We've been fighting a lot lately. How often do you fight with your significant other & how long have you been married/dating/on-off again/other?
We fight...
We fight...
How often do you fight?
04/15/2012
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We've been married for over 4 years now and we fight WAYYYYYY too much. I don't know what is going on. It didn't used to be like this! I am just curious about other relationships and if you go in fazes, how does it stop? Any input helps!
04/15/2012
Iv'e been married for almost 22 yrs. now and the first 4 to 5 yrs we used to fight almost every other day, but as time went on , the fighting was less frequent. Today we hardly ever fight. I think in those first few years, we really got to know each other well and after awhile we just seemed to settle our differences between us and put them aside. Sure, we still get upset at each other at times, but we tend to mend them up as fast as possible because life really sucks when your holding a grudge to the person you love.
04/15/2012
We are pretty good with not fighting we both are very easy going people so we have been lucky we get along so well.
04/15/2012
Been married 5 years, basically have never had a fight. Snapped at him a bit yesterday, my fault though, hormones dont you know. That is usually the extent of our arguments.
04/15/2012
My first marriage fights were pretty common. Second time around I got it right - 22+ years and no significant fights to report.
Sorry to hear that you're having such trouble. Some actually think its normal - but what I think is normal is that you understand what's important to your partner - and he you - and you respect those important boundaries/attitudes, etc.
I hope you're able to work it out.
Sorry to hear that you're having such trouble. Some actually think its normal - but what I think is normal is that you understand what's important to your partner - and he you - and you respect those important boundaries/attitudes, etc.
I hope you're able to work it out.
04/15/2012
We've been married just over 20 years, and we rarely fight - usually it's over something stupid that just pisses me off
04/15/2012
Actually we haven't had any really bad fights, mostly it's just minor disagreements here and there.
That may change if we wind up living together someday but at least there's always the 'make up sex' I've often heard of in movies if we do wind up having a fight then. xD
That may change if we wind up living together someday but at least there's always the 'make up sex' I've often heard of in movies if we do wind up having a fight then. xD
04/15/2012
We have been together for 5.5 years, but married for 2. This might sound funny, but we are one of those couples who get along better fighting. We don't fight over anything that means anything, but fighting is our thing. We get over it, but still fight often. We fight 2-3 times a week at least. Sometimes not at all and sometimes everyday.
Sorry to hear about your fighting. I hope things get better for you.
Sorry to hear about your fighting. I hope things get better for you.
04/15/2012
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Same with us and we have been married for 15 and together for 18..
Originally posted by
Beck
We have been together for 5.5 years, but married for 2. This might sound funny, but we are one of those couples who get along better fighting. We don't fight over anything that means anything, but fighting is our thing. We get over it, but still
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We have been together for 5.5 years, but married for 2. This might sound funny, but we are one of those couples who get along better fighting. We don't fight over anything that means anything, but fighting is our thing. We get over it, but still fight often. We fight 2-3 times a week at least. Sometimes not at all and sometimes everyday.
Sorry to hear about your fighting. I hope things get better for you. less
Sorry to hear about your fighting. I hope things get better for you. less
04/15/2012
We have been married for 5.5 years and we fought almost everyday from August 2009 - 2011. We were about to call it quits, but instead we both decided to go to couples therapy to see if that would help. After all we have two daughters and were not ready to officially quit. We have been going to therapy for 8 months now and it has helped us so much on communication and understanding one another now. Our therapist had us read a book called "Getting the Love you Want" and boy did that open our eyes so much. I recommend it to everyone now. Remember it is ok that we disagree with one another it is just how we react to it and that is what therapy has help my hubs and I. Good Luck.
04/15/2012
I am single so this doesnt apply to me at this time.
04/15/2012
We've only been together a few months but I'm hoping it stays that way. We'll disagree but we've never had yelling match.
04/15/2012
We don't fight much at all, but I think that is because we don't live together or share finances. Without those major stressors to argue about there are very few things worth fighting for. We've only been together a year though so maybe it'll change in the future.
04/15/2012
I said we hardly ever fight. We've been together for almost 3 years. It's never really an argument, either. More like we disagree, we get angry, we go somewhere for a while (IE- he'll stay in the living room and play video games and I'll read a book in the bedroom or go to my sisters), then once we've cooled down we'll talk about it. We have maybe on big "argument" a year, usually over something stupid. Then we spend half night talking about why we were arguing and other little things that we've let "build up," find a solution to what ever problems may arise, and then snuggle up to a movie or have a romantic night (aka. awesome, amazing, sweet makeup sex!) Best advice I ever got: Always talk about things.
04/15/2012
We've been married for nineteen years and we never fight. There are times when we argue over something, but it's never serious enough to cause a fight.
04/15/2012
W/we never fight. I tell her what to do, and she appreciates it. If she didn't I would treat her differently, but that's what W/we both want. Guess she looks up at me, she tells me a lot how happy she is for my dominance and control, teaching her.
I couldn't live fighting with the woman I am with. I feel lucky I have found her! And I always do my best to make her happy in return for her obedience.
I couldn't live fighting with the woman I am with. I feel lucky I have found her! And I always do my best to make her happy in return for her obedience.
04/15/2012
I'd say we fight about once every week or so. It's hard not to when you live with a narcissist.
