.
11/12/2012
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
I say giftcard. You could always give her a tutorial of the site and/or even help her set up a account. Then she can search for what she wants. If you wee both comfortable enough with it, you could even help her order it too. I personally would feel awkward using a toy that someone I am not in a relationship picked out for me (again, me personally, but wanted to throw it out there).
11/12/2012
Contributor: rosythorn rosythorn
if it waasn:t a vibrator you could give it to her, but that seems too personal.
11/12/2012
Contributor: AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
I would go with a gift card. You two are obviously comfortable enough around each other since she mentioned wanting a vibrator, you can tell her what you think might work for her, but let her make up her own mind.
11/12/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I would go with the gift card cause she can get what she wants. And if it's more than you're willing to give her she can combine it with her own money.
11/12/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Umm, I'm a little torn on it. In one hand, I think it would be helpful to her to just get the toy so she wasn't overwhelmed, but in the other hand, it would be nice for her to pick out what she would like.

Getting a gift card might mean that she would need to spend her own money for shipping/if the item she chooses is over the amount of the gift card, and that can be frustrating when it was a gift.

I guess if I were in your shoes, I'd probably buy her the vibe that you think she'd like and tell her about the site. Maybe she could check it out and start in after she's received her vibe.
11/12/2012
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady of the Lab
Off the bat I want to say I am not romantically interested in this friend. A few months ago a close female friend in her 20s (not a member of Eden Fantasys) of mine mentioned wanting a vibrator. With Christmas only a little over a month away I've ... more
ive given vibes for presents before!!And they have loved them!
11/13/2012