Have you experienced catty women on Eden?

Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by P'Gell
AFAIK, there has been no change in the past 2 years in how to become an Advanced Reviewer.

As for expressing one's opinions, of course why wouldn't one express their opinions, as well as quote facts? It's the way to make a point. ... more
Honesty is the best policy. It's all in the words you choose to express your opinions with that define the differences between being opinionated and harsh and just being opinionated.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
"Never assume contempt when incompetence will answer." This is the razor by which I survive this thing called life.

Sometimes people don't mean to be rude, but without vocal intonation, the written word can craft its own voice.

But, I also share with you this excerpt from The Big Kahuna.

"Larry is an honest man."
"Is he honest, or is he just blunt?"
"There are people in this world, Bob, who are honest. And yes, there are also people in this world who are blunt. But being blunt doesn't mean you are honest. Larry is one the few people who is blunt because he is so honest."

I do believe that you meet people in life who are are honest, and blunt is the voice they use to express their honesty. But, there are also people you meet who are blunt because they hope you will believe they are also being honest. It's up to you to determine which person you are dealing with, and you have the freedom to decide how much their opinions, honest or otherwise, should affect you.

A wise man once said, "The truth must be protected by a bodyguard of lies."

The way I look at this very wise and very eloquent man's idea is, you can be honest, and truthful, but sometimes it is best to soften the blow of truth and honesty with a cushion of delicate lies. Truth is not an all-knowing, all-encompassing thing. Nor are lies a blackened sin that must be considered reprehensible at all times. Sometimes they are the necessary armor for your honesty and your audience.

The truth, and people's feelings, are delicate and fragile things. Perhaps not speaking one's mind to its most basic core, but crafting honesty in a way that will truly affect someone is better than sending it screaming at them like a baseball bat to the head. Break the audience, and you no longer have an effect on whom you choose to impart your honesty.

Find balance, and understanding for these fragile things called people, and you can affect the world while you keep all the world from affecting you.

Just my humble opinion.
04/03/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I think sometimes I can interpret things more than what they meant.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I'm super sensitive and sometimes I read emotions into things when they aren't there. I'm a little paranoid and hate making waves, but after awhile I've noticed most people don't mean really any harm.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Jaimes
"Never assume contempt when incompetence will answer." This is the razor by which I survive this thing called life.

Sometimes people don't mean to be rude, but without vocal intonation, the written word can craft its own voice. ... more
That was well put!

I like to speak my mind and watch my words generally, but there are times when I forget.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
I don't consider myself catty... definitely part of the "nothing nice to say" clan. Thankfully I haven't had any experiences with catty people either
04/05/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Nope, I haven't seen it. It's hard to determine tone over the internet. When I see a comment that could be construed as "catty" I try to think about how the same words might sound in person. They could be trying to be helpful or be funny sometimes.
04/05/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
What change?
I read that voting in used to be different. I'm not really sure about all the details, but I only joined in January. They were saying that most of them had to go through the mentor program and have higher rankings or something along those lines.
04/05/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
AFAIK, there has been no change in the past 2 years in how to become an Advanced Reviewer.

As for expressing one's opinions, of course why wouldn't one express their opinions, as well as quote facts? It's the way to make a point. ... more
Hmm. Like I said, I've only been a member since January, but I've read so much about how the new members are treated differently. I'm actually shocked that there's been no change because that's what I was getting from a lot of the posts.
04/05/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
AFAIK, there has been no change in the past 2 years in how to become an Advanced Reviewer.

As for expressing one's opinions, of course why wouldn't one express their opinions, as well as quote facts? It's the way to make a point. ... more
Oh, and I have seen other threads about people being bullied. This thread is not about strong opinions. You can have a strong opinion and still voice it in a respectful manner.
04/05/2012
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
I have experienced catwoman on Eden. Mrow!
01/25/2013
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Real or memorex
I have experienced catwoman on Eden. Mrow!
*purrrrrrrr*
01/25/2013
Contributor: misterazor misterazor
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Originally posted by ViVix
So, I really don't get too much flack. I think if I don't have anything nice to say, I usually just don't comment on this site. However, I have noticed some female reviewers who I would describe as making catty comments on just about ... more
i checked four of the six options. you can probably guess which ones...and i bet i can guess some names of catty people you are thinking of. i don't think they have any idea. this does not excuse the personality, nor does it make it less annoying...but, the world is filled with self-important, self-satisfied people. it goes back to how they were raised and the experiences they have had. pretty girls who get by on their looks, and are just horrible people...not so pretty girls who are bitter, and with relatively good reason...women with mothers who have no filter and fathers who treat them as if they can do no wrong...yada, yada. were you the person who made the comment about knowing the difference between opinion and fact? if so, stop reading my thoughts, would ya?
01/26/2013
Contributor: LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
I actually think I find a lot less catty ladies here over other places. But then I haven't really associated a whole lot with anyone. No friends. Q_Q lol
01/26/2013
Contributor: Living Doll Living Doll
I actually haven't noticed this on Eden. In fact, when I first joined I immediately noticed that the women here seemed a lot less catty than on some other sites I have experience with.
01/26/2013
Contributor: Rory Rory
Everybody here has been nice to me (so far).
01/26/2013
Contributor: kkizzee05 kkizzee05
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Originally posted by ViVix
So, I really don't get too much flack. I think if I don't have anything nice to say, I usually just don't comment on this site. However, I have noticed some female reviewers who I would describe as making catty comments on just about ... more
I think that sometimes people forget that emotions don't come across well through messages, texts, and whatnot so not only do they say something catty, but we also take it the wrong way and it is just bad all the way around.
01/26/2013
Contributor: falalena falalena
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Originally posted by ViVix
So, I really don't get too much flack. I think if I don't have anything nice to say, I usually just don't comment on this site. However, I have noticed some female reviewers who I would describe as making catty comments on just about ... more
i havent directly experienced it, but ive seen it on other peoples reviews and such.
01/26/2013
Contributor: Breas Breas
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Originally posted by LoooveMonkey
I actually think I find a lot less catty ladies here over other places. But then I haven't really associated a whole lot with anyone. No friends. Q_Q lol
I'll be your friend : )
01/26/2013
Contributor: amazon amazon
Some women can be that way
01/26/2013
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by amazon
Some women can be that way
All women can be that way, some of us are just better at it than others.
01/26/2013