Just curious if this is a reality or just a saying.
Do men really want a "Lamb in the Kitchen and a Tiger in the Bedroom"
12/29/2011
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I may not be a guy, but I think it's stupid to assume all men want quiet women that are 'tigers' in the sack. I have no problem getting partners and I'm very blunt and I usually take control of the situation.
12/29/2011
the lamb thing kind of assumes that men only want women who go along with their ideas, while offering none of their own. while it is true that people prefer the path of least resistance, the idea that a man only wants someone who will follow their every him and give them great sex makes the partner sound more like a high-end sex toy than, you know, a human being.
12/29/2011
Master prefers it the other way around ... but the tigress is part of the rest of the household, too, not just the kitchen.
12/29/2011
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Mr. Bignuf here. Actually I voted yes, but thinking about it, I don't even like Lamb. Mrs. Bignuf does, but only with mint sauce. Also, WHO wants to go into their bedroom and find a tiger? YIKES, would tear you up and eat you. Literally.
Originally posted by
rom323
Just curious if this is a reality or just a saying.
None of this sounds like fun!!!!
Okay, I know, don't give up the day job for comedy club work.
In reality, I don't know how this applies, but Mrs. Bignuf LOVES to cook. She is a "lamb" if you mean very old fashioned "domestic housewife" and COOK in the kitchen...and other then cleaning up, she does NOT want me in there at all.
However in the bedroom...oooh, la, la. She is a RABID tiger (lucky, LUCKY me so is that what I "want"? YES. Sure do. It is what I "want" or at least what I GOT...and I am sure NOT complaining.
12/29/2011
*please don't generalize that ALL men want the same thing. we are all independent beings with different wants and desires which cannot be grouped by groups, such as gender or sexual orientation (not all men are straight either).*
Echoing T &A on this one, too. This is a mentality that shouldn't be appropriate for twenty first century living. Women are very much capable of having independent thoughts, which should be encouraged by their partners, not hushed up (well unless you're in a dom/sub relationship, which I'm sure, different rules apply.)
Echoing T &A on this one, too. This is a mentality that shouldn't be appropriate for twenty first century living. Women are very much capable of having independent thoughts, which should be encouraged by their partners, not hushed up (well unless you're in a dom/sub relationship, which I'm sure, different rules apply.)
12/29/2011
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Oh heavens....Mrs. Bignuf enjoys cooking and doing "domestic" stuff, but haven forbid anyone think she has no "ideas" of her own. Ha, ha. Her ideas are the ideas that COUNT around our place...and although she "values" my opinion (sometimes), the fact is, "If mama ain't happy, ain't no one happy", so we know, and SHE knows who gets their way on MOST things. Thankfully we tend to agree on MOST things and almost always on the stuff that really matters. One of the great advantages of marrying someone who shares values, goals and ideals that you do!!!
Originally posted by
T&A1987
the lamb thing kind of assumes that men only want women who go along with their ideas, while offering none of their own. while it is true that people prefer the path of least resistance, the idea that a man only wants someone who will follow their
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the lamb thing kind of assumes that men only want women who go along with their ideas, while offering none of their own. while it is true that people prefer the path of least resistance, the idea that a man only wants someone who will follow their every him and give them great sex makes the partner sound more like a high-end sex toy than, you know, a human being.
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12/29/2011
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I really think everyone is misreading this. I think the original intent of the comment...the old saying anyway...was that a woman was a "lady in public and a tiger in the bedroom". In short, very "PROPER" in public (think PTA mom, or someone the neighbors don't mind inviting to their backyard BBQ). However, someone who is NOT uptight and can really let her hair down and get wild in the bedroom,behind closed doors.
Originally posted by
Ms. Spice
*please don't generalize that ALL men want the same thing. we are all independent beings with different wants and desires which cannot be grouped by groups, such as gender or sexual orientation (not all men are straight either).*
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*please don't generalize that ALL men want the same thing. we are all independent beings with different wants and desires which cannot be grouped by groups, such as gender or sexual orientation (not all men are straight either).*
Echoing T &A on this one, too. This is a mentality that shouldn't be appropriate for twenty first century living. Women are very much capable of having independent thoughts, which should be encouraged by their partners, not hushed up (well unless you're in a dom/sub relationship, which I'm sure, different rules apply.) less
Echoing T &A on this one, too. This is a mentality that shouldn't be appropriate for twenty first century living. Women are very much capable of having independent thoughts, which should be encouraged by their partners, not hushed up (well unless you're in a dom/sub relationship, which I'm sure, different rules apply.) less
Since this is exactly a description of ME (Mrs. Bignuf)...reserved and very formal school marm on the outside, wild sexy girlfriend in private with my hubby on the inside.....I can tell you there is NOTHING demeaning or insulting about it. Certainly NOT from my man who appreciates it all and not for me, who enjoys being "wild" only for him!!!
