How do you "know" you are chatting with someone 18 or older on some of these adult sites, and what is the implications if the other person is under age even thought you are under the impression they are of age.
18 and chatting on adult sites
08/04/2011
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You ask. If they say they are 18, you have no reason not to believe them. I think it's pretty easy at times to tell the difference between a young teen and an 18 year old. I would hope as one approaches college/adulthood they would cut it with the chat speak and OMGLOL IBieber stuff.
Should you ever meet in person or start cam sessions and suspect they aren't 18, the best thing to do would be to get up and leave or disconnect the chat and block their user names.
I would also like to think pre-teens and teens aren't hanging out on adult chat sites because their parents monitor their user history and internet access in general. That's probably not the case, unfortunately.
The implications would be the person lied about their age, you would spend a lifetime defending yourself against the charges and all of your chat history on every website you've ever been on will be picked over with a fine-tooth comb.
Should you ever meet in person or start cam sessions and suspect they aren't 18, the best thing to do would be to get up and leave or disconnect the chat and block their user names.
I would also like to think pre-teens and teens aren't hanging out on adult chat sites because their parents monitor their user history and internet access in general. That's probably not the case, unfortunately.
The implications would be the person lied about their age, you would spend a lifetime defending yourself against the charges and all of your chat history on every website you've ever been on will be picked over with a fine-tooth comb.
08/04/2011
Indeed. Though, legally, if you can prove that you thought he/she was under legal age of consent then the courts would be a lot more lenient on you, since deception was involved, and most likely dismiss the case altogether.
08/05/2011
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Yeah, my parents didn't monitor my computer use at all, even in middle school. I think it was good of them to give me privacy, though, and just teach me the importance of internet safety (don't go posting drunk pics on facebook, don't plaster your personal info everywhere, keep an email that looks official and another one for unimportant or possibly spammy sites, etc.)
Originally posted by
Ansley
You ask. If they say they are 18, you have no reason not to believe them. I think it's pretty easy at times to tell the difference between a young teen and an 18 year old. I would hope as one approaches college/adulthood they would cut it with
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You ask. If they say they are 18, you have no reason not to believe them. I think it's pretty easy at times to tell the difference between a young teen and an 18 year old. I would hope as one approaches college/adulthood they would cut it with the chat speak and OMGLOL IBieber stuff.
Should you ever meet in person or start cam sessions and suspect they aren't 18, the best thing to do would be to get up and leave or disconnect the chat and block their user names.
I would also like to think pre-teens and teens aren't hanging out on adult chat sites because their parents monitor their user history and internet access in general. That's probably not the case, unfortunately.
The implications would be the person lied about their age, you would spend a lifetime defending yourself against the charges and all of your chat history on every website you've ever been on will be picked over with a fine-tooth comb. less
Should you ever meet in person or start cam sessions and suspect they aren't 18, the best thing to do would be to get up and leave or disconnect the chat and block their user names.
I would also like to think pre-teens and teens aren't hanging out on adult chat sites because their parents monitor their user history and internet access in general. That's probably not the case, unfortunately.
The implications would be the person lied about their age, you would spend a lifetime defending yourself against the charges and all of your chat history on every website you've ever been on will be picked over with a fine-tooth comb. less
I've seen 40-50 year olds using u, l8r, etc. (I even know one girl in her 20s who likes to type q instead of g whenever it's lowercase because it looks stylish.) I used those for about a year in the middle of middle school, then stopped. It's hard to judge someone's age by their typing mannerisms, though you can gauge their maturity level pretty well.
I'd hope that the government would blame the kid if they lied about their age. If the kid is very obviously much younger (like, 12), then I think you deserve some blame.
Asking questions about their schedule might help discern. For example, if they claim to be in college, ask what times their classes are and/or the class names, and then see if they kind of stick to that schedule as they log on. If you know what area they live in, watch out for stuff like "we had a snow day today" and cross-check with news sites to make sure that there were colleges out, not just middle and high schools. If they say they have a job, try to get enough info about the kind of stuff they do or how their shifts work to tell whether it sounds like a real job or just the classic teen image of what jobs should be like. None of these are foolproof, but it's generally pretty easy to break down a story about college and jobs when the person has no experience with those things.
08/05/2011
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That's way too much like work. Hahaha!
Originally posted by
MaryExy
Yeah, my parents didn't monitor my computer use at all, even in middle school. I think it was good of them to give me privacy, though, and just teach me the importance of internet safety (don't go posting drunk pics on facebook, don't
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Yeah, my parents didn't monitor my computer use at all, even in middle school. I think it was good of them to give me privacy, though, and just teach me the importance of internet safety (don't go posting drunk pics on facebook, don't plaster your personal info everywhere, keep an email that looks official and another one for unimportant or possibly spammy sites, etc.)
I've seen 40-50 year olds using u, l8r, etc. (I even know one girl in her 20s who likes to type q instead of g whenever it's lowercase because it looks stylish.) I used those for about a year in the middle of middle school, then stopped. It's hard to judge someone's age by their typing mannerisms, though you can gauge their maturity level pretty well.
