Pregnancy and Sex

Pregnancy and Sex

Chaeri2008 Chaeri2008
Ok well im 4 months pregnant and im no longer with the father. I met this guy but as soon as i told him i was pregnant he disappeared. Are all guys that way or should i just deal with it and be alone?
09/28/2010
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Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
I don't know, as I've never separated from DH..I've known many guys who have stepped into the picture with women who have children though. Timing of it they were never pregnant when they met.

I can imagine though that the guy was probably a bit shocked by the news and maybe got scared off. (For good? Temporary, who knows..)..
09/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I don't think you can say "all guys" do or think the same way. People are different and have different value systems. It has to do with that particular man's way of looking at things, and IMO, nothing to do with the fact that he is "a guy." Some people just don't want an other man's child, as part of their lives as soon as the relationship starts. By NO means do all men think this way.

I know a number of men who have raised step children and love them as their own. I wouldn't want someone saying "all women" do this or that, or all think the same. I think we owe men the same courtesy.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I am sure dating while pregnant is not going to be easy, but there are a lot of good men out there.

This is going to be a very busy year (and life) for you, pregnancy takes a lot out of you and infant care takes even more. As your pregnancy progresses you will probably focus more inward, and your thoughts will turn toward your child, and the idea of dating may not seem not that important until the rough first year of the baby's life is over. Your mileage may vary.
09/28/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'd suggest putting off dating for a while. When my first wife and I separated on the way to divorce. I didn't date for 1 year - it cleared my head of all the relationship baggage and allowed me to start fresh. I'm sure this approach is not right for everyone - but it's one sure way to avoid the 'rebound' relationship - most of which fail because they got started for the wrong reasons.

good luck...
09/28/2010
Alicia Alicia
I met my husband when I was pregnant by my ex. I didn't know it at the time though. Anyway, when I found out I told my now husband who at that time I had only been on one date with. He was totally fine with it, but I needed the time for me and broke things off for the time being. I actually had a few guys who wanted to date me while I was pregnant, all of them were very open to the idea and were even all planning things for after the baby was born..like one wanted me to go to his friend's wedding and was already researching babysitters and stuff. He was moving a bit too fast for me and I honestly wasn't even that interested in him, so I broke things off with him too. I started talking to my now husband over the phone and we started dating when my daughter was about three weeks old and we got engaged about 7 months later. The thing is not all men will be the same way. They need to be mature enough to handle it. It also depends on what you're looking for out of the relationship. Being pregnant and having a child I think makes people grow up and really think about what they want out of life.
11/05/2010
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