At the moment we ain't even trying, but yes, we have had serious trouble in that dept. My problem stemmed from living with endometriosis for so many years -- it damaged my reproductvie organs -- so a few years ago, I became pregnant, but miscarried. Then became pregnant again in the same year and miscarried. This was before I was doctor diagnosed with endometriosis, so after the miscarriages, I was finally seen and had surgery for the endo. My OB/GYN said I'd likely never be able to carry to full term. I've been able to actually get pregnant, but can't seem to ever carry to full term. My surgery was a year ago & my OB/GYN said if I wanted kids, I should be trying right away, but I've not been able to try yet because I can't yet stand to go through losing another child. Not right now anyway.

So during surgery, my lovely OB/GYN did not remove all the endometrial growths. Said some lesions were deeply attached to ahem, another organ and he simply did not want to go that far to remove. So I was put on Depo Provera in order to control/prevent those lesions from growing, Depo Provera is also used for birth control. My OB/GYN said at my last visit that she doesn't see me every giving birth, but I still have all my parts for it -- damaged or not -- and I cannot believe that it is impossible for me to actually carry to full term and have a healthy child of my own. I know that it's happened to people far worse off than me, people with far less of a chance than me, so I just don't believe it's totally impossible, but I am not ready to take the chance of losing another child.

Anyways, that is my problem, but no, we are not currently trying. The good news is, shortly after our last loss, we took on 3 children (my own neices and nephews!) and have been raising them ever since. These days though, the youngest (just turned 3) is only with us part time, which is unfortunate, but we're just glad that her father is back in her life to spend part of it with her. So having our own, non-biological children has brought us joy and taken over so much of the pain we felt over our losses. It won't ever be our two very own, but these kids are still ours, and loved just as much, only we didn't have them ourselves.

As for you and your wife, I am really sorry there's some stress there. You both will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers starting right now. Also, this is interesting that someone here on EF is in the midst of baby-havin' because I recently wrote an article sharing my whole mess with my losses, and am now working on another article having to do with "tips on preventing miscarriage." Of course miscarriage is not always prevented, but there actually are some things that can affect it plenty enough. For instance, if you're pregnant, you should avoid Vitamin C, ascorbic acid, especially in large doses as it can actually cause miscarriage. On the other hand, bioflavanoids (which are in most vitamins, but also other things too) have a really big impact on pregnancy. They can help you NOT to miscarriage and even give you a better chance of carrying to full term!

Pineapple, parsely, penny royal tea, etc. Those are some things a risky pregnant woman should avoid. Especially in large quantaties.

Well, those are a few of the things I had included in my article draft, and since I happened across your post, I thought I might just share em' here in case these things may be of help to you guys! I'd highly recommend your wife to start getting a good dose of bioflavanoids in her diet. Of course I'm no doctor at all, I only got my information from the past few years of research and advice from my own doctors. You can research all these things on Pub Med (a totally credible source for information such as this) to learn more of find out if these things are something you personally need to include or avoid in your own diet.

Well, best of luck to you both and huge congrats! I hope all turns out so well and you guys have the healthiest, precious baby ever! I assume she's already working on reducing her stress levels? Yoga, accupressure, etc. are all good for this. Also, I use something calld a Yantra Mat for accupressure and stress relieving and find it incredibly helpful. It's just a mat with these spiky plastic pricks all over it that you lie down on, or rest up against for several minutes or more a day. The spikes are used to stimulate certain pressure points. Using the mat during specific stressful (or raging lol) moments actually makes such a huge difference for me. It's very neat! Maybe something like this, even just massaging the right spots would be really helpful for your wife too.