12/29/2011
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Ditto this 100%.
Originally posted by
Ms. Spice
*please don't generalize that ALL men want the same thing. we are all independent beings with different wants and desires which cannot be grouped by groups, such as gender or sexual orientation (not all men are straight either).*
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*please don't generalize that ALL men want the same thing. we are all independent beings with different wants and desires which cannot be grouped by groups, such as gender or sexual orientation (not all men are straight either).*
Echoing T &A on this one, too. This is a mentality that shouldn't be appropriate for twenty first century living. Women are very much capable of having independent thoughts, which should be encouraged by their partners, not hushed up (well unless you're in a dom/sub relationship, which I'm sure, different rules apply.) less
Echoing T &A on this one, too. This is a mentality that shouldn't be appropriate for twenty first century living. Women are very much capable of having independent thoughts, which should be encouraged by their partners, not hushed up (well unless you're in a dom/sub relationship, which I'm sure, different rules apply.) less
12/29/2011
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sorry if i took this too seriously. it's just when i hear lamb and kitchen i usually think either of the old 1950's housewives, who were in the kitchen whether they wanted to be or not, or the "make me a sammich memes." when i read it, it sounded like "do men just want a maid and sex toy?" but i may have taken it too seriously.
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Oh heavens....Mrs. Bignuf enjoys cooking and doing "domestic" stuff, but haven forbid anyone think she has no "ideas" of her own. Ha, ha. Her ideas are the ideas that COUNT around our place...and although she "values" my
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Oh heavens....Mrs. Bignuf enjoys cooking and doing "domestic" stuff, but haven forbid anyone think she has no "ideas" of her own. Ha, ha. Her ideas are the ideas that COUNT around our place...and although she "values" my opinion (sometimes), the fact is, "If mama ain't happy, ain't no one happy", so we know, and SHE knows who gets their way on MOST things. Thankfully we tend to agree on MOST things and almost always on the stuff that really matters. One of the great advantages of marrying someone who shares values, goals and ideals that you do!!!
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12/29/2011
I am no cook. My husband loves to cook and he is way better at it than me, so more power to him. I will clean up after him until the cows come home, but please don't ask me to make dinner every night, unless you like take-out. I am definitely a freak in the bed, and I am hearing no complaints from him on that front either.
To those who think of this post as a generalization and a knock against men, please remember there are some women who prefer to live the June Cleaver (1950s housewife) lifestyle; I am one of them and so are many of my friends. Unfortunately, my husband does not share my thinking and he would prefer I get out there and make more money than he does.
To those who think of this post as a generalization and a knock against men, please remember there are some women who prefer to live the June Cleaver (1950s housewife) lifestyle; I am one of them and so are many of my friends. Unfortunately, my husband does not share my thinking and he would prefer I get out there and make more money than he does.
12/29/2011
My ex-boyfriend used to say he wanted "a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets." It's essentially the same thing, but being a classy lady is much more appealing to me than being a "lamb in the kitchen."
I like to cook, but I'll never be a "lamb in the kitchen" and I think I'm a bit too opinionated/stubborn/b ossy to be a true "lady" either.
But my current boyfriend was surprised to find out I reviewed sex toys, liked anal, etc. when we started dating because we had been friends for a while first, and I never talked about sexual things at all. I'm certainly not a prude, but I prefer to keep my sex life private, and really only discuss it with my partner, or on here of course. So I guess it does work for me in that way.
I like to cook, but I'll never be a "lamb in the kitchen" and I think I'm a bit too opinionated/stubborn/b ossy to be a true "lady" either.
But my current boyfriend was surprised to find out I reviewed sex toys, liked anal, etc. when we started dating because we had been friends for a while first, and I never talked about sexual things at all. I'm certainly not a prude, but I prefer to keep my sex life private, and really only discuss it with my partner, or on here of course. So I guess it does work for me in that way.
12/29/2011
Not the quote I know..
12/30/2011
I have never heard the "Lady in the Streets and a Freak in the sheets" but I like this much better and describes better the meaning I was going for.
12/30/2011
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No, of course all men don't think the same. But, a lot of us are in D/s or M/s relationships and when the woman is the sub, this may apply. Although it's more "a slut in the bedroom" rather than a tiger. I bite, but not all the time.
