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Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
If you change your behavior on the forums, do you worry about what other people will think? For example, I've been thinking about following some contributors who interest me, but I've previously said that I make it a point to not follow anyone. Now I'm stuck worrying about my previous statement not matching up with what I'm doing because I changed my mind.

Is this something I should even bother to worry about? Do you ever have this kind of dilemma thinking back over things you've previously said on the forums?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
You're crazy - do what you want regardless of what you've previously said.
60
Stick to your original opinion for consistency.
Pet the llama.
22
Total votes: 82 (70 voters)
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Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I used to say I do not follow anybody, but changed my mind after I became friends with another EFer. Just do whatever suits you, no one will pick on you.
07/08/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
I don't.
07/08/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
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Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
I don't.
Indeed, me either... ^^
07/08/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Things change and so do people so why not if you want to follow them then follow
07/09/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
In this case I see no problem, after all we all enjoy our freedom to do as we please. If someone thinks less of you for doing something you want they are not worth a second thought.
07/09/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Do you really think we're paying that much attention to what you wrote before? We all have the right to change our minds - don't sweat the small stuff!
07/09/2012
Contributor: Scrawberry78 Scrawberry78
You should not worry about it
07/09/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
If you change your behavior on the forums, do you worry about what other people will think? For example, I've been thinking about following some contributors who interest me, but I've previously said that I make it a point to not follow ... more
Oh who cares? Don't worry about that. I mean who cares if you've had a change of mind? It's not a big deal. I tend not to care much what people think because it's just not a huge thing to me, unless it's my family. However, I highly doubt your situation would cause others to think negatively of you.

I don't change how I feel or how I behave here just because of what others may think. My way of thinking is, if they happen to disagree with what I do/say then that's no big deal. That doesn't mean we can't still be friends or enjoy each other--usually. And if they happen to agree, nice. Usually though, people here are going to respect you and your opinions and still be fine with you.

It's not like making this simple change of mind makes you some kind of hypocrite. It's a minor thing.

No. I of all people do not think it's anything to worry about. And I tend to worry way too much about tiny things. Just have fun. If you want to follow people great! It'll only make people more friendly toward you, no matter what you felt previously. They'll just think you've decided to branch out more, open up and make some friends.

Now I may well feel one way about somethign and voice it and have my feelings change on it later. It's just what happens.
07/09/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
People change their minds all the time. Something like what you stated shouldn't matter to anyone if you decide to follow people now. It's your business anyway.
07/09/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Thanks everyone, I appreciate the feedback!

I pretty much knew deep down that I was just being incredibly silly. Sometimes I just have this paranoia that's kind of hard to shake. Thanks for making me feel better about it!
07/09/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
I used to say I do not follow anybody, but changed my mind after I became friends with another EFer. Just do whatever suits you, no one will pick on you.
Follow Rossie. I do. And she's never disappointed me yet. Only she is lying. I pick on everyone.

Meh. You know what?

Anyone who claims they've not changed lies. You grow, cells divide and die, your hair grows, your skin colour changes this time of year... everyone changes. And so does your opinion and ideas over time.

Who cares if you once said you'd not follow anyone, you've learnt that it is sometimes better to follow people. But not like a sheep or a llama mind you.

And with the way the Forums go faster than lightning???? Chances are, most people never even read that thread. I know I hadn't.

So don't worry about it!!!!!
07/09/2012
Contributor: LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
Quote:
Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
If you change your behavior on the forums, do you worry about what other people will think? For example, I've been thinking about following some contributors who interest me, but I've previously said that I make it a point to not follow ... more
post whatever the fuck you feel like or want to say, this is a open 18+ site so everyone should be pretty mature here. I love a lot of the post and questions here.
07/09/2012
Contributor: Llahsram Llahsram
No one cares. Go with the flow.
07/09/2012
Contributor: LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
Quote:
Originally posted by LilLostLenore
post whatever the fuck you feel like or want to say, this is a open 18+ site so everyone should be pretty mature here. I love a lot of the post and questions here.
I've learned a lot from this site.
07/09/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
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Originally posted by Llahsram
No one cares. Go with the flow.
Seconded. People change so you shouldn't fret over something so minor; life's too short for that, hun.
07/09/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
That's something very small, so I wouldn't worry about that. If your 'life story' wasn't consistant, that might be a problem!
07/09/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
Change can be a sign of growth... Who cares what some people think...“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” ~ Dr. Seuss
07/09/2012
Contributor: Melan!e Melan!e
Nope. Go for it. Don't worry about what anyone will think. Speaking for myself, I won't judge.
07/09/2012
Contributor: Princess Zelda Princess Zelda
We wouldnt be human if we didnt change our minds at one point or another. Go for the follow its not going to bite unless you ask
07/09/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Go ahead and follow someone if you want to, it doesn't matter what you said before, because we all change our minds.

Have a great day!
07/09/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
People change their minds all the times. If you want to follow someone go on and do it. We have all said things that we would not do and have done.
07/09/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
We all grow and change, go with what feels good to you. This means in all ways not just following.
07/09/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
If you change your behavior on the forums, do you worry about what other people will think? For example, I've been thinking about following some contributors who interest me, but I've previously said that I make it a point to not follow ... more
You're allowed to change your mind or adapt an opinion.
07/09/2012
Contributor: duff duff
Nope
07/09/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Agreed with everyone. Opinions and points of view continue to change over time. After all, some of us wanted to be ballerinas or astronauts when were kids - but fortunately our aspirations changed over time, because we aren't those things today.

Life's too short - do what you want to do!
07/09/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
If you want comedy, you should have seen me flip-flop between meeting a partner online and not meeting anyone from online - all in one thread.

Really, it doesn't matter - do what makes you happy as long as no one gets hurt.

PS - Pet the llama. You'll feel better.
07/09/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
If you did not change and grow--that would be the time to worry. A lot of the time in the earliness of being on EF, we say and do things much differently than we do after some experience and time on the site. do what you want, if anyone asks, tell them it is a great thing to grow and progress on the site.
07/09/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
Just chiming in to agree. It is a sign of maturity to look at yourself and decide you would like to do something differently! Go for it!
07/09/2012
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Dude, pet the llama. It's fuzzy.

And follow the llama, too; it knows all the cool hidey holes.


If we think you're weird for following the llama, well I guess we aren't cool enough to begin with.
07/09/2012