I know you are seriously embarrassed, but honestly, his parents already know or assume you are having sex. You are college age, home with him for the summer and most women have sexy and hot underwear and lingerie. His mom obviously has had sex--your boyfriend would not be here otherwise, and probably has either masturbated or played around with a toy or several.

Laugh, say a girl has to have a few secrets or Victoria would have never been in business and wait for the next family member's snafu to take its place. I promise, this will blow over and your life will not be destroyed, just a bit pink from embarrassment.

I really feel for you--but by the end of summer it will either be forgotten or you will be able to laugh about it and shrug--taking away all the reaction people look for when teasing you.

I am genuinely sorry to hear that. First off, I want to offer you my best wishes. It may be a difficult situation, but just remember that you are an adult and completely entitled to your sexuality, and most importantly, your privacy. What this guy did is deplorable. He is undeniably a thief and a creep; his actions are indefensible and you should feel no shame.

I imagine that your boyfriend will stand by you, and it's the sort of thing that his family should be understanding about.

Quickly! The most important thing to do in this sort of situation is to PAAANNNIIIICCCC!!!!

Just kidding, you should actually do the opposite. Although I understand how you feel, just relax. I believe that since it is your property with your personal information, you should confront him, and tell him you will tell the police if he doesn't return it. Legally he has no right to take it, and it has your name clearly on it, so yeah it would kinda be hard for him to claim they're his.

Not much you can do about him telling the family, but at least he'll no longer have the packing slips as proof and you could just calmly call him a liar every time he claims he saw it. Even if that technically makes you the liar.

Good luck.

Honestly, unless they are major religious buffs, I don't think you have anything bad to worry about. I was the same way and I made sure to hide all my things. I left a vibe in an overnight bag and for some reason my mom came into my room and got in it looking for laundry and found it! We always joke around and act stupid but never discuss personal sex lives EVER, except for the time I went on birth control. For God only knows why, she seriously said something to me about it!! I wanted to die. She asked me what that "big pink thing" in my bag was. I was SO mortified. I said my fiance got it for me and I don't like it and I don't know what to do with it so I stuck it in there. I'm pretty sure she knows whats going on now since I get packages and I'm currently seeking a job (so no income). I try to get them before she gets up but sometimes that doesn't work out. She has never asked me about what is in the box. Well she did one time and I lied and brought out bath and body stuff and said I review things for this "girly" site.

I know my fiance's mother knows. I was being stupid one day, I mean really immature and he got mad at me. Before the whole EF thing started with us, I found a purple jelly masturbator in his drawer and I was acting stupid, teasing him with it, I won't go into detail because it was so immature lol. But he got mad and grabbed it and ripped it in two and tossed it across the room. No one picked it up. When we left and came back later, it was in his sock drawer.....yeah, his mom saw it. She never said anything though. I'm pretty sure she saw a vibe in my bag too. Oh well.

There is nothing to be ashamed of though, you have your boyfriend's support. You'll be okay. Unless something is said, just act like it never happened. Even when my mom confronted me, I still played a little stupid and innocent. I keep clitoral vibes in one of my drawers, they are all in a storage bag but I just have a feeling she has seen them. I don't care at this point.

Thanks so much for your support. I am not really so embarrassed because he found it. I could easily live with it if I knew he saw it and didn't care. But because he took the slip I feel like that's proof he wants to use it in a way that will affect me badly. I know his family is going to make fun of me behind my back for it if he tells them... They don't like me much (at all, really. Just because I'm dating the least liked member of their family) and they're all rich so I'm kind of a joke to them. Plus, 20 year olds don't get the courtesy other people get. If he'd found that with somebody's mother's name on it nothing would ever be said.

I can't really say he was stealing anything because no one will side with me on that. The box was next to the trash and the owner of the house gave him the door code and permission to enter. I have no footing in that battle.

And I don't want to say anything to him about it because that would be acknowledging that he has something sensitive. Bullies love it when you care. I've only met him a couple of times, so saying something would definitely seem out of place. I keep trying to delude myself into thinking he just wanted the slip so he could check out EF and buy things /:

I'm thinking the best course of action is to just lay low and avoid his family for a long time. I just hope they don't all get drunk while I'm there and talk about it. That sort of thing happens. But it is easy to avoid them when I'm in college. Not so much his dad because he's my landlord. :/

That's weird and immature of him to hold on to it. Like someone else suggested, I'd maybe have your boyfriend ask him about it. Have you told your boyfriend?

Just talk to your boyfriend, see what he thinks about it.

I have told my boyfriend. He is on my side on this and agrees that the guy who took it was in the wrong. But there isn't anything he can do. He'll stand up for me if he needs to, but only if the situation presents itself.

Honestly, I say embrace it. You already said they don't like you and this will give them something to laugh about behind your back. Laugh it off and move on. Don't avoid the situation because they will know that you feel upset about it and will likely use it against you. As I said embrace it. I'd ask him in front of everyone if he still has the slip he took out of one of your boxes. This will catch him off guard. And let everyone in the room know that it said "crotchless panties" or whatever. If you bring it up and make it appear like it isn't a huge deal...no one will really have much to say about the subject. And he doesn't get the opportunity to use it against you because you beat him to the punch.

Wow that guy has no life.

He needs too be embarrassed for being a big old pervert you didn't do anything wrong..