I guess it's pretty self-explanatory. Do you have a lot of secrets, or did you ever have a very large secret that you had to keep for several months, even years?
When I was with my ex, I had a secret that I kept from my family for almost three years, because it was my partner's secret and was not mine to tell. And yet, I do not really understand how it could have been a secret, because... it's just that he had a daughter with a 'friend with benefits', and he only speaks of her as my 'best friend's daughter'.
She has asked for a child and that he would not have any responsibility in exchange, and he accepted. He did not consider himself the father, even less the dad. But he firmly denies having a child. The child knows who is her biological father by now, since her parents are still best friends, but I feel sorry for that little creature. They spend sometimes Christmas together, and they spend some quality time together, and yet, he does not accept her as her daughter. One day she will be old enough to feel hurt about this rejection. And seriously, I can't really blame her, since what he is doing to that child is heartless, at least to me. Even if the deal was no responsibility, recognizing someone as part of your family is completely free.
I did not only keep his secret for his sake, but I also knew that my mother would not approve that people can do 'deals' like that to have children. And also... because somehow I did not want to have to have to answer my family's question about the situation, especially since I did not approve myself of the way he dealt with the situation. I broke up with him mostly of the love triangle that he had created with me and the girl's mother. She was his best friend and the best person that he had ever met in his life. But I came second even as his girlfriend.
So yeah, I can't really ask you to share your current large secrets just like I won't be sharing my present ones, but if you had any large ones in the past, feel free to share as well.
When I was with my ex, I had a secret that I kept from my family for almost three years, because it was my partner's secret and was not mine to tell. And yet, I do not really understand how it could have been a secret, because... it's just that he had a daughter with a 'friend with benefits', and he only speaks of her as my 'best friend's daughter'.
She has asked for a child and that he would not have any responsibility in exchange, and he accepted. He did not consider himself the father, even less the dad. But he firmly denies having a child. The child knows who is her biological father by now, since her parents are still best friends, but I feel sorry for that little creature. They spend sometimes Christmas together, and they spend some quality time together, and yet, he does not accept her as her daughter. One day she will be old enough to feel hurt about this rejection. And seriously, I can't really blame her, since what he is doing to that child is heartless, at least to me. Even if the deal was no responsibility, recognizing someone as part of your family is completely free.
I did not only keep his secret for his sake, but I also knew that my mother would not approve that people can do 'deals' like that to have children. And also... because somehow I did not want to have to have to answer my family's question about the situation, especially since I did not approve myself of the way he dealt with the situation. I broke up with him mostly of the love triangle that he had created with me and the girl's mother. She was his best friend and the best person that he had ever met in his life. But I came second even as his girlfriend.
So yeah, I can't really ask you to share your current large secrets just like I won't be sharing my present ones, but if you had any large ones in the past, feel free to share as well.