I'd hope that the government would blame the kid if they lied about their age. If the kid is very obviously much younger (like, 12), then I think you deserve some blame.
Asking questions about their schedule might help discern. For example, if they claim to be in college, ask what times their classes are and/or the class names, and then see if they kind of stick to that schedule as they log on. If you know what area they live in, watch out for stuff like "we had a snow day today" and cross-check with news sites to make sure that there were colleges out, not just middle and high schools. If they say they have a job, try to get enough info about the kind of stuff they do or how their shifts work to tell whether it sounds like a real job or just the classic teen image of what jobs should be like. None of these are foolproof, but it's generally pretty easy to break down a story about college and jobs when the person has no experience with those things. less
I've seen 40-50 year olds using u, l8r, etc. (I even know one girl in her 20s who likes to type q instead of g whenever it's lowercase because it looks stylish.) I used those for about a year in the middle of middle school, then stopped. It's hard to judge someone's age by their typing mannerisms, though you can gauge their maturity level pretty well.
I'd hope that the government would blame the kid if they lied about their age. If the kid is very obviously much younger (like, 12), then I think you deserve some blame.
Asking questions about their schedule might help discern. For example, if they claim to be in college, ask what times their classes are and/or the class names, and then see if they kind of stick to that schedule as they log on. If you know what area they live in, watch out for stuff like "we had a snow day today" and cross-check with news sites to make sure that there were colleges out, not just middle and high schools. If they say they have a job, try to get enough info about the kind of stuff they do or how their shifts work to tell whether it sounds like a real job or just the classic teen image of what jobs should be like. None of these are foolproof, but it's generally pretty easy to break down a story about college and jobs when the person has no experience with those things. less
I don't do this kind of stuff anyway, so it's of no concern to me whatsoever. But, I think it would all fall apart as soon as you start hitting heavy on sexual subjects. It becomes quite clear that someone has no idea what they're talking about very fast when it comes to the deeper intricacies and reasons behind fetishism and stuff like that.
There should be a "Lying to Entice An Adult" charge, just like there is for the reverse situation.
Also, I think it would be very hard for the local authorities to see a user on an ADULT site as a predator, since you know the site is for adults not children. Most pedophiles and the like hang out where the childrens hang out and avoid adult-oriented sites.
08/05/2011
it's not for sure, but maturity level will shine through, most of the time. but idk i really don't do stuff like that anyway.
08/05/2011
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A lot of adults wouldn't be able to explain anything about fetish, kink, etc. I BS-ed my way through some sex and fetish conversations when I was younger, and no one ever said, "you sound like a minor, you have no idea what you're talking about." How well someone discusses sexual psychology can depend quite a bit on curiosity and googling skills.
Originally posted by
Ansley
That's way too much like work. Hahaha!
I don't do this kind of stuff anyway, so it's of no concern to me whatsoever. But, I think it would all fall apart as soon as you start hitting heavy on sexual subjects. It becomes quite ... more
I don't do this kind of stuff anyway, so it's of no concern to me whatsoever. But, I think it would all fall apart as soon as you start hitting heavy on sexual subjects. It becomes quite ... more
That's way too much like work. Hahaha!
I don't do this kind of stuff anyway, so it's of no concern to me whatsoever. But, I think it would all fall apart as soon as you start hitting heavy on sexual subjects. It becomes quite clear that someone has no idea what they're talking about very fast when it comes to the deeper intricacies and reasons behind fetishism and stuff like that.
There should be a "Lying to Entice An Adult" charge, just like there is for the reverse situation.
Also, I think it would be very hard for the local authorities to see a user on an ADULT site as a predator, since you know the site is for adults not children. Most pedophiles and the like hang out where the childrens hang out and avoid adult-oriented sites. less
I don't do this kind of stuff anyway, so it's of no concern to me whatsoever. But, I think it would all fall apart as soon as you start hitting heavy on sexual subjects. It becomes quite clear that someone has no idea what they're talking about very fast when it comes to the deeper intricacies and reasons behind fetishism and stuff like that.
There should be a "Lying to Entice An Adult" charge, just like there is for the reverse situation.
Also, I think it would be very hard for the local authorities to see a user on an ADULT site as a predator, since you know the site is for adults not children. Most pedophiles and the like hang out where the childrens hang out and avoid adult-oriented sites. less
I do think that minors posing as legal adults should be punished by law. It's almost like being a horny, hormone-driven con artist.
It makes much more sense for adults seeking minors to go to public chatrooms or online games. As you said, I doubt law enforcement could put much (if any) blame on an adult that got seduced by a minor on an adults-only website.
08/05/2011
The thought just scares the hell out of me. I've heard of too many stories of 15 and 16 year olds pretending to be sexy and adult to attract older guys. Even if they send pictures, there's no way to prove it's them. I'm also pretty sure that there isn't a way to tell between a naked 18 year old and a naked 17 1/2 year old, but the courts can still charge you for child porn.
I'd just avoid the whole situation.
I'd just avoid the whole situation.
08/05/2011
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