Ever have your family not like your significant other?

Ever have your family not like your significant other?

T&A1987 T&A1987
And if so, what happened? Did you tell your SO? Defend them to your family? Ignore it and hope it went away? Waited for your family to die? A lot of it probably depends on both the virtue of their criticisms and how serious the SO's problems are, a lazy SO is less important than an abusive one for example. Still, it can't be easy when it feels like there has to be a choice between family and a long term SO. This happen to anyone?
09/30/2012
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T&A1987 T&A1987
Also, the title should say "had" not have, sorry.
09/30/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
In the past, yes. Of course I took up for him and thought they were all wrong and didn't like him just to spite me. Turns out, I should have listened to them. I'm glad my family likes my fiance.
10/01/2012
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Yes, and my family had very good reason to.
10/01/2012
HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
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Originally posted by T&A1987
And if so, what happened? Did you tell your SO? Defend them to your family? Ignore it and hope it went away? Waited for your family to die? A lot of it probably depends on both the virtue of their criticisms and how serious the SO's problems ...
My mother took me out of her will completely and has left it to my children. I don't care about most of it but she has something that belonged to my grandmother on my fathers side as well as her wedding china my father got her. My father and grandmother are both gone and that is all that is left to remember them by. When she told me I started to cry and asked,"why would you do this to me? I am your only child." Her reply was short and sweet and simply said,"Because your married to him." I would curse but I wouldn't help anyone and I still love her. My kids have promised that I can have it because they overheard the conversation. The little sneaks were listening and heard my hushed cry as well as her reply. They said they felt she is being cruel. I taught them right I guess.
10/01/2012
K101 K101
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Originally posted by T&A1987
And if so, what happened? Did you tell your SO? Defend them to your family? Ignore it and hope it went away? Waited for your family to die? A lot of it probably depends on both the virtue of their criticisms and how serious the SO's problems ...
No, not really, not my current partner. He's actually the ONLY male they've ever not despised though. LOL. Guess they had excellent senses though because they were always 100% right when they disliked a guy I brought home -- which was every guy I brought home except my current SO. We got together 6 years ago, I was only 15 and I brought him home after about a week of seeing each other, maybe less. My parents were kind to him, but didn't necessarily know him well enough yet. They could tell he was better than others though.

Thank God my family and my SO are close! Seriously, it'd be really hard if not. I haven't ever had a male's parents like me, but his dad and I really like each other. My dad and my partner are good buddies actually, in fact, the two of them went to my parnter's dad's house tonight to "hang out" LOL! I like that though. Currently my dad is teaching my SO to play the guitar. What a fun sight!

Back before we got together, I was only 15, so it was natural not to have any guys who my parents liked, but again, they were right in their decisions. I wasn't ever treated kindly at all by any other boyfriend besides my partner. How did I handle it when my parents didn't like the boys I was dating? Well, it was really different because I was only a kid, so any advice or suggestions wouldn't be useful for an adult.

However, my parents wouldn't fight or be too rude to anyone I brought home, but they were not kind at all.

It would be miserable to have family who were just downright hateful or rude to you and your SO. I don't know how I'd deal really. There've been times when my dad wasn't really all about my partner, but that was in the beginning and hell, my dad hasn't always been "all about" me either at times. Lol.
10/01/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Once with an ex. My mom hated him because he was an ass and pretty stupid on top of that. She and I had a fall out over it, but after I realized she was right the whole time and broke it off with him we were fine.

She's loves my husband, but gets annoyed with him sometimes. I have to defend him when she gets on him about certain traits of his. Nothing bad enough to cause issues.
10/01/2012
ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by T&A1987
And if so, what happened? Did you tell your SO? Defend them to your family? Ignore it and hope it went away? Waited for your family to die? A lot of it probably depends on both the virtue of their criticisms and how serious the SO's problems ...
My mother's slightly racist, and my family as a whole is difficult. If they don't like someone, it's usually a good sign.
10/01/2012
WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I've only had one significant other (hubby) and I'm fortunate that my family loves him
10/01/2012
GONE! GONE!
It's happened. It wasn't an issue for long, we broke up.
10/02/2012
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