I pose this question because at times, I have been confused about mixed signals. I was wondering how many have used the good old mix.
Have you said no and not really meant it?
03/14/2011
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I have always been caught. I always take peoples word at face value. If no is what was said, that's what I went by. Unfortunately, I missed out on things because of it. I can't read mixed signals at all!
03/14/2011
If I say, "NO" or use a safeword during a scene, I good and goddamn well mean it, and expect things to stop so fast my head spins.
People who say 'no' but mean 'yes' (except in the context where there is another word used to call a halt to the interaction) are people for whom I have no time, I expect people to say what they mean. I don't have time for games and that's a very dangerous game to play.
People who say 'no' but mean 'yes' (except in the context where there is another word used to call a halt to the interaction) are people for whom I have no time, I expect people to say what they mean. I don't have time for games and that's a very dangerous game to play.
03/14/2011
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I really have to applaud you for your solid convictions! I wish everyone would say what they really wanted. I agree, for some it is a dangerous game. My wife seems to be on solid ground. Thank You for your thoughts!
Originally posted by
DeliciousSurprise
If I say, "NO" or use a safeword during a scene, I good and goddamn well mean it, and expect things to stop so fast my head spins.
People who say 'no' but mean 'yes' (except in the context where there is another word ... more
People who say 'no' but mean 'yes' (except in the context where there is another word ... more
If I say, "NO" or use a safeword during a scene, I good and goddamn well mean it, and expect things to stop so fast my head spins.
People who say 'no' but mean 'yes' (except in the context where there is another word used to call a halt to the interaction) are people for whom I have no time, I expect people to say what they mean. I don't have time for games and that's a very dangerous game to play. less
People who say 'no' but mean 'yes' (except in the context where there is another word used to call a halt to the interaction) are people for whom I have no time, I expect people to say what they mean. I don't have time for games and that's a very dangerous game to play. less
03/14/2011
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I am sad and embarrassed to say that I think I have sent you mixed signals before. I guess I never really thought of how that could lead to trouble because I trust you, therefore if I really meant it- you would know the difference.
Originally posted by
markeagleone
I have always been caught. I always take peoples word at face value. If no is what was said, that's what I went by. Unfortunately, I missed out on things because of it. I can't read mixed signals at all!
I am now going to be more mindful of what I am doing/saying. I guess I fall into the trap of "I know what I am really thinking and so should you" when that really isn't the case. I need to make sure I keep on top of my assumptions and see it for what it really is.
I also give praise to Delicious Surprise for being open about her thoughts, it was one of the things that made me realize what I may be doing. The other being that you posted the question as I am sure it was not solely me you were talking about.
03/14/2011
when I am really tired. I say no because I am too tired to give it my best, even though I still want to do it.
03/15/2011
Im guilty of using mixed signals, specially when Im feeling playful. Thankfully my boyfriend knows me well enough when to know when Im flirting with him or when I really mean it.
My body language is usually a dead give away. If I say know, but Im close, even play fighting, it usually means yes.
A definite NO is when I distance myself. Like, "no thanks" and I walk to other side of the room.
My body language is usually a dead give away. If I say know, but Im close, even play fighting, it usually means yes.
A definite NO is when I distance myself. Like, "no thanks" and I walk to other side of the room.
03/15/2011
I said no once and got talked into it... does that count?
03/15/2011
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Yeah same. I don't think it counts, since you meant it initially?
Originally posted by
lezergirl
I said no once and got talked into it... does that count?
03/15/2011
I have used some mixed signals in the past when I was young. Not on a regular basis, but I have. I would never do that now though because I really don't think that games like that belong in a relationship.
04/17/2011
I use mixed signals, but my guy knows when I'm serious. I try to make it obvious with body language whether I really mean no.
04/17/2011
I do send mixed signals to my husband sometimes. It is part of my charm.
All kidding aside, we are very playful with each other and turnabout is fair play. I try not to do it unless he can see my face and hear the inflection in my tone or notice my flippant body language. And if for some reason, he still isn't picking up what I am laying down, then I just get blunt.
If I am being serious, then no there are no mixed signals. The difference between the two is very clear.
All kidding aside, we are very playful with each other and turnabout is fair play. I try not to do it unless he can see my face and hear the inflection in my tone or notice my flippant body language. And if for some reason, he still isn't picking up what I am laying down, then I just get blunt.
If I am being serious, then no there are no mixed signals. The difference between the two is very clear.
04/17/2011
I have sent mixed signals but only with close partners who knew I was playing hard to get. In a new relationship or with a stranger you are asking for trouble there.
04/17/2011
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I play hard to get sometimes...make him beg
Originally posted by
markeagleone
I pose this question because at times, I have been confused about mixed signals. I was wondering how many have used the good old mix.
04/17/2011
If I say "no", it's NO. Always.
04/19/2011
I always second guess myself.
09/13/2012
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I dont use mixed signals i hate head games.
Originally posted by
markeagleone
I pose this question because at times, I have been confused about mixed signals. I was wondering how many have used the good old mix.
09/13/2012
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That's true. My husband knows I can be talked into it sometimes, especially with a little massage thrown into the deal, but then, he's very responsive when I say "no" firmly. What I don't do is use mixed signals myself... I don't pretend not to be interested if I really am. That seems unfair.
Originally posted by
zeebot
Yeah same. I don't think it counts, since you meant it initially?
09/13/2012
I don't use mixed signals. But I think some people could perceive it differently and take it the wrong way.
09/13/2012
No always means no, and playing games is irresponsible at best.
09/13/2012
Once or twice, in the heat of things. But as a functional rule, no always means no.
09/13/2012
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i have from time to time
Originally posted by
markeagleone
I pose this question because at times, I have been confused about mixed signals. I was wondering how many have used the good old mix.
09/13/2012
Yes, when I as younger, and ashamed of sexual things. I've gotten much better at saying no only when I mean it and asking for what I do want.
09/13/2012
My grandmother is from Brooklyn and she taught me to be brutally honest. Not always a good thing, but it's how we are. Better than being southern about it and being fake.
09/13/2012
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I have used mixed singles
Originally posted by
markeagleone
I pose this question because at times, I have been confused about mixed signals. I was wondering how many have used the good old mix.
09/13/2012
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NO means no with me. I said no 6 yrs ago and i was raped. i filed police report. i didnt wanna do anything.
Originally posted by
markeagleone
I pose this question because at times, I have been confused about mixed signals. I was wondering how many have used the good old mix.
Hubby i do not say no to. if i dont wanna have sex i say so and he respects it
09/13/2012
I have said 'NO' and been ignored. My body may have been sending out mixed signals (I had several orgasms while I was being raped), but when I say no, I mean it. I'm not at fault for a biological response outside of my control.
09/28/2012
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