What is your biggest personality flaw?

What is your biggest personality flaw?

Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Do you have a personality flaw, (that you will admit to having )? What do you think is your worst one?

It's hard for me to choose, but for now I will say that I hold grudges. In other words, I do not forgive people who have done me wrong, I drop them cold & never look back or dwell on it again. Very unattractive & perhaps immature, but I will admit it, at least here. Maybe I could work on this, but I really don't have many examples of having done this in the past. I'm very guarded about who I let close enough that they could really hurt me. Gee, well, there is another flaw, perhaps? I create a barrier preventing me from being hurt. Oh this is just a lovely topic to have brought up! What was I thinking?
04/03/2013
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Silverwinds Silverwinds
I'm extremely selfish and lazy.
04/03/2013
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
I have been working for the past year on my tendency to say things that will hurt people. I'm ridiculously blunt and my tone doesn't always translate well online and I just never really cared if I was PC or sensitive.

I'll admit sometimes I still don't care BUT... I'm trying. It's become more important for me to not make others feel crappy just cuz I feel the need to say something. I try to chew on my thoughts a bit more now before I spit them out and determine if I really "need" to say something or just want to.

It's hard work but worth it. I'm a pretty nice person. As I get older it's more important to me to show that instead of always showing my ass
04/03/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
I tend towards the blunt side, regardless of whether it's appropriate. I'm slowly getting better though
04/03/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Thanks for the honesty, you three! I always appreciate how the first few people reply because they can set the whole tone for future replies!

Carrie Ann & gsfanatic, it's so hard to restrain yourself from saying what pops into your head when it's a lifelong habit, isn't it? You should hear my internal dialog, ha ha! I have had a lifetime of being forced to repress my "mouth", so I keep it zipped, but in my head it's all swimming around! If I wasn't allergic to alcohol, I would have to avoid drinking anyway. I can just imagine what a mean drunk I could be with my filters removed!

We have a similar, but different problem as yours, with my father. He feels the need to voice whatever he thinks. It's frustrating that he doesn't show the same restrain that we show him. He is the most sensitive person about what people say to him, so it's annoying that he dishes it out but can't take it. Unfortunately, he has no desire to change because he thinks he's perfect & therefore has a right to be judge & jury. So I applaud you for making the effort because I really don't know how many people would. Good for you both! BTW Carrie Ann,your restraint must be working, as I don't recall ever seeing a comment by you that would be considered hurtful or insensitive.

This reminds me of another personality flaw of mine. I always know or ferret out what would hurt someone to the quick & hold it in reserve in case I "need" it. I don't recall ever letting it loose but once or twice, but it was devastatingly effective in causing maximum carnage. Gee, I sound like a real asshole in this thread! Clearly, I am a wee bit defensive!
04/03/2013
Virgingasms Virgingasms
I'm way too shy so it can be hard for people to actually get to know my personality.
04/03/2013
peachmarie peachmarie
I'm non confrontational, I have intense anxiety dreams if i'm stressed and i really try my best to avoid anything confrontational especially with my family.
04/03/2013
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I'm quick to judge.
04/04/2013
evie.amor evie.amor
Growing up, I can't even count all the times that one of my friends said "You don't have a filter!" because I was too blunt. I've learned to hold a lot back but every now and then I slip up.

I'm too hard on myself, and I don't take criticism that well. I absorb the criticism and probably wont ever make the mistake again, but often I cry or get defensive initially.

I'm a procrastinator.

I sometimes have trouble following through with things because I lose interest quickly.

