Have you experienced catty women on Eden?

I've never seen anyone post anything rude or 'catty', though I haven't been active for very long. I think it can be hard for people to gauge how their posts come across to others though. Always remember that tone can be hard to convey on the internet!

i haven't noticed much catty-ness here. maybe thats just because im male and oblivious, lol

I agree with what everyone said about taking things out of context.. I also agree that there are jerky people everywhere, no matter where you go, but there are also super great people where ever you go. I just try and stick with the nice people : )

I haven't come across it. So far I have actually been impressed with peoples positivity and nonjudgement.

I have not noticed this... at all actually.

For sure. I just stay away from them.

I know that I am on of those catty women that some are referring to. I try not to come off this way, but when you ask for something I just give it to you straight. If you can't handle it, you should not ask for input or advice from just anyone. If you are asking for open advice you are asking for all kinds of input.

The only issue I have on this site is when forum threads get malicious. Yes people take things the wrong way, yes context is often lost over the internet, but that is no reason to be snappy and rude. If you think someone has taken something you've said in the wrong way, then you should message them and clear it up instead of resorting to being rude or spiteful. Catty may be the wrong word, I don't know. If I find a thread bothers because of what people are saying, I generally don't say anything and just leave the thread. I refuse to let others ruin my fun on Eden.

I don't see the point of being catty or mean on a sex toy community...i mean, it's all about being open and accepting here right?

I can honestly say that everyone I've encountered here on EF has been incredibly kind.

idk if catty is the word I would use but I do believe some people are extremly opinionated and believe there opinion should be heard and is better then others. Ive also noticed some women think because they have more experince and have been on here longer that that makes them intilted to always voice their opinion even when its not asked for. overall though i think most people have been great.

I have not come across one of these people yet, but now I'm scared ha ha

I have not come across one of these people yet, but now I'm scared ha ha

I, er, thought that some previous employees were amazingly catty. Can I say that here?

Nowadays, I bet some people might consider me catty or just super critical. The latter is pretty true. I'm just set in my ways. I have expectations. -shrugs-

The thing is, EF already is a pretty positive community -- that's a good thing -- but people have to remember that no matter where a group of people mingle, there's going to be friction, let's call it. If you expect absolutely zero friction, you're going to wind up frustrated or hurt when it does arise -- and it will. I'm not saying people should go out of their way to be hurtful, but I do think that people need to keep their sensitives in check, not just here but in every aspect of life. Otherwise you're always going to be hurt. =/

Awe thanks to the ladies who commented back to me. I appreciate that you don't think I am catty. I really try not to be, but like previous posters have mentioned your voice of how things are expressed is easily lost on the internet.

AFAIK, there has been no change in the past 2 years in how to become an Advanced Reviewer.

As for expressing one's opinions, of course why wouldn't one express their opinions, as well as quote facts? It's the way to make a point. A lot of us have opinions, just because one can express oneself well, and make good arguments doesn't meant they think their opinions are "better" (whatever that means.)

As for "expressing opinions where they weren't asked for" Uh, this is an open forum. If someone starts a thread, or expresses an opinion, or asks for "help" with a personal problem, everyone on the forum has every right to respond. There is no such thing as a thread only meant for "some" people. (Or only people who are going to tell the OP what he or she wants to hear.)

I think that when in the world of internet forums are taken as a whole, Eden is pretty kind and thoughtful. I also think that as I was, years ago, told to do on an other forum, people may want to try to grow a thicker skin. (I HAD to, as I was a Moderator. So, I did. Life is much better when one doesn't see "offense" in every statement others make.)

Words don't always come out in print the way they sound in speech. Some people are simply more assertive than others, it's that way in real life, as it is in internet forums.

I actually find the whole idea that one takes offense to some "people who state their opinions where they aren't wanted" a strangely unusual thing to talk about on an OPEN internet forum. If I want something to stay PRIVATE, I don't post it on an internet forum. If I ONLY want to talk to one person about something, I either PM them or send them my email and we can talk privately.]

If it's really private, I don't take it to the internet at all.

If one posts a problem they are having with the statement "What can I do about this?" then ALL on the forum are allowed to chime in.

I'm one of those people who are not afraid to speak to others, nor their opinions. As well, I state my opinions the way I see them, most usually based on reason, thought and fact. What terrible place Eden would be if we all had to walk on eggshells around each other all the time.

Also, many issues go beyond "opinions" and require facts to be clarified. Using facts to prove a point or clarify an issue is what educated, intelligent people do to speak, debate and communicate.

I find those who rely only on "feelings" and don't let fact intrude on their opinions or decisions extremely difficult to deal with. But, they do exist. (Knowing you can have your own opinions but you can't have your own facts.) I was raised in an Academic family (my father was a University professor and my mother was a technical writer) and in my house, you had better be able to back up your comments and ideas with facts and figures! When I got to college, the same way of communicating was taken even more seriously. Emotions are good, but only when they are tempered by also including objective intellect, as well.

It's the way many people think and communicate with others. It's effective and workable. Many of us operate on more data than just "how I feel" about things a good portion of the time.

I honestly think this entire thread is a bit of a challenge to a lot of the long time posters, who have no problem stating their opinions. (As we've, for some reason, been singled out more than anyone else. It doesn't bother me, personally, but is it the right tact to take?)

I think one needs to perhaps go to the person who you perhaps didn't understand and ask them to clarify their comments, if you are confused. Rather than starting and adding to a "nobody in particular" is whom this thread is about POV.

I find it a bit passive/aggressive to start or add to this thread from the "some people are too opinionated, but I don't mean anybody in particular" when directly talking to the person in question would be much more honest and yield better results.

As Beck said; many of us voice our opinions to protect something we value. Eden is a fair and kind community, and the entire passive/aggressive taste to this thread is a bit concerning.

Catty? No, honest. Honesty is the best policy. Tip toeing around an issue never changed anything.

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