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I love my hubby, however when he is an asshole I do not like him as a person at all. He is cold, conniving and rude. Anyone else feel like this?
My family would agree with you and my Mother has said more than once to me that she wouldn't be friends with my Father if they weren' married. Both my parents and my Grandparents have said that they didn't like spending time together if they didn't have to and will never marry again because they hate being married. To me this attitude is disturbing and so wrong.
I genuinely like the guys as people and even if we weren't as close as we are I would be proud to call them friend. Sigel has been my best friend since we were 16 years old! He is an amazing person...he has his faults and can be a real asshole but over all he is a great person to be around most times. I was friends with Arch for almost 5 years before we met face to face and even though he has been called an ass, an arrogant prick (and worse!) I still think he's one of the most kind, caring and interesting people I know.
Having read your statement again, though, I would say that you should be comfortable not liking his actions when he is cold, conniving and rude but also still celebrate him as a person and like the times he acts better than when he is acting like an ass. That's just part of being a good friend, really. Everyone has their moments! Now if he is ALWAYS an ass that might be a bit of a problem...