But I'm working on all of it!
04/04/2013
jennifur77 jennifur77
I talk too much.
04/04/2013
spiced spiced
I tend to be impatient and impulsive. It seems like the more important the decision, the more I want to just decide to get it over with! Fortunately, I've been aware of it for a long time and (mostly) keep it under control with a couple of coping strategies. Mostly.
04/04/2013
Britt&Rich Britt&Rich
I'm a pretty controlling person, in the sense that I need to be in control of situations but not necessarily people. I've been working on letting go some but it's really hard to. I feel so vulnerable when I don't have the majority of control over something.
04/04/2013
bratcat bratcat
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Originally posted by peachmarie
I'm non confrontational, I have intense anxiety dreams if i'm stressed and i really try my best to avoid anything confrontational especially with my family.
this just described me to a T. I have really hard time saying "no" to people, and hate confrontation which is why i spend over a year in a kind of terrible relation ship (and several other relationships). I've recently started to not let people put me down and making my opinions and thoughts heard, but it's defiantly a process.
04/04/2013
GONE! GONE!
I'm horribly lazy.
04/04/2013
edeneve edeneve
I can be very blunt & not even know it; second guessing myself.
04/04/2013
Melan!e Melan!e
Like peachmarie and brat cat, I hate confrontation too. When someone hurts me I just bottle it up and don't say anything. It hasn't been working out too well for me either. Eventually I explode on whoever is standing nearest me.

My hate for confrontation has led to other flaws I see in myself... When I'm nervous or scared to do something I just won't do it. Things pile up and just get worse which makes me even less likely to face them, and so goes the circle.

I really need to work on changing that about myself but have no idea where to start.
04/04/2013
Ansley Ansley
I have a few...one that tends to get on my husband's last nerve is that I can be extremely confrontational if I feel the situation calls for it, regardless if anyone else feels that way...I've rocked a few boats in my lifetime that's for damn sure.
04/04/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
I'm stubborn. It has it's positive aspects, but definitely gets in the way as well. For instance, there is someone important in my life who is veeeeeery confrontation. This person will knowingly say something rude and is ready to start an argument. Since I am so stubborn, I cannot just let it go. I have to defend myself or anyone else who is being treated unfairly. I end up getting frustrated of course, while the confrontational person just moves along.
04/04/2013
Chelynn67 Chelynn67
Quote:
Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Do you have a personality flaw, (that you will admit to having )? What do you think is your worst one?

It's hard for me to choose, but for now I will say that I hold grudges. In other words, I do not forgive people who have done me wrong, ...
Thinking I can take care of everybody
04/06/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by KinkyKatieJames
I'm stubborn. It has it's positive aspects, but definitely gets in the way as well. For instance, there is someone important in my life who is veeeeeery confrontation. This person will knowingly say something rude and is ready to start an ...
Whoa, you just described me, too! I do the same damn thing & it grinds my gears when they can blithely walk away after starting the situation & I'm still fuming. It's almost as if that person feels better for making someone else upset. But I try not to get sucked into it. However I detest seeing someone else being picked on or treated unfairly & have a visceral reaction to defend them.
04/06/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I have a few...one that tends to get on my husband's last nerve is that I can be extremely confrontational if I feel the situation calls for it, regardless if anyone else feels that way...I've rocked a few boats in my lifetime that's for damn sure.
So that's why you chose your screen name, you like to rock boats!
04/06/2013
Living Doll Living Doll
I have a lot of anxiety most of the time and I worry that other people can tell and judge me for it.
04/06/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
Lack of confidence, its a little better but it always hampers my hunger to try something new. I have to fight it all the time.
04/06/2013
SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I am not sure about the biggest, I have plenty: stubbornness, low self-esteem, laziness and anxiety are probably the worst ones.
04/07/2013
SeductivelyCute SeductivelyCute
I think at times I can be standoffis and sometimes needy.
04/07/2013
jr2012 jr2012
I obsess over things. Occasionally this can be good (ie, my house is clean and my closets are organized), but other times it's bad (ie, when I am laying in bed at night thinking about a mean comment I said to a friend 4 years ago). I really wish I could let stuff go!
04/07/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think I have too many to name!

I'm too sensitive, things that shouldn't really hurt me, pain me to the core. I'm stubborn, anxious, second guess myself, think I can help/fix everyone, have a hard time letting things go, etc.
04/07/2013
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
So that's why you chose your screen name, you like to rock boats!
No, it's actually my name.
04/17/2013
Shera Adora Shera Adora
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
No, it's actually my name.
Sometimes I feel like I'm not compassionate enough
04/18/2013
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