Originally posted by
Ms. Spice
*please don't generalize that ALL men want the same thing. we are all independent beings with different wants and desires which cannot be grouped by groups, such as gender or sexual orientation (not all men are straight either).*
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Echoing ... more
*please don't generalize that ALL men want the same thing. we are all independent beings with different wants and desires which cannot be grouped by groups, such as gender or sexual orientation (not all men are straight either).*
Echoing T &A on this one, too. This is a mentality that shouldn't be appropriate for twenty first century living. Women are very much capable of having independent thoughts, which should be encouraged by their partners, not hushed up (well unless you're in a dom/sub relationship, which I'm sure, different rules apply.) less
Echoing T &A on this one, too. This is a mentality that shouldn't be appropriate for twenty first century living. Women are very much capable of having independent thoughts, which should be encouraged by their partners, not hushed up (well unless you're in a dom/sub relationship, which I'm sure, different rules apply.) less
In the kitchen? I'm a cook and a baker. He cooks, too. I will fight him tooth and nail if I think he's doing something "wrong" in the kitchen. He rushes and wants to take things out of the oven before they are done. Some of our worst kitchen fights have been because he wants to serve us or our guests under cooked food. Bleh. I'm not going to poison people, so I do get my opinion out there when this happens. I can be subby when someone's health isn't at risk, though.
I love taking care of him and doing things for him. He is sometimes reticent about asking for things outside the bedroom (being a Dom, it's weird, as he does in the bedroom) but I love the whole, "Make me a sammich, babe." thing. Being told to clean.... not so much.
12/30/2011
My girl is a very good cook, and I love that about her. I personally can't cook, which is a shame because I'd love to cook for her. But I'd rather not poison her, so bah. But that doesn't mean she's shy and retiring, or lamb-like. She's actually quite the opposite, and I love her for that, too.
And she also happens to be quite wild in the bedroom. But for our holiday later this year, we have plans to be quite wild in the kitchen, too, so make of that what you will.
And she also happens to be quite wild in the bedroom. But for our holiday later this year, we have plans to be quite wild in the kitchen, too, so make of that what you will.
01/09/2012
Mine's kinda an inbetween but I like her that way
01/09/2012
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Thank you Bignuf!! You took the words right out of my mouth.
Originally posted by
Bignuf
I really think everyone is misreading this. I think the original intent of the comment...the old saying anyway...was that a woman was a "lady in public and a tiger in the bedroom". In short, very "PROPER" in public (think PTA mom,
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I really think everyone is misreading this. I think the original intent of the comment...the old saying anyway...was that a woman was a "lady in public and a tiger in the bedroom". In short, very "PROPER" in public (think PTA mom, or someone the neighbors don't mind inviting to their backyard BBQ). However, someone who is NOT uptight and can really let her hair down and get wild in the bedroom,behind closed doors.
Since this is exactly a description of ME (Mrs. Bignuf)...reserved and very formal school marm on the outside, wild sexy girlfriend in private with my hubby on the inside.....I can tell you there is NOTHING demeaning or insulting about it. Certainly NOT from my man who appreciates it all and not for me, who enjoys being "wild" only for him!!! less
Since this is exactly a description of ME (Mrs. Bignuf)...reserved and very formal school marm on the outside, wild sexy girlfriend in private with my hubby on the inside.....I can tell you there is NOTHING demeaning or insulting about it. Certainly NOT from my man who appreciates it all and not for me, who enjoys being "wild" only for him!!! less
01/09/2012
Man, if I could shapeshift, I'd totally be some kind of rodent in the kitchen so the food would last longer, and then a cat in the bedroom so that nobody would question me sleeping for so long...
Oh, was that not what we were talking about?
When you get down to it, everybody wants something a little different. To say that all men (or all women) want the exact same kind of partner is a little silly.
Oh, was that not what we were talking about?
When you get down to it, everybody wants something a little different. To say that all men (or all women) want the exact same kind of partner is a little silly.
01/09/2012
Most the time I'm the one in the kitchen lol. But I do want a 'good girl' that is only bad for me
01/09/2012
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same! I'm usually the one in the kitchen.
Originally posted by
<3BF
Most the time I'm the one in the kitchen lol. But I do want a 'good girl' that is only bad for me
01/09/2012
Since I'm a wolf in the kitchen and the bedroom, I wouldn't know. I'm predatory, wild, I tend to bite, and I can be civilized only with bribes and careful prompting. I'm still likely to eat the steak raw and growl at the guests, no matter how civilized I may appear at first though...
Really though, I suppose I could meet the "Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" definition. I clean up nice and talk purdy.
Really though, I suppose I could meet the "Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" definition. I clean up nice and talk purdy.
01/09/2012
I can do the lady thing (I actually did graduate from charm school), though most of the time I'm apparently much more of a gentleman. When out with other women, I kind of default to being the charming, gentlemanly escort.
I have been told I'm a total freak with my private partners, including one who is very turned on by my old-fashioned gentleman thing. Most people don't expect it at all.
I have been told I'm a total freak with my private partners, including one who is very turned on by my old-fashioned gentleman thing. Most people don't expect it at all.
01/09/2012
i think most guys like submissive women
01/09/2012
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