04/15/2012
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Exactly, I couldn't live with some fucker, fighting all the time, and I also don't find submissive males attractive at all! This is the way I LOVE living, and it gives me purrrrrrrrrrrrrfect satisfaction! And when there is something I don't like I try to do my best to stay patient, and communicate it somehow, how friggin shy I am... It's hard sometimes, but couldn't imagine any other ways of life for myself, this is just lovely as it is!!! ^^
Originally posted by
Master DarkWolf
W/we never fight. I tell her what to do, and she appreciates it. If she didn't I would treat her differently, but that's what W/we both want. Guess she looks up at me, she tells me a lot how happy she is for my dominance and control, teaching
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W/we never fight. I tell her what to do, and she appreciates it. If she didn't I would treat her differently, but that's what W/we both want. Guess she looks up at me, she tells me a lot how happy she is for my dominance and control, teaching her.
I couldn't live fighting with the woman I am with. I feel lucky I have found her! And I always do my best to make her happy in return for her obedience. less
I couldn't live fighting with the woman I am with. I feel lucky I have found her! And I always do my best to make her happy in return for her obedience. less
04/15/2012
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Thank you for this answer. I needed it!
Originally posted by
mlmac
Iv'e been married for almost 22 yrs. now and the first 4 to 5 yrs we used to fight almost every other day, but as time went on , the fighting was less frequent. Today we hardly ever fight. I think in those first few years, we really got to know
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more
Iv'e been married for almost 22 yrs. now and the first 4 to 5 yrs we used to fight almost every other day, but as time went on , the fighting was less frequent. Today we hardly ever fight. I think in those first few years, we really got to know each other well and after awhile we just seemed to settle our differences between us and put them aside. Sure, we still get upset at each other at times, but we tend to mend them up as fast as possible because life really sucks when your holding a grudge to the person you love.
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04/16/2012
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Thanks for you honest answer. I know we will, just a bad, stressful funk, ya know?
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
My first marriage fights were pretty common. Second time around I got it right - 22+ years and no significant fights to report.
Sorry to hear that you're having such trouble. Some actually think its normal - but what I think is normal is ... more
Sorry to hear that you're having such trouble. Some actually think its normal - but what I think is normal is ... more
My first marriage fights were pretty common. Second time around I got it right - 22+ years and no significant fights to report.
Sorry to hear that you're having such trouble. Some actually think its normal - but what I think is normal is that you understand what's important to your partner - and he you - and you respect those important boundaries/attitudes, etc.
I hope you're able to work it out. less
Sorry to hear that you're having such trouble. Some actually think its normal - but what I think is normal is that you understand what's important to your partner - and he you - and you respect those important boundaries/attitudes, etc.
I hope you're able to work it out. less
04/16/2012
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We disagree, rather than fight. I constitute fighting as full blown yelling/screaming/slam ming stuff around/throwing things or getting physical. Firstly, if my husband so much as raised a hand to me, he'd be packin' his shit and I'd be filing. I don't play that game and he knows it. Same with me, I wouldn't expect him to stay around if I got abusive.
Originally posted by
Kissy
We've been fighting a lot lately. How often do you fight with your significant other & how long have you been married/dating/on-off again/other?
We fight...
We fight...
As for how often: I would say that theres a few times a week that we usually get into it, disagreeing or getting a bit loud. Usually it lasts for a few minutes and I will say "Ok, ya know what? We need to cool off, you go do something I'll go do something" and we walk away from the situation. Few minutes later we'll come back and discuss whatever it is. Nothing gets resolved when you both are in a heated moment, so we both have to cool our heads before we can be rational. After that, we usually agree or agree to disagree and move on from it.
04/16/2012
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Oops, forgot to put: We've been together for 3 years and married for almost one. We have three kids (1 together and 2 from my previous marriage). If you were wondering about relationship status/type
Originally posted by
MamaDivine
We disagree, rather than fight. I constitute fighting as full blown yelling/screaming/slam ming stuff around/throwing things or getting physical. Firstly, if my husband so much as raised a hand to me, he'd be packin' his shit and I'd be
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more
We disagree, rather than fight. I constitute fighting as full blown yelling/screaming/slam ming stuff around/throwing things or getting physical. Firstly, if my husband so much as raised a hand to me, he'd be packin' his shit and I'd be filing. I don't play that game and he knows it. Same with me, I wouldn't expect him to stay around if I got abusive.
As for how often: I would say that theres a few times a week that we usually get into it, disagreeing or getting a bit loud. Usually it lasts for a few minutes and I will say "Ok, ya know what? We need to cool off, you go do something I'll go do something" and we walk away from the situation. Few minutes later we'll come back and discuss whatever it is. Nothing gets resolved when you both are in a heated moment, so we both have to cool our heads before we can be rational. After that, we usually agree or agree to disagree and move on from it. less
As for how often: I would say that theres a few times a week that we usually get into it, disagreeing or getting a bit loud. Usually it lasts for a few minutes and I will say "Ok, ya know what? We need to cool off, you go do something I'll go do something" and we walk away from the situation. Few minutes later we'll come back and discuss whatever it is. Nothing gets resolved when you both are in a heated moment, so we both have to cool our heads before we can be rational. After that, we usually agree or agree to disagree and move on from it. less
04/16/2012
I bicker with my husband almost constantly. We've been together nearly five years.
04/16/2012
Me and my significant other squabble over insignificant things that are awful silly, so I suppose often, but we don't really have any serious fights, only insignificant fights over board games blown out of proportion every two or three months.
04/22/2012
We have been together a little under a year but we have known eachother for YEARS we don't fight really just arguments over pointless stuff
05/17/2012
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We've been together about 7 months. Hardly ever fight because when I get mad, I just take some space for a few days, and then we are fine.
Originally posted by
Kissy
We've been fighting a lot lately. How often do you fight with your significant other & how long have you been married/dating/on-off again/other?
We fight...
We fight...
07/15/2012
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