OMG! Sweetheart, I am just so stunned by this, I can't think of what to say! Your message to us about cherishing every moment with your loved ones does not sound any different than what you have been telling everyone all along, so please take some comfort in the fact that you DID try to do all that, probably more than anyone else any of us know. I remember just a few weeks ago when we chatted about how coming close to death changes your perspective. I know you probably thought after your cancer scare that your road would finally smooth out. I sure did. I am just floored to have read this happened!

Just from all I've read that you've posted on here, I have no doubt you gave your all to your marriage; it was abundantly clear and no one can doubt that, so please don't you! Your husband knew how much you loved him because you always showed him and told him. Heck, you spent a lot of time together going to jobs with him just to be together. I absolutely believe you packed a lot of living into your time together and thank God you did. It's a horrific shock, but I don't think you could really have done better had you know when he would pass.

Take some comfort in all the people you have spread your wise words to and helped. You didn't just hold your love close, you shared your experiences and passed on the word to cherish those most important to you. I think of anything I remember most about you it's that message and about letting pettiness go, focusing on the important things. So maybe you won't be able to come back on Eden, I completely understand that, but you have already made such a contribution that you can be proud of. I wish we could help you but I fear this is a hurt so profound that nothing we have to say could truly comfort you. However, please come by if you are feeling up to it, just to let some of us know how you are! We don't just care about you for what you bring to the site, we care about you the person and how you are doing (well, I certainly do and I know a few others who do, too!).

I am available to talk to you about anything, even if you just want to talk about anything but what happened. I wish I had your phone number! I will PM you my number and even if it's the middle of the night, you can call me, OK? I don't hide from these things and the people who need support in their darkest moments, so don't hesitate to call if you need to. I don't know what else to offer you but that and of course my prayers for you and him both. I am rambling now because I can't process it all! Know there are plenty of people who love you and are praying for you. Thank you for telling us and not just disappearing. And thank you for sharing such valuable advice and giving us all a wake up call!

There are no words. Our deepest, heartfelt condolences go out to you. We hope and pray the memories of your good times together will hold your life together. You are so right, no one knows what the next moment will bring, but it never makes it fair or in any way easier to lose someone like this, at such a young age. You are a very special person to have turned the ultimate tragedy into a moment to remind us all to cherish those we love. May you find comfort in the many positive thoughts we know must be coming your way, even if people don't post. It is just something most people fail to know how to respond to.

first I am very sorry for your loss. I was a husband once. I had the talk with my wife. if something should happen to me. I told her how much I loved her and how special she was to me. I then told her this. to find a another good man and remarry. for her to be happy. all I asked was this. each year on the day of my passing that she would stop everything and stay home and remember our love and happiness but for her to move on and be happy. its not the talk I wanted but it was needed.
then later she left me.
I know its hard but everyone must have this conversation. with in the first week of marriage.
as a one time husband. your loving man would want you to be happy and remember him. its ok to morn him but don't let it stop you from your life.
he would not want that. he would want you to be happy. being happy is the best way to remember him. he would want that.
I send you my prayers and pray that god will bless you.
from my heart.

JS I am so sorry for your loss.

Just part of the service, ma'am I'm glad you were able to come back and read all the comments left for you! The nice thing is that there is always someone around here it seems. I am often on at all sorts of odd hours.

I'm glad you came back so you could see all the support offered. hugs

Thank you! You have been a great friend to me and your hugs are appreciated!!

WW--Thank you!!

We will never abandon a friend in need.

Due to legalities, I am unable to discuss the shooting. I am just praying for justice!

I am not strong, but am existing right now for my daughter and granddaughter. Everything is broken and lost, and the morning hours between 2 and 7 are the loneliest and scariest time of the day. I alternate between wanting to talk and just being alone with my thoughts...wishing I could talk about the tragedy.

Thank you for the support and care--I really need this right now. It seems that you find out who your honest, true friends are when these things happen...and they are NEVER who you think they are!!

Unfortunately, that last statement is the truth, isn't it? Well, I know KyotoAngel and when she says you can message her anytime day or night, you can. She's been a good friend to me even though our health keeps getting in the way of regular "hanging out" time. Of course, you can contact me, too I am glad you have somewhere to come to when you need a break. I think as some have mentioned on here, there are people who just don't know what to say, but I think it's a safe bet you have more people praying and thinking of you than you know.

This is very true, that last line.

The boy and I found that out when his truck broke down on us on our last couple's visit to the city! People who always wanted to party with him in Lincoln seemed to scatter when we needed the help.

Oh my goodness... I'm so sorry to hear this, hun. My greatest condolences to you. I'm sending all the positive energies I can muster to you, in hope they can provide you with some amount of comfort. I can't say I know how you feel, as one can never truly understand when another's heart has been taken from their chest. I can however, send love to help heal.

Lots of love to you, dear. Strength be with you <3

I do hope things are at least a little better for you, even if it is very very small.

I'm happy to see you here today. you are greatly loved & missed.