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Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Do you have gay friends that are your same gender?

ex: straight female/male -- gay female/male?

I have met people who will not befriend somebody solely based on theyre gender, not the fact that they are gay. I have seen many females will befriend gay men but will not speak to a gay women. Dont get me started on men. I am using the term "gay" vaguely, This includes all GLBT.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am female and...
52
I have gay female friends
33
I have gay male friends
32
I am a male and I...
21
have gay female friends
23
have gay male friends
27
I dont have any gay friends
6
other
6
Total votes: 200 (74 voters)
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Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
I meant to also include male friends in my vote, guess the mouse missed the box. Anyway, One of the most amazing friends I ever had is a lesbian. She is an amazing person and a great friend. My mom got a little bothered by it when I mentioned my friend was gay, she though that made me gay, which is ridicuous.

My mom has had gay male friends in the past but once I had a gay female friend she got a little crazy. I dont understand how she can place judgement like that.

I also have some amazing male gay friends. They are just the life of the party and so much fun to be around but I never got close to them like I did with her.

I also know lots of straight guys who are not judgemental at all, but there are soooo many who are. Its just stupid, we are supposed to be different.
05/02/2011
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
I'm a gay man, and admittedly most of my friends are girls or gay men. I haven't ever experienced any real rejection or prejudice from straight men, either though.
05/02/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
It's happenstance that I don't have any gay friends of either sex. We're pretty reclusive by nature and tend to keep to ourselves. I do have, excuse me did have, one friend I thought was a closeted lesbian and I have been involved in a same-sex relationship. When we were a little more active in the bar scene most of our friends were straight but that was due to the area.
05/02/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Actually, some of my favorite couples to hang out with are same-sex.
05/02/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Both types, no problem. We all have desires and loneliness and needs and hurts and loves ... it's not hard at all to connect and understand the fundamentals of being a human who needs love and affection.
05/02/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I have both male and female gay friends. But I do get judged at times for being friends with the girls.
05/03/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
At the current moment, my only gay friends are guys, but that's just how it worked out. One of my good friends we think might be a lesbian, but nobody's pushed anything because frankly, it's not really any of our business one way or the other. I wouldn't have a problem with having lesbian friends, I just seem to hang out with more gay men than women.
05/03/2011
Contributor: Mary-Anne-Xun Mary-Anne-Xun
Yes and I love them, there is NO problem.
05/03/2011
Contributor: sexyk515 sexyk515
yes
05/03/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
I have more homosexual friends then I do hetero.
05/03/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
If I like someone as a person, I don't care if they're male/female or gay/straight. If you get along and have things in common, be friends. It's hard enough to find good friends in this world without all the discrimination.
05/03/2011
Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
Quote:
Originally posted by Cream in the Cupcake
Do you have gay friends that are your same gender?

ex: straight female/male -- gay female/male?

I have met people who will not befriend somebody solely based on theyre gender, not the fact that they are gay. I have seen many females ... more
I live in Seattle and I like to think we are very accepting of gay people. I went to high school with people who are gay and they are awesome! Judging someone based on their sexual preference is stupid. Would you not be friends with someone who is overweight just cuz you are thin? People need to focus on getting to know the PERSON and not care who they would wanna kiss...
05/03/2011
Contributor: BluePixi BluePixi
I don't have any gay friends, but it is because I am highly introverted and simply don't have a large circle of friends. My older brother is gay and I had no problem with it, I just wish he hadn't moved 1500 miles away.
05/03/2011
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I won't vote because I'm not a heterosexual,
But I'm gay and I have straight friends.

I don't discriminate
05/03/2011
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I live in Seattle and I like to think we are very accepting of gay people. I went to high school with people who are gay and they are awesome! Judging someone based on their sexual preference is stupid. Would you not be friends with someone who is ... more
Exactly! I'm gonna be moving to seattle in a year or so. Good to hear its a gay-friendly place. (not that I expected any differently. It's kinda why I want to move there)
05/03/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I'm a guy, and I have gay friends and straight friends. If someone is fun to hang out with, why not?
05/03/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I won't vote because I'm not a heterosexual,

But I'm gay and I have straight friends.



I don't discriminate
Nice answer

I have at least some bi friends, but where I live not a lot of people come out, so I might not know. In any case,it's not really important to me.
05/04/2011
Contributor: k3 k3
Friends are friends are friends--hetero, homo, bi, or TG. xD
05/04/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I used to have several gay female friends, but we've lost touch since High school. I have gay male relatives though.
05/04/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
I do and we have some great talks sometimes
05/04/2011
Contributor: dv8 dv8
I'm straight but most of my friends are LGBT.
05/04/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
My best friend that I've known since we were about 11 is a gay man.
05/04/2011
Contributor: Lady Marmelade Lady Marmelade
and I am "the gay" friend too.
05/05/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I am a female and I have a lot of lesbian friends. I honestly think that I might possibly avoid gay men, rather than same sex. I don't do it on purpose. I respect everyone. I think it is more of what I grew up around. Half of my family is lesbian - no joke! I do have two gay male friends. One is apparently switching over to the bisexual side or something because he's "talking" to a girl right now.

Basically, I don't judge. I wouldn't like to be judged, so why the hell would I do it?
05/05/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
If I like someone as a person, I don't care if they're male/female or gay/straight. If you get along and have things in common, be friends. It's hard enough to find good friends in this world without all the discrimination.
Exactly.
05/07/2011
Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
Quote:
Originally posted by Cream in the Cupcake
Do you have gay friends that are your same gender?

ex: straight female/male -- gay female/male?

I have met people who will not befriend somebody solely based on theyre gender, not the fact that they are gay. I have seen many females ... more
2 of my friends in from high school (1 a guy, 1 a girl) both came out my freshman yr in college, & i still hang out w/ them. they're still the same people, they're just gay now.
05/11/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by GravyCakes
2 of my friends in from high school (1 a guy, 1 a girl) both came out my freshman yr in college, & i still hang out w/ them. they're still the same people, they're just gay now.
They aren't "just gay now" as if they weren't before; they're just choosing to express and make publicly known their sexual preference.

Sorry, I don't mean that offensively. I realize that some people do make "decisions" to live a certain lifestyle, even sometimes choose their sexual preference; but others don't. It's just who they are.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
Quote:
Originally posted by Cream in the Cupcake
Do you have gay friends that are your same gender?

ex: straight female/male -- gay female/male?

I have met people who will not befriend somebody solely based on theyre gender, not the fact that they are gay. I have seen many females ... more
i have lots of straight and gay friends. i don't love them for their sexuality, i love them for them
05/11/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I actually have quite a few gay friends.
05/15/2011